"Friend Collectors" - History/Theory.
This is a blog probably long over due. So, let's reminisce for a moment, as I walk you through history...and of a theory I have. First, a trip down memory lane to get to my point of "friend collectors"...
As the phenomenon of "friend collecting" seems to get worse around here by the day, I often think back to the "good old days" of the internet that I grew up with, some 30 years ago, way back in the mid/late 90's through around the mid 00's (right before the time when smart phones began taking over). I think back to how the early internet was so new, so fresh, so exciting...almost even so naive and innocent, if I dare say so. For anyone my age and on the internet from back then, you know who you all are and of what I'm talking about. The internet was so new, fresh and exciting at that point, that there was this certain magic of excitement that was universally captivating everyone! Today we take it all for granted, but back then it was a brand new thing! Imagine being from the US and being able to instantly chat to people from anywhere around the globe, from Germany, to India, to New Zealand and beyond. We've hooked up some grainy web cams and a bulky microphone of the time that were state of the art back then, all after having shared our landline connection and used dial-up to connect to the internet at a snail's pace. Yet these were the very best of best times ever of the internet! Now we could actually text chat through the internet, see live web cams and hold audible chats all at once. What magic this was and the level of excitement and enthusiasm was apparent with everyone around 1998 or so. Back then, people read profiles, they read long chat notes, they weren't so lazy and ignorant, they had more patience, they had an attention span, they had a lot more manners and they were willing to invest. Similarly, the world of chat rooms were booming back then with thousands of REAL people at any given day/time and you could begin to strike up chats with, which often times would lead to long-term friendships, meets and so forth. The world of adult dating/sex sites were also booming and I can similarly remember signing in and you literally had your pick of the litter. It wasn't uncommon (even for men, mind you) to readily find REAL women online who were enthusiastic to chat with, become friends with, chat to, meet up with or for hook-up purposes. I mean this was so common that even men could probably score several local women within any given week. No lie! Again, for anyone reading this who has been around the internet from back then, you should be able to relate. There were no smart phones yet. Everything you did online meant you had to physically be planted behind a PC, which meant that (in most cases) you had everyone's undivided attention when you interacted and spoke to someone. Those were amazing times and you could easily spend upward to 4-6 hours daily just holding pure conversations with REAL people, becoming good friends, learning about them, getting comfortable and (in many cases) even meeting with them eventually, if they were relatively local. I also want to add that the early internet only consisted of a concentrated handful of popular sites that the masses would congregate to, unlike today's endless variety of sites/apps, which dilutes the population.
Fast forward...
And so this internet scene from the mid/late 90's through the better part of the 00's sustained throughout this Golden Era. As time went on, the "newness" and "thrill" of the internet had begun to wear off. People began settling in to a groove and the excitement really wore off. It was around 2005 or so that smart phones began taking over, and that was was the beginning of the end to a once-great internet scene. Suddenly, almost overnight, people began using smart phones for the internet and the attention level dropped like flies. Full-blown paragraphed conversations turned into lifeless, dull, vague and shitty one-word replies...half the time you couldn't even comprehend. People would constantly be shown as "online", but too sidetracked in doing other things that you'd lose all interest in actually holding chats with that person because they'd be driving, at a doctor's office, running errands, shopping or sneaking to a work bathroom to send you a single text message every 30 minutes or longer. Sadly, that scene quickly went south and never recovered since. At the very same time, the comforts of the internet set in and, because women began getting flaky/using cell phones, none were either around; nor could they hold chats long enough to create friendship/bonds...and this created a snowball effect that triggered men to become desperate. Desperation created competition. Competition created rudeness/frustrations. Rudeness just meant that women decided to drop like flies from the scene (who wants to be talked to rudely/sexually or to be involved with vague, dull chats from a guy who has no time/effort to invest?). For the very few women who chose to hang on to the scene, we just secluded ourselves, got extremely selective and talked to people within our little circle of friends. The internet expanded over time. More and more sites/apps opened and the population dispersed. People just got numb and desensitized to the internet, as a whole. The newness and excitement is long gone to history. What's even worse is that people don't even talk to people as if there is a real human being on the other side anymore. We're just considered "disposable heroes" when we're talked to anymore. We're (women) good enough to talk to IF what YOU (men) seek is what YOU are receiving. The very moment one word is said that doesn't sit with you, we're immediately dumped, ghosted, dodged, ignored, blocked, retaliated on, disrespected, mocked, belittled, etc... . That gives all women a valid reason to not only leave these scenes for good (zero respect/decency = zero incentive), but it also creates a huge snowballing chain of events in which create a downward spiral of even more negativity to follow.
