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BDSM CHECKLIST
This checklist can be filled out by a Sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play. Dominants may wish to work through the checklist, to get a better handle on their specific interests. Switches should go through the checklist twice; one persons Dom and Sub interests may be very different.
For each item, you need to provide two answers:
Experience
Have you had real time experience with the activity?
Indicate YES or NO next to each item. Write N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Willingness
Are you willing/open to try an activity?
For each item, indicate the degree to which you are willing to try that particular activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0-5 (see rating scale below).
If you write "no", it means you will not do that item under any circumstance (a hard limit). There is nothing wrong with indicating 'no' on an item. However, if you write 'no' next to every item, you should probably find another interest to pursue.... like knitting or basket weaving. *grin*
If you do not understand what an activity is, mark that item with a "?".
Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with your current sex partner(s), but not with casual play partners
Rating Scale
0 Utterly no desire to do that activity and don’t like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and ordinarily would object to
doing it, but you would permit the Dominant to do it if they really wanted it (sometimes called a soft limit)
1 Don’t want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn’t object it if was asked of you
2 Willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you
3 Usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/occasional basis
4 You like doing this activity and would like to experience it on a regular basis
5 Is a wild turn-on for you and you would like it as often as possible
Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Dom to know in the comments section.
There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the sub is the recipient/target of the activity
Activity Experience Willingness Comments
Respond YES/NO Rate according to scale described above
Age Play
Anal Sex
Anal Plugs (small)
Anal Plugs (large)
Anal Plug (public under clothes)
a****l Roles
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)
Aromas
Asphyxiation
Auctioned for charity
Ball Stretching
Bathroom use control
b**stiality
Beating (soft)
Beating (hard)
Blindfolding
Being Serviced (sexual)
Being bitten
Breast/chest bondage
Breath control
Branding
Boot Worship
Bondage (light)
Bondage (heavy)
Bondage (multi-day)
Bondage (public under clothing)
Breast whipping
Brown showers (s**t)
Cages (locked inside)
Caning
Castration fantasy
Catheterization
Cattle prod (electrical toy)
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)
Chains
Chamber pot use
Chastity belts
Chauffeuring
Choking
Chores (domestic service)
Clothespins
Cock rings/straps
Cock worship
Collars (worn in private)
Collars (worn in public)
Competitions (with other subs)
Corsets (wearing casually)
Corsets (trained waist reduction)
Cuffs (leather)
Cuffs (metal)
Cutting
Diapers (wearing)
Diapers (wetting)
Diapers (soiling)
Dilation
Dildos
Double Penetration
Electricity
Enemas (for cleansing)
Enemas ( retention/punishment)
Enforced chastity
Erotic Dance (for audience)
Examinations (physical)
Exercise (forced/required)
Exhibitionism (friends)
Exhibitionism (strangers)
Eye contact restrictions
Face Slapping
Fantasy Abandonment
Fantasy ****
Fantasy gang ****
Fear (being scared)
Fisting (anal)
Fisting (vaginal)
Flame play
Following orders
Foot worship
Forced bedwetting
forced dressing
Forced eating
Forced homosexuality
Forced heterosexuality
Forced masturbation
Forced nudity (private)
Forced nudity (around others)
Forced Servitude
Forced smoking
Full head hoods
Gags (cloth)
Gags (inflatable)
Gags (phallic)
Gags (rubber)
Gags (tape)
Gas masks
Gates of Hell (male)
Genital sex
Given away to another Dom (temp)
Given away to another Dom (perm)
Golden Showers
Gun play
Hair brush spankings
Hair pulling
Hand Jobs (giving)
Hand Jobs (receiving)
Harems (serving w/other subs)
Harnessing (leather)
Harnessing (rope)
Having food chosen for you
Having clothing chosen for you
(head (give fellatio/cunnilingus)
Head (rcv fellation/cunnilingus)
High Heel Wearing
High Heel Worship
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)
Hoods
Hot oils (on genitals)
Hot waxing
Housework (doing)
Human puppy dog
Humiliation (private)
Humiliation (public)
Hypnotism
Ice cubes
Immobilization
