Thoughts on BDSM and Submissiveness
The vast majority of pornography reflects abuse of the other sex by the Dominate or ones mate. This is not what relationships or BDSM is truly about. BDSM requires absolute trust. Trust between the participants is crucial and so there are rules in place which all members adhere too, especially the DOM. Use of unlawful stimulants or alcohol by the DOM during a session is strictly prohibited. No exceptions.
Any kind of infliction of pain in a BDSM session or the use of restraints is agreed upon prior to a session. This will include how it is administered and to what degree, including which body part or parts will be affected. But then BDSM is not about inflicting pain, regardless of the level, rather it is the stimulation of the flesh and respecting the subjects personal limits. In due course limits are and will be tested so that the individual can experience personal growth over time.
The ultimate goal is that the Dominant is pleasured and in return the subject, the submissive feels pleasure likewise.
Those are individuals who prefer to be the submissive, even in a non-BDSM roll play. Woman are particularly interested in being the submissive. The roll of a woman submissive can be very seductive and even powerful. Especially if she is aware and knows how to apply the nuances in the situation she finds herself in. In many ways, the relationship between the submissive and the more dominating person is like a dance, like a Tango.
In the end, be it the submissive / dominant roll play or that in a BDSM game, it is all an intricate dance of foreplay, leading to the ultimate physical crescendo.
What has not been discussed is ‘Touch;’ ‘Person’s Voice;’ ‘Their Scent;’ or ‘Language.’ All of which are a portion of the dance and used by either party in this dance. More to be written on this subject in the future.
Any kind of infliction of pain in a BDSM session or the use of restraints is agreed upon prior to a session. This will include how it is administered and to what degree, including which body part or parts will be affected. But then BDSM is not about inflicting pain, regardless of the level, rather it is the stimulation of the flesh and respecting the subjects personal limits. In due course limits are and will be tested so that the individual can experience personal growth over time.
The ultimate goal is that the Dominant is pleasured and in return the subject, the submissive feels pleasure likewise.
Those are individuals who prefer to be the submissive, even in a non-BDSM roll play. Woman are particularly interested in being the submissive. The roll of a woman submissive can be very seductive and even powerful. Especially if she is aware and knows how to apply the nuances in the situation she finds herself in. In many ways, the relationship between the submissive and the more dominating person is like a dance, like a Tango.
In the end, be it the submissive / dominant roll play or that in a BDSM game, it is all an intricate dance of foreplay, leading to the ultimate physical crescendo.
What has not been discussed is ‘Touch;’ ‘Person’s Voice;’ ‘Their Scent;’ or ‘Language.’ All of which are a portion of the dance and used by either party in this dance. More to be written on this subject in the future.
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