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When adult sites like these depend on women as their sole anchor for profit, it becomes an enormous problem for businesses to survive when nearly all women have been chased off forever by rude, idiotic, desperate, clingy, perverted men. The solution?: Sites begin incorporating a massive amount of fake female profiles as an illusion of mass female volume, even though next to none are even real. The spiral continues, as more fakes, bots, scammers and spammers forever emerge. Few REAL women find their niche by taking advantage of self-gain business practices (web camming; content creators; etc...), but none of the average REAL women talk to anybody. Again, this sets off a chain of rudeness, frustration, competition, discouragement, etc... and only continues pushing each and every last woman off site.
Time advances. The sites have next to no moderation and are deemed as a complete joke. Women take it upon themselves to defend, speak out against men and advocate, since these sites are useless! This only publicizes their poor behavior and gives even more REAL women all valid reason to even tighten up and avoid more and more men. And as usual, this downward spiral only discourages even more men, stirs more frustration and rudeness becomes an all time high.
T̲h̲e̲o̲r̲y̲
My theory is that men have gotten so terribly desperate, lonely and have come to the realization that nearly no REAL women exist, talk to men, meet men or want to have anything at all to do with men at all that these men just accepted modern day internet as a reality that nearly no REAL women exist and that the site is nothing but mainly fakes or spammers looking to catfish/bait/profit from them. Psychologically speaking, my theory is that this has all created a lonely human void for the vast majority of people in the world. Over the course of time, men have purposely and willingly backed themselves into the very corner of their very own loneliness and desperation to have that human to human connection, and one on one interaction with real humans. This would seem to logically and psychologically explain why so many damn men on these sites feel the need to fulfill that gap of loneliness of human desire to "friend collect" hundreds, if not tens of thousands of so-called "friends" (none of which they are legitimately FRIENDS to at all). It's this "collection" of so-called "friends" phenomenon in which I believe are men trying to fulfill that empty void, having come to the realization that 99% of so-called "females" on here are fake (for good reason!) and the other 1% want to have nothing at all to do with them (and for good reason!). I mean, is there really a valid reason to have 30,000 "friends" (i.e.: complete strangers) added to your list? Like, honestly? How is this in your favor or what does "friend collecting" really accomplish or mean? And be honest here! There is no such thing as personally knowing hundreds; 1,000; 30,000 + people personally in your life. You would not even know a tiny percentage of those people strictly on a first name basis, yet alone be actual "friends" to them all. Smh! Is there really a valid reason you all have to "friend" people, when the clickable option exists to "subscribe" to someone just an inch away?????? Or are people just too stupid to know the difference between a "friend" and a "subscribe"??? What insanity!
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So, every day when I get here and see 5 more 'friend requests' (even though my profile specifically says the contrary), I try to take it with a grain of salt, realizing that these men are acting in in desperation for human attention, affection, love and so forth in an environment in which they've purposely created for themselves slowly over the course of 25+ years. I don't feel sorry at all for any of them! They all got exactly what they've chosen to deserve! It's been 25+ years of sheer hell for females. Congratulations, guys! And to be very fair, some women on here are just as bad anymore. That's my theory.
F̲i̲n̲a̲l̲ ̲n̲o̲t̲e̲
On one last final note, I feel a certain sadness for people who actually try to belittle me or put me down, being that I literally CHOOSE to only have 2 listed friends on my list.
ifucker123sex writes: "2 Friends huh! ????? Loser!". Meanwhile his "friend collector" profile boasts 7.8K friendless "friends" of complete strangers (i.e.: mass population of fakes, bots, scammers, content creators (spammers), gay/bi guys, trans, etc...) and somehow feels it's more meaningful or important to have 7.8K "friends" of literally nobody, than my 2 real and legitimately close friends of real people and meaning. I feel a certain sadness for people like this, regardless of their rudeness. They're just so desperate, stupid and oblivious that THEY are the pathetic ones who, out of rudeness, have driven away ALL REAL women from these sites over the last 25+ years to the point where they now rely on "friend collections" to fill that empty void of human need and attention because no REAL women exist or talk to them anymore. Smh!