******ilism
Initiation rites
Injections
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage
Interrogations
k**napping
Kneeling
Knife play
Leather Clothing
Leather restraints
Lectures for misbehavior
Licking (non-sexual)
Lingerie (wearing)
Manacles and Irons
Manicures (giving)
Massage (giving)
Massage (receiving)
Medical scenes
Modeling for erotic photos
Mouth bits
Mummification
Name change (for scene)
Nipple clamps
Nipple rings (piercing)
Nipple weights
Oral/anal play (rimming)
Over the knee spanking
Orgasm denial
Orgasm control
Outdoor scenes
Pain (severe)
Pain (mild)
Persona training (in scene)
Personal modification (rl)
Phone sex (serving Dom)
Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends)
Phone sex (commercial provider)
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)
Piercing (permanent)
Plastic surgery
Prison scenes
Prostitution (public pretense)
Prostitution (actual)
Pony slave
Public exposure
Punishment scene
Pussy/cock whipping
Pussy worship
Riding crops
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort)
Rituals
Religious scenes
Restrictive rules on behavior
Rubber/latex clothing
Rope body harness
Saran wrap
Scarification
Scratching - getting
Scratching - giving
Sensory deprivation
Serving
Serving as art
Serving as ashtray
Serving as furniture
Serving as a maid
Serving as a toilet (urine)
Serving as a toilet (feces)
Serving as waitress/waiter
Serving orally (sexual)
Serving other Doms (supervised)
Serving other Doms (unsupervised)
Sexual deprivation (short term)
Sexual deprivation (long term)
Shaving (body hair)
Having (head hair)
Skinny dipping
Sleep deprivation
Sleep sacks
Slutty clothing (private)
Slutty clothing (public)
Spandex clothing
Spanking
Speech restrictions (when/what)
Speculums (anal)
Speculums (vaginal)
Spitting
Spreader bars
Standing in corner
Stocks
Straight jackets
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)
Strapping (full body beating)
Suspension (upright)
Suspension (inverted)
Supplying new partners for Dom
Swallowing feces
Swallowing semen
Swallowing urine
Swapping (with one other couple)
Swinging (multiple couples)
Tampon training (in ass)
Tattooing
Teasing
TENS unit (electrical toy)
Thumb cuffs (metal)
Tickling
Triple Penetration
Urethral Sounds (metal rods)
Uniforms
Including others
Vaginal dildo
Verbal humiliation
Vibrator on genitals
Violet wand (electrical toy)
Voyeurism (watching others)
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)
Video (watching others)
Video (recordings of you)
Water torture
Waxing (hair removal)
Wearing symbolic jewelry
Weight gain (forced)
Weight loss (forced)
Whipping
Wooden paddles
Wrestling
This checklist can be filled out by a Sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play. Dominants may wish to work through the checklist, to get a better handle on their specific interests. Switches should go through the checklist twice; one persons Dom and Sub interests may be very different.
For each item, you need to provide two answers:
Experience
Have you had real time experience with the activity?
Indicate YES or NO next to each item. Write N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Willingness
Are you willing/open to try an activity?
For each item, indicate the degree to which you are willing to try that particular activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0-5 (see rating scale below).
If you write "no", it means you will not do that item under any circumstance (a hard limit). There is nothing wrong with indicating 'no' on an item. However, if you write 'no' next to every item, you should probably find another interest to pursue.... like knitting or basket weaving. *grin*
If you do not understand what an activity is, mark that item with a "?".
Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with your current sex partner(s), but not with casual play partners
Rating Scale
0 Utterly no desire to do that activity and don’t like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and ordinarily would object to
doing it, but you would permit the Dominant to do it if they really wanted it (sometimes called a soft limit)
1 Don’t want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn’t object it if was asked of you
2 Willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you
3 Usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/occasional basis
4 You like doing this activity and would like to experience it on a regular basis
5 Is a wild turn-on for you and you would like it as often as possible
Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Dom to know in the comments section.
