Mike's Blog 22: The Professional Life
Unsurprisingly, ever since Blog 10 this has been one of the most requested topics. The problem with this has always been that I never never really knew what to write about this because as many questions this may have inspired from some users, most of them were either way to specific to write a Blog around or so generic that they could be answered in half a scentence, something i usually just did via p.m., so it was genuinely difficult to flesh this out in a way that made sense to me. My first idea was to just write down something that would amount to "a day in the life", basically giving you a general idea of my daily routine in the Club but that read mindnumbingly boring and it just wasn't enough for an entire Blog. Idea number 2 was to give you a recap of some of my more interesting encounters I had while I worked there but since I signed a contract saying, among other things, that I would not repeat anything from any specific session unless with the expressed consent of the sub involved, that was out as well. Instead, I'll be going over the Clubs in general because while re-reading some of the questions, I got the feeling that there are some general misconceptions there.
1) Sex Clubs VS. BDSM Clubs VS. Round Tables VS. Bordellos
I think this is where most confusion comes from as many either don't know the differences or think that there is none when in fact all 4 are distinct and different from one another. Now I'm not gonna explain what a bordello is but I'll say this much: Neither Sex Clubs nor BDSM Clubs are Bordellos in a strict sense, I'll get to the finer details in the second segment. A Sex Club or Swinger Club is basically what you would expect. Some charge a fee by the hour, some per night, others per month but for that fee you can use their rooms and facilities such as swimming pools, Saunas etc as well as their bedrooms which are sometimes even themed like the honeymoon suite, the cavemen suite, Draculas' Lair... all the stereotypes.
Those rooms tend to be equipped with a nice and robust bed, some Sofas and Couches, Shower and Bathtub... basically a nice little hotel room. What makes the experience different from a hotel though is the lobby where you can meet and socialize with like minded people. There tends to be some form of dress code, as in don't show up fully nude and at least put on some underwear and even though it's a sex club, there tends to be some form of no touching / no fucking etiquette. This is where you can meet other couples, maybe arrange for a partner switch or even get roped into a 3some, 4some situation if you are into it.
From personal experience I can tell that Clubs with a weekly/monthly fee tend to have a better clientele than the pay-per-fuck ones. The genuinely good ones tend to charge anywhere between 100-150 Euro/Pound/Dollar per month, I've even seen some that charge up to 250, but you will meet some very nice, open minded people there. Many couples visit those Clubs once per week, twice per month for their date night. It's a very chill, very relaxed type of environment and one I've always enjoyed.
A BDSM Club is basically the same, but specifically geared towards the needs of D/s Couples. I'll get to the finer differences, again, in section 2.
A round table on the other hand rarely involves sex in a direct matter. It's again what you would expect when hearing the name. It's just a group of like minded people meeting and having a good time. This can be at a Bar, at a Pub, even at a bowling alley or someone's garden and tends to be rather unspectacular, similar to when a model train enthusiast group meets somewhere. Sure there's a lot of “bondage talk” involved. Maybe someone tried out a new kind of toy and tells the others about it, but there also a lot of “Hey, how was your week?” , “Did you get that promotion?” and so on. It might sound unspectacular, but that's because it is.
2) BDSM Clubs and those who do/don't work there
This is where the real differences come in because you can categorize BDSM Clubs into 2 basic Groups. Those who do and those who don't have staff. Now those without staff are effectively the specially equipped Sex Clubs I talked about earlier and the majority I've come across tend to be privately run. Not that the ones with more staff tend to be run by corporations, though I'm sure some are, but these kinds of Clubs are often run by a married couple who, after years of looking for and not finding a Club for them, decided to open one themselves. Those Clubs usually have more of a familiar atmosphere about them. They often have a somewhat fixed clientele of 20-30 couples from the surrounding area that visit regularly. These Clubs have a lot of charm, despite the rooms often being less well equipped than the other type of Clubs. Broken equipment gets repaired instead of replaced and it's not like there's anything wrong with that but it does lead to a more rustic feel.
Clubs like this are not run to make a big profit but to give people an environment to live their and allow their founders to make a living off of it and once they generate enough money to do that, these Clubs have a tendency to be closed to new members unless recommended my an established member.
And then there are the kind of Clubs I used to work at. They are more professionally run, often with some sort of Lounge area to sit and enjoy cocktails brought to you by waiters, some even have a small kitchen. You can think of these more like a Spa than a Sexclub, which may be odd to hear at first given, well, the sex. But is it really? I personally know 4 couples that once or twice a month book a room at a nice Hotel and Spa, have a great day getting massages, eating nice food and once that's over with they go to their Hotel room and fuck each other senseless. The Club I used to work at was a place very much like that. Except almost every room was themed towards a specific type of Fetish/BDSM play. We had several “general purpose” rooms that were equipped with racks, benches, Crosses, a selection of toys and tools as well as a sturdy metal frame bed. Then there were more specialized rooms like our 2 medical suites, 3 Dungeons with a very dark, very grim atmosphere about them and several others.
Not everyone with BDSM tendencies is in a relationship though and this is where me and my colleges came in. Out Club used to employ 4 Doms and 3 Slaves and we were for hire, making us basically off-brand prostitutes and there is some truth to that. Although sex was rarely involved. We were hired so singles could live out their desires to either dominate or be dominated. Each of us 7 had their own “specialty” in regards to the services we provided, though not limiting ourselves to it. But, as an example, someone came to me interested in Breathplay. Before agreeing to do so, I'd first try to refer to a college of mine who was significantly more experienced in that than me. However if she insisted on me doing it, given that a certain amount of trust was required and she simply trusted me more, then of course I'd do it. We were bookable for chunks of at least 1 hour and additional 30min increments, provided BOTH parties were in agreement over what's supposed to happen within that timeframe and with no guarantee that it actually would. You can't imagine how often I had to ***** a payed for session because my customer wanted me to push her clearly too far.
