Mike's Blog 1: Is your GF/wife a sub?
Now, let me start by saying: There is no 100% bulletproof way of knowing until you have tried it at last twice. Why twice? I'll get to that one later.
The easiest way, of course, is, to simply ask her. But that is a delicate situation and without at least a few hints it's almost sure to backfire. Oh and, please, for the love of God, DON'T do it like an old friend of mine. Two Weeks into the relationship that dimmwhit asked his girlfriend.
"Hey honey, mind if I tie you up and fuck you till you cry?" I'm not exaggerating. Ten minutes later he was single, called me and asked what he had done wrong... ... ... no further comment required.
Method #2 is almost as easy, but less effective. Have her ask you.
This is a bit tricky. Of course you can always get lucky and she just tells you, but in my experience, that almost never happens without some help. So you help her to get into the right mind. Rent a season of 24, watch movies like "V for Vendetta" or other materials that can be easily explained as just a fun time but always containing some kind of... ... Interrogation/humiliation scene. There's plenty of those out there.
Make half sincere comments about handcuffs when you come by a toy store. Sooner or later it's going to make her think. And from there it's only one last little step away from trying it herself. Once you are sure it circulated her mind for long enough, steer a conversation towards sexual fantasies. And then wait for her to spill it out.
Method #3. Just do it.
Now, you could say that this is the experts approach, but I prefer it. Words can lie, action betray, but emotions are always honest. The perpetration is almost identical to #2, but here you are not trying to make her fantasize, you are looking for actual physical responses. Does she get excited during torture scenes? maybe she even takes a suspiciously long shower after the movie... You get the idea. If you see signs of actual arousal, a she likes it. Maybe some people might say that it's not that simple, but it is.
She horny -> she like. End of story.
So much for finding out. Issue two will have my personal comments on how to start, what you need to prepare and so on.
Have fun!
Mike
The easiest way, of course, is, to simply ask her. But that is a delicate situation and without at least a few hints it's almost sure to backfire. Oh and, please, for the love of God, DON'T do it like an old friend of mine. Two Weeks into the relationship that dimmwhit asked his girlfriend.
"Hey honey, mind if I tie you up and fuck you till you cry?" I'm not exaggerating. Ten minutes later he was single, called me and asked what he had done wrong... ... ... no further comment required.
Method #2 is almost as easy, but less effective. Have her ask you.
This is a bit tricky. Of course you can always get lucky and she just tells you, but in my experience, that almost never happens without some help. So you help her to get into the right mind. Rent a season of 24, watch movies like "V for Vendetta" or other materials that can be easily explained as just a fun time but always containing some kind of... ... Interrogation/humiliation scene. There's plenty of those out there.
Make half sincere comments about handcuffs when you come by a toy store. Sooner or later it's going to make her think. And from there it's only one last little step away from trying it herself. Once you are sure it circulated her mind for long enough, steer a conversation towards sexual fantasies. And then wait for her to spill it out.
Method #3. Just do it.
Now, you could say that this is the experts approach, but I prefer it. Words can lie, action betray, but emotions are always honest. The perpetration is almost identical to #2, but here you are not trying to make her fantasize, you are looking for actual physical responses. Does she get excited during torture scenes? maybe she even takes a suspiciously long shower after the movie... You get the idea. If you see signs of actual arousal, a she likes it. Maybe some people might say that it's not that simple, but it is.
She horny -> she like. End of story.
So much for finding out. Issue two will have my personal comments on how to start, what you need to prepare and so on.
Have fun!
Mike
12年前
