Mike's Blog 5: psyche
Welcome back to the original topic. Like I promised a while back, this time I'll focus on the psychological / emotional aspect. This time I will have Melissa helping me as a coauthor, because she well explain the subs part for you. But let me begin with the part I know best.
"A dominates mind"
Don't be surprised to find out that it's a lot harder than you expected. After all, she is the woman you love and she is lying in front of you, tied up and probably somewhat scared. And your job is to pile on and not to comfort her. That can destroy your confidence fairly easy, but remember: she wanted this as well. Possibly just to do you a favor, but you have to get that out of your head for now. A half sincere approach can destroy the evening just as easily as going to far. But there are tricks you can use to hide your doubts.
The one I taught the most is to increase the intensity over time to mask any selfdoubts you might have by appearing to ease her in. Begin by just touching her all over her body, maybe using the blindfold. It increases her sense of touch and sets a general mood. That actually serves three purposes.
1) building confidence. For many people, the first hurdle is to touch her. Society has taught us that a bound woman is something wrong and for many people, that thought is very deeply embedded in their mins. Chances are it will affect you, no matter how curious you are to do this.
2) seting the mood. It helps a lot to relax her and with that you too will relax. In the beginning it's important that you stay calm and analyze the situation. That way you can avoid unnecessary mistakes. Try reading her reactions and by that alone you can learn a lot about her preferences.
3) arousing her. I know, duh! But if I do this, I'll have to do it completely. I don't think I need to comment on how it feels when you are gently touched all over you body. Just don't make her come yet, save that for later.
Over time you will find joy in seeing her squirm around and you will begin to understand that it's not just caning her or forcing orgasm after orgasm on her, it's the entire scene that's exciting. That's when you start to change from an interested amateur into an actual Dom. That takes months, but once you feel that first spark, you'll know.
From here, let it progress naturally. Be attentive to her reactions and careful not to cross any lines. After a while every sound she makes, every twitch of her body becomes a signal to you, guiding you the right way down a road that will have many surprises in check for you as you continue.
"a submissive's mind"
I finally get to write something on Mikes blog, and now I don't have the time for it >_> sorry, I will add this as soon as I have in hour to spare.
"A dominates mind"
Don't be surprised to find out that it's a lot harder than you expected. After all, she is the woman you love and she is lying in front of you, tied up and probably somewhat scared. And your job is to pile on and not to comfort her. That can destroy your confidence fairly easy, but remember: she wanted this as well. Possibly just to do you a favor, but you have to get that out of your head for now. A half sincere approach can destroy the evening just as easily as going to far. But there are tricks you can use to hide your doubts.
The one I taught the most is to increase the intensity over time to mask any selfdoubts you might have by appearing to ease her in. Begin by just touching her all over her body, maybe using the blindfold. It increases her sense of touch and sets a general mood. That actually serves three purposes.
1) building confidence. For many people, the first hurdle is to touch her. Society has taught us that a bound woman is something wrong and for many people, that thought is very deeply embedded in their mins. Chances are it will affect you, no matter how curious you are to do this.
2) seting the mood. It helps a lot to relax her and with that you too will relax. In the beginning it's important that you stay calm and analyze the situation. That way you can avoid unnecessary mistakes. Try reading her reactions and by that alone you can learn a lot about her preferences.
3) arousing her. I know, duh! But if I do this, I'll have to do it completely. I don't think I need to comment on how it feels when you are gently touched all over you body. Just don't make her come yet, save that for later.
Over time you will find joy in seeing her squirm around and you will begin to understand that it's not just caning her or forcing orgasm after orgasm on her, it's the entire scene that's exciting. That's when you start to change from an interested amateur into an actual Dom. That takes months, but once you feel that first spark, you'll know.
From here, let it progress naturally. Be attentive to her reactions and careful not to cross any lines. After a while every sound she makes, every twitch of her body becomes a signal to you, guiding you the right way down a road that will have many surprises in check for you as you continue.
"a submissive's mind"
I finally get to write something on Mikes blog, and now I don't have the time for it >_> sorry, I will add this as soon as I have in hour to spare.
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