Hard time cummings

Any other dudes have hard time cumming in late 30's or early 40's? I take testosterone and am constantly wanting to fuck no stop. Can't seem to get the reflex or "orgasm" part to cum unless I try long and rough. When I do I feel terrible b/c it took so much effort. And then in a short time it's ready to go again. Women complain about not reaching orgasm and get tired. I feel ashamed with it because oral seems to be the best thing to get me to explode. My confidence is short lately b/c either I make my woman go a lot and get tired then pass out. Or I am up all-night watching you guys. You make it seem so easy. Shoot me a message if anyone wants t chat and such. I don't tell this stuff to anyone in the real world. I prob not a real dude in the real-world b/c they make it look so easy. Cheers and hope everyone is having a good night! Time to try to jerk off! Wish me luck!