How do I find a kinky Girlfriend? (part 2)
Continuing on with the "How to find a Kinky Girlfriend" I'll answer this question:
"Do you share your kinky side with friends and family or keep it a secret?"
Both. Like substance use, unkind thoughts, and sexual proclivities, remember joke rules: 'read the room' and 'know your audience'.
Zero in on your internal motivations when talking about such things - Are you at peace with yourself? From whom do you need validation, and why?
At Thanksgiving dinner, would you tell your brother he under-salted the food? Are you trying to get a petty win over him by putting him down or are you showing love with an arbitrary razz that he expects and appreciates?
Keep it pragmatic. Prove things to yourself, not others. You cannot change people's minds - especially not with logic. A passionate wall of text delivered irl might as well be spaghetti falling out of your pockets.
Ultimately behaviour is motivated by the subconscious' reproductive goals. The conscious mind has zero power over these goals. This is why people can be hypocritical and hateful, despite maintaining a clearly illogical framework. Worryin' about it be like wonderin' if the sun gonna come up.
This goes both ways: for the haters and the lovers. People seek the cool observer who is free of judgement. They will know their secrets are safe with you.
And for this quality, women will choose to get kinky with you.
- Leo
"Do you share your kinky side with friends and family or keep it a secret?"
Both. Like substance use, unkind thoughts, and sexual proclivities, remember joke rules: 'read the room' and 'know your audience'.
Zero in on your internal motivations when talking about such things - Are you at peace with yourself? From whom do you need validation, and why?
At Thanksgiving dinner, would you tell your brother he under-salted the food? Are you trying to get a petty win over him by putting him down or are you showing love with an arbitrary razz that he expects and appreciates?
Keep it pragmatic. Prove things to yourself, not others. You cannot change people's minds - especially not with logic. A passionate wall of text delivered irl might as well be spaghetti falling out of your pockets.
Ultimately behaviour is motivated by the subconscious' reproductive goals. The conscious mind has zero power over these goals. This is why people can be hypocritical and hateful, despite maintaining a clearly illogical framework. Worryin' about it be like wonderin' if the sun gonna come up.
This goes both ways: for the haters and the lovers. People seek the cool observer who is free of judgement. They will know their secrets are safe with you.
And for this quality, women will choose to get kinky with you.
- Leo
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