On terms like sissy or shemale
To begin, I'm not a sissy. I know that a lot girls describe themselves as sissies, and that's fine. It's their life, their identities, their fetishes and preferences and so on. I accept all of that and I don't judge anyone. Be whoever you want to be, describe yourself however you want. It's all good. So in that line of thinking, I describe myself first as a human being, and second, a person who also happens to be a T-girl. You can also consider me as trans, a CD, a TV, gender fluid... all of these apply to me equally, but if any of those don't work for you because of you view the world, whatever... it doesn't matter to me. But the sissy thing... it just doesn't work for me, and I'd really prefer to not be called a sissy or a shemale. Let me explain:
I'm not into being controlled by anyone or into forced feminization. I feminine enough all on my own. And try to control me and you'll discover pretty damn quickly how badly that will go for you. I'm not a submissive. I have, I suppose, passive tendencies, in that I like men who take charge in bed, but sometimes I don't.
I'm not into wearing chastity devices or denying myself any form of pleasure. The idea of locking away my penis is utterly alien to me. I'm not at all knocking those who do enjoy this, and I suppose they get pleasure in some way from it. But for me... no. Not my thing at all.
My sexual preferences have nothing at all do with my gender or my appearance. I don't need to be in "girl mode" to have sex with men. I will happily be with men even if I'm in boy mode. I am the same person regardless.
Dressing up is not a fetish for me. I like to be in girl mode because that is how I feel most comfortable and happiest. This is a life long thing for me. I've always identified more on the feminine spectrum, since I was about six-years-old. I knew I was born a male, but in my head I felt like a girl, even when I tried to be as boyish as possible. I like being as pretty as I can be, as feminine as possible. It resonates in me as part of my personhood.
I recognize that many people see t-girls solely as a sexual fetish objects. The porn industry helps drive that view, and honestly, I think porn is great. Without it, most of us would never discover who we are or what we like... Do keep in mind though that all of us are still people, including porn stars. We deserve to be treated as human beings -- all of us. I remember being around 12 or 13 and looking at super hard core porno mags, and in the back of those magazines were ads for other magazines. The ones that caught my attention were for T-girl porn. They used the word "shemale" or "chicks with dicks" with abandon. A few also used "transsexual." But even then, at 13, I never liked the word shemale. It seemed inapt and derogatory to me, but I was young and inexperienced, and I couldn't rationalize that well enough at the time or even my own gender incongruity. In fact, outside of the porn industry, shemale and "he-she" are almost always used as hateful slurs by those who despise t-girls. Some people also use "tranny" as a slur, but I actually love that word. It was a word that the trans community made for themselves decades ago. You are free to call me a tranny if you like, but I'd be happy if you refrained from calling me a shemale. If you wanna use that term to describe yourself, by all means, do so.
The fact that I'm a sexual person by nature doesn't mean that my sole existence is based on sex. I'm often super horny, I masturbate a lot to deal with that, but I'm also reasonably intelligent, reasonably erudite, reasonably conversant on most any topic. My sexual side is pretty big, I admit, but it does not drive my day-to-day life. Not that I haven't fantasized about lots of scenarios in which I'm a total slut and used by dozens of men every day all day long. I have! It's a fantasy though, and something like that is always going to be a fantasy. I mean, I'd definitely attempt to do a gang-bang or a bukakke party if I could ever arrange one... because I would like to explore the very limits and boundaries of my sexuality and I enjoy sex a lot. I would want to film all of that as well. But as many of you have learned when you message me, I don't talk a lot about sex, or what I'd like for you to do to me sexually. I talk about being real humans, and I ask you about the non-sexual stuff. Because that is also important to me. Who you really are, not just your sexual preferences and desires, matters a great deal to me. And it matters because that is how you and I are going to connect, and I need that connection in order to get with you sexually. Because:
I am primarily attracted to intelligent, caring, thoughtful and compassionate people of any gender, and having a bit of kink is fun and desirable, too. Physically, I find masculine men more pleasing to the eye when it comes to who I want to fuck me. But I also adore women, who I have envied my entire life and women also make the best kissers and cuddlers ever. I especially adore other T-girls for their beauty and braveness. I believe that T-girls are the most beautiful people on the planet. I really do believe that -- maybe I'm biased. Despite all of this, if you don't engage me intellectually, I'm not getting to get there with you. If you one-line me in a PM, it's deleted. Doesn't matter how hot you are, how big your cock is, guy or T-girl... if you can't write something decent, I'm outta there. So if I haven't replied to your messages, that might be one reason. Not the only reason, but certainly one of them.