There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the sub is the recipient/target of the activity
Activity Experience Willingness Comments
Respond YES/NO Rate according to scale described above
Age Play
Anal Sex
Anal Plugs (small)
Anal Plugs (large)
Anal Plug (public under clothes)
a****l Roles
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders)
Aromas
Asphyxiation
Auctioned for charity
Ball Stretching
Bathroom use control
b**stiality
Beating (soft)
Beating (hard)
Blindfolding
Being Serviced (sexual)
Being bitten
Breast/chest bondage
Breath control
Branding
Boot Worship
Bondage (light)
Bondage (heavy)
Bondage (multi-day)
Bondage (public under clothing)
Breast whipping
Brown showers (s**t)
Cages (locked inside)
Caning
Castration fantasy
Catheterization
Cattle prod (electrical toy)
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)
Chains
Chamber pot use
Chastity belts
Chauffeuring
Choking
Chores (domestic service)
Clothespins
Cock rings/straps
Cock worship
Collars (worn in private)
Collars (worn in public)
Competitions (with other subs)
Corsets (wearing casually)
Corsets (trained waist reduction)
Cuffs (leather)
Cuffs (metal)
Cutting
Diapers (wearing)
Diapers (wetting)
Diapers (soiling)
Dilation
Dildos
Double Penetration
Electricity
Enemas (for cleansing)
Enemas ( retention/punishment)
Enforced chastity
Erotic Dance (for audience)
Examinations (physical)
Exercise (forced/required)
Exhibitionism (friends)
Exhibitionism (strangers)
Eye contact restrictions
Face Slapping
Fantasy Abandonment
Fantasy ****
Fantasy gang ****
Fear (being scared)
Fisting (anal)
Fisting (vaginal)
Flame play
Following orders
Foot worship
Forced bedwetting
forced dressing
Forced eating
Forced homosexuality
Forced heterosexuality
Forced masturbation
Forced nudity (private)
Forced nudity (around others)
Forced Servitude
Forced smoking
Full head hoods
Gags (cloth)
Gags (inflatable)
Gags (phallic)
Gags (rubber)
Gags (tape)
Gas masks
Gates of Hell (male)
Genital sex
Given away to another Dom (temp)
Given away to another Dom (perm)
Golden Showers
Gun play
Hair brush spankings
Hair pulling
Hand Jobs (giving)
Hand Jobs (receiving)
Harems (serving w/other subs)
Harnessing (leather)
Harnessing (rope)
Having food chosen for you
Having clothing chosen for you
(head (give fellatio/cunnilingus)
Head (rcv fellation/cunnilingus)
High Heel Wearing
High Heel Worship
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)
Hoods
Hot oils (on genitals)
Hot waxing
Housework (doing)
Human puppy dog
Humiliation (private)
Humiliation (public)
Hypnotism
Ice cubes
Immobilization
******ilism
Initiation rites
Injections
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage
Interrogations
k**napping
Kneeling
Knife play
Leather Clothing
Leather restraints
Lectures for misbehavior
Licking (non-sexual)
Lingerie (wearing)
Manacles and Irons
Manicures (giving)
Massage (giving)
Massage (receiving)
Medical scenes
Modeling for erotic photos
Mouth bits
Mummification
Name change (for scene)
Nipple clamps
Nipple rings (piercing)
Nipple weights
Oral/anal play (rimming)
Over the knee spanking
Orgasm denial
Orgasm control
Outdoor scenes
Pain (severe)
Pain (mild)
Persona training (in scene)
Personal modification (rl)
Phone sex (serving Dom)
Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends)
Phone sex (commercial provider)
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)
Piercing (permanent)
Plastic surgery
Prison scenes
Prostitution (public pretense)
Prostitution (actual)
Pony slave
Public exposure
Punishment scene
Pussy/cock whipping
Pussy worship
Riding crops
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort)
Rituals
Religious scenes
Restrictive rules on behavior
Rubber/latex clothing
Rope body harness
Saran wrap
Scarification
Scratching - getting
Scratching - giving
Sensory deprivation
Serving
Serving as art
Serving as ashtray
Serving as furniture
Serving as a maid
Serving as a toilet (urine)
Serving as a toilet (feces)
Serving as waitress/waiter
Serving orally (sexual)
Serving other Doms (supervised)
Serving other Doms (unsupervised)
Sexual deprivation (short term)
Sexual deprivation (long term)
Shaving (body hair)
Having (head hair)
Skinny dipping
Sleep deprivation
Sleep sacks
Slutty clothing (private)
Slutty clothing (public)
Spandex clothing
Spanking
Speech restrictions (when/what)
Speculums (anal)
Speculums (vaginal)
Spitting
Spreader bars
Standing in corner
Stocks
Straight jackets
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)
Strapping (full body beating)
Suspension (upright)
Suspension (inverted)
Supplying new partners for Dom
Swallowing feces
Swallowing semen
Swallowing urine
Swapping (with one other couple)
Swinging (multiple couples)
Tampon training (in ass)
Tattooing
Teasing
TENS unit (electrical toy)
Thumb cuffs (metal)
Tickling
Triple Penetration
Urethral Sounds (metal rods)
Uniforms
Including others
Vaginal dildo
Verbal humiliation
Vibrator on genitals
Violet wand (electrical toy)
Voyeurism (watching others)
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)
Video (watching others)
Video (recordings of you)
Water torture
Waxing (hair removal)
Wearing symbolic jewelry
Weight gain (forced)
Weight loss (forced)
Whipping
Wooden paddles
Wrestling
5年前