This was a regular occurrence. Nothing daily but definitely weekly a sub wanted to try something new she was curious about and it just took her too far so I aborted. Health and safety, both physical and mental, are absolutely the highest priority.
As always, I'm looking forward to your questions and ideas as to what to discuss next.
Have a good one!
1) Sex Clubs VS. BDSM Clubs VS. Round Tables VS. Bordellos
I think this is where most confusion comes from as many either don't know the differences or think that there is none when in fact all 4 are distinct and different from one another. Now I'm not gonna explain what a bordello is but I'll say this much: Neither Sex Clubs nor BDSM Clubs are Bordellos in a strict sense, I'll get to the finer details in the second segment. A Sex Club or Swinger Club is basically what you would expect. Some charge a fee by the hour, some per night, others per month but for that fee you can use their rooms and facilities such as swimming pools, Saunas etc as well as their bedrooms which are sometimes even themed like the honeymoon suite, the cavemen suite, Draculas' Lair... all the stereotypes.
Those rooms tend to be equipped with a nice and robust bed, some Sofas and Couches, Shower and Bathtub... basically a nice little hotel room. What makes the experience different from a hotel though is the lobby where you can meet and socialize with like minded people. There tends to be some form of dress code, as in don't show up fully nude and at least put on some underwear and even though it's a sex club, there tends to be some form of no touching / no fucking etiquette. This is where you can meet other couples, maybe arrange for a partner switch or even get roped into a 3some, 4some situation if you are into it.
From personal experience I can tell that Clubs with a weekly/monthly fee tend to have a better clientele than the pay-per-fuck ones. The genuinely good ones tend to charge anywhere between 100-150 Euro/Pound/Dollar per month, I've even seen some that charge up to 250, but you will meet some very nice, open minded people there. Many couples visit those Clubs once per week, twice per month for their date night. It's a very chill, very relaxed type of environment and one I've always enjoyed.
A BDSM Club is basically the same, but specifically geared towards the needs of D/s Couples. I'll get to the finer differences, again, in section 2.
A round table on the other hand rarely involves sex in a direct matter. It's again what you would expect when hearing the name. It's just a group of like minded people meeting and having a good time. This can be at a Bar, at a Pub, even at a bowling alley or someone's garden and tends to be rather unspectacular, similar to when a model train enthusiast group meets somewhere. Sure there's a lot of “bondage talk” involved. Maybe someone tried out a new kind of toy and tells the others about it, but there also a lot of “Hey, how was your week?” , “Did you get that promotion?” and so on. It might sound unspectacular, but that's because it is.
2) BDSM Clubs and those who do/don't work there
This is where the real differences come in because you can categorize BDSM Clubs into 2 basic Groups. Those who do and those who don't have staff. Now those without staff are effectively the specially equipped Sex Clubs I talked about earlier and the majority I've come across tend to be privately run. Not that the ones with more staff tend to be run by corporations, though I'm sure some are, but these kinds of Clubs are often run by a married couple who, after years of looking for and not finding a Club for them, decided to open one themselves. Those Clubs usually have more of a familiar atmosphere about them. They often have a somewhat fixed clientele of 20-30 couples from the surrounding area that visit regularly. These Clubs have a lot of charm, despite the rooms often being less well equipped than the other type of Clubs. Broken equipment gets repaired instead of replaced and it's not like there's anything wrong with that but it does lead to a more rustic feel.
Clubs like this are not run to make a big profit but to give people an environment to live their and allow their founders to make a living off of it and once they generate enough money to do that, these Clubs have a tendency to be closed to new members unless recommended my an established member.
And then there are the kind of Clubs I used to work at. They are more professionally run, often with some sort of Lounge area to sit and enjoy cocktails brought to you by waiters, some even have a small kitchen. You can think of these more like a Spa than a Sexclub, which may be odd to hear at first given, well, the sex. But is it really? I personally know 4 couples that once or twice a month book a room at a nice Hotel and Spa, have a great day getting massages, eating nice food and once that's over with they go to their Hotel room and fuck each other senseless. The Club I used to work at was a place very much like that. Except almost every room was themed towards a specific type of Fetish/BDSM play. We had several “general purpose” rooms that were equipped with racks, benches, Crosses, a selection of toys and tools as well as a sturdy metal frame bed. Then there were more specialized rooms like our 2 medical suites, 3 Dungeons with a very dark, very grim atmosphere about them and several others.
Not everyone with BDSM tendencies is in a relationship though and this is where me and my colleges came in. Out Club used to employ 4 Doms and 3 Slaves and we were for hire, making us basically off-brand prostitutes and there is some truth to that. Although sex was rarely involved. We were hired so singles could live out their desires to either dominate or be dominated. Each of us 7 had their own “specialty” in regards to the services we provided, though not limiting ourselves to it. But, as an example, someone came to me interested in Breathplay. Before agreeing to do so, I'd first try to refer to a college of mine who was significantly more experienced in that than me. However if she insisted on me doing it, given that a certain amount of trust was required and she simply trusted me more, then of course I'd do it. We were bookable for chunks of at least 1 hour and additional 30min increments, provided BOTH parties were in agreement over what's supposed to happen within that timeframe and with no guarantee that it actually would. You can't imagine how often I had to ***** a payed for session because my customer wanted me to push her clearly too far.
This was a regular occurrence. Nothing daily but definitely weekly a sub wanted to try something new she was curious about and it just took her too far so I aborted. Health and safety, both physical and mental, are absolutely the highest priority.
As always, I'm looking forward to your questions and ideas as to what to discuss next.
Have a good one!
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