As for xHamster's usage of "shemale" to describe all trans women, that irks me. I'd love to see different terms used here, but this is not my site, and I knew before I joined that this is how it is. I'm not offended by it; I simply wish the people who run this site would consider using other words or at the very least, provide more options for people like me to use instead.
I'm not into being controlled by anyone or into forced feminization. I feminine enough all on my own. And try to control me and you'll discover pretty damn quickly how badly that will go for you. I'm not a submissive. I have, I suppose, passive tendencies, in that I like men who take charge in bed, but sometimes I don't.
I'm not into wearing chastity devices or denying myself any form of pleasure. The idea of locking away my penis is utterly alien to me. I'm not at all knocking those who do enjoy this, and I suppose they get pleasure in some way from it. But for me... no. Not my thing at all.
My sexual preferences have nothing at all do with my gender or my appearance. I don't need to be in "girl mode" to have sex with men. I will happily be with men even if I'm in boy mode. I am the same person regardless.
Dressing up is not a fetish for me. I like to be in girl mode because that is how I feel most comfortable and happiest. This is a life long thing for me. I've always identified more on the feminine spectrum, since I was about six-years-old. I knew I was born a male, but in my head I felt like a girl, even when I tried to be as boyish as possible. I like being as pretty as I can be, as feminine as possible. It resonates in me as part of my personhood.
I recognize that many people see t-girls solely as a sexual fetish objects. The porn industry helps drive that view, and honestly, I think porn is great. Without it, most of us would never discover who we are or what we like... Do keep in mind though that all of us are still people, including porn stars. We deserve to be treated as human beings -- all of us. I remember being around 12 or 13 and looking at super hard core porno mags, and in the back of those magazines were ads for other magazines. The ones that caught my attention were for T-girl porn. They used the word "shemale" or "chicks with dicks" with abandon. A few also used "transsexual." But even then, at 13, I never liked the word shemale. It seemed inapt and derogatory to me, but I was young and inexperienced, and I couldn't rationalize that well enough at the time or even my own gender incongruity. In fact, outside of the porn industry, shemale and "he-she" are almost always used as hateful slurs by those who despise t-girls. Some people also use "tranny" as a slur, but I actually love that word. It was a word that the trans community made for themselves decades ago. You are free to call me a tranny if you like, but I'd be happy if you refrained from calling me a shemale. If you wanna use that term to describe yourself, by all means, do so.
The fact that I'm a sexual person by nature doesn't mean that my sole existence is based on sex. I'm often super horny, I masturbate a lot to deal with that, but I'm also reasonably intelligent, reasonably erudite, reasonably conversant on most any topic. My sexual side is pretty big, I admit, but it does not drive my day-to-day life. Not that I haven't fantasized about lots of scenarios in which I'm a total slut and used by dozens of men every day all day long. I have! It's a fantasy though, and something like that is always going to be a fantasy. I mean, I'd definitely attempt to do a gang-bang or a bukakke party if I could ever arrange one... because I would like to explore the very limits and boundaries of my sexuality and I enjoy sex a lot. I would want to film all of that as well. But as many of you have learned when you message me, I don't talk a lot about sex, or what I'd like for you to do to me sexually. I talk about being real humans, and I ask you about the non-sexual stuff. Because that is also important to me. Who you really are, not just your sexual preferences and desires, matters a great deal to me. And it matters because that is how you and I are going to connect, and I need that connection in order to get with you sexually. Because:
I am primarily attracted to intelligent, caring, thoughtful and compassionate people of any gender, and having a bit of kink is fun and desirable, too. Physically, I find masculine men more pleasing to the eye when it comes to who I want to fuck me. But I also adore women, who I have envied my entire life and women also make the best kissers and cuddlers ever. I especially adore other T-girls for their beauty and braveness. I believe that T-girls are the most beautiful people on the planet. I really do believe that -- maybe I'm biased. Despite all of this, if you don't engage me intellectually, I'm not getting to get there with you. If you one-line me in a PM, it's deleted. Doesn't matter how hot you are, how big your cock is, guy or T-girl... if you can't write something decent, I'm outta there. So if I haven't replied to your messages, that might be one reason. Not the only reason, but certainly one of them.
As for xHamster's usage of "shemale" to describe all trans women, that irks me. I'd love to see different terms used here, but this is not my site, and I knew before I joined that this is how it is. I'm not offended by it; I simply wish the people who run this site would consider using other words or at the very least, provide more options for people like me to use instead.
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