Now accepting blocks!
I have broken the mold and have now decided to begin breaking one of my very own golden rules and pet peeves. Yes, people. You've heard correctly! I have now decided to begin blocking people. And let me clarify for a moment here. This doesn't mean that I'm suddenly going off the edge and will be going on a massive blocking spree. What it does mean is that I will now be selectively choosing to block extremely problematic people whom I have repeated issues with. People who are trolls or people with severe clinginess or persistence and repeated behavioral disorders. Think of it as the "three strike and you're out" rule.
Truthfully, I'm at a point here where I'm completely exhausted. Follow my timeline and you'll realize what a landslide this site, society and behavioral disorders have become....and they just keep getting worse and worse, which is scary! I started out here many moons ago with a very open mind to socialize to anyone and everyone (yes, even some cyber sex stuff). As the years went by, you give an inch to people and they take advantage of you and expect a mile each time. You find yourself being kind, polite and generous to everyone else around you, but in the end it's me who ended up unhappy. So, the rules began tightening up. A short and fun profile began turning into Hammarubi's Code of Law. My profile turned into a law book. The years went by and I began to get more and more selective of who I talked to, what that talk was about and the rules and conduct that were attached to it. Several months ago, I've had enough of the scene and packed up my choice to interact with everyone altogether (excluding old friends). It was one of the best choices I've ever made! I promptly made my choice public on my profile and that was that....or so I thought. And as the days, weeks and months went by, the problems still persisted. People were STILL contacting me, STILL sending irrelevant 'friend requests' and STILL not reading profiles or caring about anything. The nice person I am, I'd always send a polite PM and explain for them to access my full profile and read it over. That nice approach didn't prove to work. 99.999% of the times I'd get ignored, retaliated on or they'd repeatedly or persistently try to keep 'friending' me or trying to chat, as I'd then have to send lectures or blacklist them.
Now, here I am months after clearly revising my profile and I'm repeatedly being bombarded with trolls and idiots. I'm even being accused of being "the problem" as I quietly sit here day after day minding my own business and not beginning any interactions with anyone at all. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!
I have now chosen to break one of my very golden rules and pet peeves of blocking select members on here who I deem to be the extremes of problematic issues, behavioral issues, trolling, arguments, drama, etc... . This was not an easy decision for me, but I'm left with literally no other options at this point. The site isn't on the good people's side. There is zero site moderation (or fairness of reporting) and there is zero enforcement to the TOU's. Nobody reads profiles; nor cares what any profiles say anyway...so that method doesn't work, either. So where do women go from here?? Sure, we blacklist, make blogs and 'avoid member' lists, which is marginally effective to the few women who read them and use those as a method of activism. Otherwise, what's left as our options? Do I sit here and just be disrespected day after day? Is it right just to constantly be harassed, lied to, bullied, mocked, belittled and have rumors derived? So, as you see, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! I'll now be enforcing my "three strike" rule (and even that's probably wayyyyy more kind than I should be). After three warnings or offenses, to the block list you go. It's just that simple! And for anyone who blocks me first, I will now be blocking you in return. For what it's worth, it just means good riddance.
The sad part about all of this in it's totality is that this site is designed for the very opposite of what it's become. This is a social networking site, designed specifically for people to unite, mingle, communicate together, interact and for the sake of entertainment, enjoyment, fun and pleasure. Instead, it's just become the Wild, Wild West of the internet where everybody is totally rude, idiotic, disrespectful and has a happy finger to block each other. That's not what social networking is or ever was!!! Sadly, the more people block, the less and less sites like these become united and the more they become divided. Worse yet, this mentality trickles down into all other aspects of these same members' habits on other sites (X-rated or G-rated), into the workplace, into the household and has transformed society into everyone sheltered into their own little bubbles of unhappiness. This is such a deplorable condition from the internet and of the world in which I grew up in 25+ years ago. I've said my peace.
Truthfully, I'm at a point here where I'm completely exhausted. Follow my timeline and you'll realize what a landslide this site, society and behavioral disorders have become....and they just keep getting worse and worse, which is scary! I started out here many moons ago with a very open mind to socialize to anyone and everyone (yes, even some cyber sex stuff). As the years went by, you give an inch to people and they take advantage of you and expect a mile each time. You find yourself being kind, polite and generous to everyone else around you, but in the end it's me who ended up unhappy. So, the rules began tightening up. A short and fun profile began turning into Hammarubi's Code of Law. My profile turned into a law book. The years went by and I began to get more and more selective of who I talked to, what that talk was about and the rules and conduct that were attached to it. Several months ago, I've had enough of the scene and packed up my choice to interact with everyone altogether (excluding old friends). It was one of the best choices I've ever made! I promptly made my choice public on my profile and that was that....or so I thought. And as the days, weeks and months went by, the problems still persisted. People were STILL contacting me, STILL sending irrelevant 'friend requests' and STILL not reading profiles or caring about anything. The nice person I am, I'd always send a polite PM and explain for them to access my full profile and read it over. That nice approach didn't prove to work. 99.999% of the times I'd get ignored, retaliated on or they'd repeatedly or persistently try to keep 'friending' me or trying to chat, as I'd then have to send lectures or blacklist them.
Now, here I am months after clearly revising my profile and I'm repeatedly being bombarded with trolls and idiots. I'm even being accused of being "the problem" as I quietly sit here day after day minding my own business and not beginning any interactions with anyone at all. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!
I have now chosen to break one of my very golden rules and pet peeves of blocking select members on here who I deem to be the extremes of problematic issues, behavioral issues, trolling, arguments, drama, etc... . This was not an easy decision for me, but I'm left with literally no other options at this point. The site isn't on the good people's side. There is zero site moderation (or fairness of reporting) and there is zero enforcement to the TOU's. Nobody reads profiles; nor cares what any profiles say anyway...so that method doesn't work, either. So where do women go from here?? Sure, we blacklist, make blogs and 'avoid member' lists, which is marginally effective to the few women who read them and use those as a method of activism. Otherwise, what's left as our options? Do I sit here and just be disrespected day after day? Is it right just to constantly be harassed, lied to, bullied, mocked, belittled and have rumors derived? So, as you see, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! I'll now be enforcing my "three strike" rule (and even that's probably wayyyyy more kind than I should be). After three warnings or offenses, to the block list you go. It's just that simple! And for anyone who blocks me first, I will now be blocking you in return. For what it's worth, it just means good riddance.
The sad part about all of this in it's totality is that this site is designed for the very opposite of what it's become. This is a social networking site, designed specifically for people to unite, mingle, communicate together, interact and for the sake of entertainment, enjoyment, fun and pleasure. Instead, it's just become the Wild, Wild West of the internet where everybody is totally rude, idiotic, disrespectful and has a happy finger to block each other. That's not what social networking is or ever was!!! Sadly, the more people block, the less and less sites like these become united and the more they become divided. Worse yet, this mentality trickles down into all other aspects of these same members' habits on other sites (X-rated or G-rated), into the workplace, into the household and has transformed society into everyone sheltered into their own little bubbles of unhappiness. This is such a deplorable condition from the internet and of the world in which I grew up in 25+ years ago. I've said my peace.
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