The Truth Hurts....Or Does It?
I had a friend a few years ago that came to me about something "he really wanted to talk to me about but didn't know how I would react". He said, "I have a secret to tell you. It may change our friendship, it may even end it. I'm willing to take that chance because I want to be truthful with you about who I really am". Sounds heavy, right? I mentally braced myself for what he was about to tell me.
He said, "I'm trans". He told me how he had wanted to be a woman for years now and he had been dressing and acting like one in his private time. SURPRISE. I totally wasn't expected that! This man has been my friend for over five years. He was married to his "soul mate", a blonde bombshell, who had given him three beautiful ***********s. He was a family man, played in the church band, volunteered to help the homeless, and had a great career.
Despite having all that, he wasn't happy. His desires went beyond the scope of his marriage and his family life. He felt more accepted as a woman in society than he did as a man. But when he told the truth to people in his life, they couldn't (or wouldn't) accept it. He wanted to come out years ago, but, his family was against gays and trans-gendered people. He hid his true self to avoid being disowned or ridiculed by the very people who claimed to love him unconditionally. He was done living a lie. To stop living the lie, he felt he had to tell everyone in his life the truth.
We've all heard the phrase, "the truth hurts". Does it really? Or is it just the "pouring salt on the wound" so to speak that gets us? In my opinion, yes, the truth can sting. It can hurt. It's what you chose to do with the truth that shows what kind of character you have.
If the truth was worse then a lie, would you still want to hear it? Would you be accepting of someone who told you the truth like my friend told me? Would you tell your partner how many people you were with before them? The REAL number? We all keep secrets. At what point do we desire to be truthful about every detail?
What are your thoughts? Do you have any stories about telling the truth or receiving it? I would love to hear them.
Until next time-
XOXO- Katboodah
He said, "I'm trans". He told me how he had wanted to be a woman for years now and he had been dressing and acting like one in his private time. SURPRISE. I totally wasn't expected that! This man has been my friend for over five years. He was married to his "soul mate", a blonde bombshell, who had given him three beautiful ***********s. He was a family man, played in the church band, volunteered to help the homeless, and had a great career.
Despite having all that, he wasn't happy. His desires went beyond the scope of his marriage and his family life. He felt more accepted as a woman in society than he did as a man. But when he told the truth to people in his life, they couldn't (or wouldn't) accept it. He wanted to come out years ago, but, his family was against gays and trans-gendered people. He hid his true self to avoid being disowned or ridiculed by the very people who claimed to love him unconditionally. He was done living a lie. To stop living the lie, he felt he had to tell everyone in his life the truth.
We've all heard the phrase, "the truth hurts". Does it really? Or is it just the "pouring salt on the wound" so to speak that gets us? In my opinion, yes, the truth can sting. It can hurt. It's what you chose to do with the truth that shows what kind of character you have.
If the truth was worse then a lie, would you still want to hear it? Would you be accepting of someone who told you the truth like my friend told me? Would you tell your partner how many people you were with before them? The REAL number? We all keep secrets. At what point do we desire to be truthful about every detail?
What are your thoughts? Do you have any stories about telling the truth or receiving it? I would love to hear them.
Until next time-
XOXO- Katboodah
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