Married but neglected

Wifey has not touched me in well over a year now. Not even hugs and kisses and cuddles. Nothing physical whatsoever. She does a great job keeping my stomach full and happy, but doesn't care at all about my physical and emotional needs. This is so hard on me. Yes, I have tried talking to her about it. She knows how much I need it but nothing changes. I had a wonderful girlfriend for many years but now she has lost interest too. I wonder if this is something that happens to most or all women as they get older, or if there is just something wrong with me that makes women eventually lose interest and the connection. It's so frustrating. I'd prefer my wife, and if she isn't interested I prefer a horny woman... but at this point I feel so alone and desperate that I would take advantage of a willing man if I could just find a nice guy near me with similar needs.