As the phenomenon of "friend collecting" seems to get worse around here by the day, I often think back to the "good old days" of the internet that I grew up with, some 30 years ago, way back in the mid/late 90's through around the mid 00's (right before the time when smart phones began taking over). I think back to how the early internet was so new, so fresh, so exciting...almost even so naive and innocent, if I dare say so. For anyone my age and on the internet from back then, you know who you all are and of what I'm talking about. The internet was so new, fresh and exciting at that point, that there was this certain magic of excitement that was universally captivating everyone! Today we take it all for granted, but back then it was a brand new thing! Imagine being from the US and being able to instantly chat to people from anywhere around the globe, from Germany, to India, to New Zealand and beyond. We've hooked up some grainy web cams and a bulky microphone of the time that were state of the art back then, all after having shared our landline connection and used dial-up to connect to the internet at a snail's pace. Yet these were the very best of best times ever of the internet! Now we could actually text chat through the internet, see live web cams and hold audible chats all at once. What magic this was and the level of excitement and enthusiasm was apparent with everyone around 1998 or so. Back then, people read profiles, they read long chat notes, they weren't so lazy and ignorant, they had more patience, they had an attention span, they had a lot more manners and they were willing to invest. Similarly, the world of chat rooms were booming back then with thousands of REAL people at any given day/time and you could begin to strike up chats with, which often times would lead to long-term friendships, meets and so forth. The world of adult dating/sex sites were also booming and I can similarly remember signing in and you literally had your pick of the litter. It wasn't uncommon (even for men, mind you) to readily find REAL women online who were enthusiastic to chat with, become friends with, chat to, meet up with or for hook-up purposes. I mean this was so common that even men could probably score several local women within any given week. No lie! Again, for anyone reading this who has been around the internet from back then, you should be able to relate. There were no smart phones yet. Everything you did online meant you had to physically be planted behind a PC, which meant that (in most cases) you had everyone's undivided attention when you interacted and spoke to someone. Those were amazing times and you could easily spend upward to 4-6 hours daily just holding pure conversations with REAL people, becoming good friends, learning about them, getting comfortable and (in many cases) even meeting with them eventually, if they were relatively local. I also want to add that the early internet only consisted of a concentrated handful of popular sites that the masses would congregate to, unlike today's endless variety of sites/apps, which dilutes the population.
Fast forward...
And so this internet scene from the mid/late 90's through the better part of the 00's sustained throughout this Golden Era. As time went on, the "newness" and "thrill" of the internet had begun to wear off. People began settling in to a groove and the excitement really wore off. It was around 2005 or so that smart phones began taking over, and that was was the beginning of the end to a once-great internet scene. Suddenly, almost overnight, people began using smart phones for the internet and the attention level dropped like flies. Full-blown paragraphed conversations turned into lifeless, dull, vague and shitty one-word replies...half the time you couldn't even comprehend. People would constantly be shown as "online", but too sidetracked in doing other things that you'd lose all interest in actually holding chats with that person because they'd be driving, at a doctor's office, running errands, shopping or sneaking to a work bathroom to send you a single text message every 30 minutes or longer. Sadly, that scene quickly went south and never recovered since. At the very same time, the comforts of the internet set in and, because women began getting flaky/using cell phones, none were either around; nor could they hold chats long enough to create friendship/bonds...and this created a snowball effect that triggered men to become desperate. Desperation created competition. Competition created rudeness/frustrations. Rudeness just meant that women decided to drop like flies from the scene (who wants to be talked to rudely/sexually or to be involved with vague, dull chats from a guy who has no time/effort to invest?). For the very few women who chose to hang on to the scene, we just secluded ourselves, got extremely selective and talked to people within our little circle of friends. The internet expanded over time. More and more sites/apps opened and the population dispersed. People just got numb and desensitized to the internet, as a whole. The newness and excitement is long gone to history. What's even worse is that people don't even talk to people as if there is a real human being on the other side anymore. We're just considered "disposable heroes" when we're talked to anymore. We're (women) good enough to talk to IF what YOU (men) seek is what YOU are receiving. The very moment one word is said that doesn't sit with you, we're immediately dumped, ghosted, dodged, ignored, blocked, retaliated on, disrespected, mocked, belittled, etc... . That gives all women a valid reason to not only leave these scenes for good (zero respect/decency = zero incentive), but it also creates a huge snowballing chain of events in which create a downward spiral of even more negativity to follow.
