Confusion

I've always heard that women prefer that you be up front with your issues but the women/shwomen that are on the "live sex" don't seem to follow the norm. I mean, I've asked several shemales and females if I could blow a load in their shoes and they either banned me for 30 days or delted me. But on the other hand, there were a couple of shemales that were into it. Go figure.