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So I have my boytoy. He's a total sub, and that's what I want from him. Doesn't get pussy. Controlled orgasms, cums on my feet and licks them clean. Serves me. Blah blah blah...
I need to be used too (not by him), more so lately, a way of coping with life events. My way of attempting to heal.

I had a recent encounter, a younger dark skinned flight attendant slipped me his number. I sent him a text, we met up. He was laying over here. Almost instant chemistry led to passionate sex, was good for the first 20 min or so. Then he kicked it up a notch. Choked me. Spit on me. I came hard. Very hard. He brought me to climax countless times, wore me out. We parted ways with the expectation of meeting again when he lays over here. A few days later, he texts me. We talk, he mentions his buddy in Newark has devices, a way to explore my need for physical pain and the resulting pleasure. A way to cope.

So, my question. Would anyone advise for or against exploring bdsm? Does it satisfy you? Help? Should I visit?