B̲u̲s̲i̲n̲e̲s̲s̲
When adult sites like these depend on women as their sole anchor for profit, it becomes an enormous problem for businesses to survive when nearly all women have been chased off forever by rude, idiotic, desperate, clingy, perverted men. The solution?: Sites begin incorporating a massive amount of fake female profiles as an illusion of mass female volume, even though next to none are even real. The spiral continues, as more fakes, bots, scammers and spammers forever emerge. Few REAL women find their niche by taking advantage of self-gain business practices (web camming; content creators; etc...), but none of the average REAL women talk to anybody. Again, this sets off a chain of rudeness, frustration, competition, discouragement, etc... and only continues pushing each and every last woman off site.
Time advances. The sites have next to no moderation and are deemed as a complete joke. Women take it upon themselves to defend, speak out against men and advocate, since these sites are useless! This only publicizes their poor behavior and gives even more REAL women all valid reason to even tighten up and avoid more and more men. And as usual, this downward spiral only discourages even more men, stirs more frustration and rudeness becomes an all time high.
T̲h̲e̲o̲r̲y̲
My theory is that men have gotten so terribly desperate, lonely and have come to the realization that nearly no REAL women exist, talk to men, meet men or want to have anything at all to do with men at all that these men just accepted modern day internet as a reality that nearly no REAL women exist and that the site is nothing but mainly fakes or spammers looking to catfish/bait/profit from them. Psychologically speaking, my theory is that this has all created a lonely human void for the vast majority of people in the world. Over the course of time, men have purposely and willingly backed themselves into the very corner of their very own loneliness and desperation to have that human to human connection, and one on one interaction with real humans. This would seem to logically and psychologically explain why so many damn men on these sites feel the need to fulfill that gap of loneliness of human desire to "friend collect" hundreds, if not tens of thousands of so-called "friends" (none of which they are legitimately FRIENDS to at all). It's this "collection" of so-called "friends" phenomenon in which I believe are men trying to fulfill that empty void, having come to the realization that 99% of so-called "females" on here are fake (for good reason!) and the other 1% want to have nothing at all to do with them (and for good reason!). I mean, is there really a valid reason to have 30,000 "friends" (i.e.: complete strangers) added to your list? Like, honestly? How is this in your favor or what does "friend collecting" really accomplish or mean? And be honest here! There is no such thing as personally knowing hundreds; 1,000; 30,000 + people personally in your life. You would not even know a tiny percentage of those people strictly on a first name basis, yet alone be actual "friends" to them all. Smh! Is there really a valid reason you all have to "friend" people, when the clickable option exists to "subscribe" to someone just an inch away?????? Or are people just too stupid to know the difference between a "friend" and a "subscribe"??? What insanity!
C̲o̲n̲c̲l̲u̲s̲i̲o̲n̲
So, every day when I get here and see 5 more 'friend requests' (even though my profile specifically says the contrary), I try to take it with a grain of salt, realizing that these men are acting in in desperation for human attention, affection, love and so forth in an environment in which they've purposely created for themselves slowly over the course of 25+ years. I don't feel sorry at all for any of them! They all got exactly what they've chosen to deserve! It's been 25+ years of sheer hell for females. Congratulations, guys! And to be very fair, some women on here are just as bad anymore. That's my theory.
F̲i̲n̲a̲l̲ ̲n̲o̲t̲e̲
On one last final note, I feel a certain sadness for people who actually try to belittle me or put me down, being that I literally CHOOSE to only have 2 listed friends on my list.
ifucker123sex writes: "2 Friends huh! ????? Loser!". Meanwhile his "friend collector" profile boasts 7.8K friendless "friends" of complete strangers (i.e.: mass population of fakes, bots, scammers, content creators (spammers), gay/bi guys, trans, etc...) and somehow feels it's more meaningful or important to have 7.8K "friends" of literally nobody, than my 2 real and legitimately close friends of real people and meaning. I feel a certain sadness for people like this, regardless of their rudeness. They're just so desperate, stupid and oblivious that THEY are the pathetic ones who, out of rudeness, have driven away ALL REAL women from these sites over the last 25+ years to the point where they now rely on "friend collections" to fill that empty void of human need and attention because no REAL women exist or talk to them anymore. Smh!
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