What can i do

Hi guys , im just asking what u guys think about this. when we have sex we use toys and i go down on her alot if the time to make her cum iv even got her into fisting. Now when doing things im doing all the work and she wont help in anyway , even if she wants any toys out iv got to get them even tho they are at the side of her in a draw. After iv made her cum and happy she will only talk dirty to me and wank my off. No foreplay no play with toys no ass play nothing at all.
Also afew years ago she told me she would love to see me with other guys fucking and sucking them , soo not long agobi told her im bi and i would love to have fun with guys and she came come and watch or join , she was ok with it at first but then got upset when i started to chat. She said to me if i go ahead with chatting and start to meet up then the married life will die out and end. Soo just to make her happy iv not met up with anybody but it killing me inside