Mike's Blog 8: Defiance
Before I start, let me squeeze in something basic I've forgotten to say. Before your first session, you need to set two safe words. Like I mentioned in negotiations, the soft and hard limits are important. But what if you forget one, or she realizes that she can't handle something she thought was ok? You need an emergency break and that are the safe words. They can be anything you like and many people use the color system.
"yellow" means as much as 'go slower'
"red" would be 'stop!'
Now that I've got that done, finally, let's start with the main topic. And thank god, it's a shorter one. I've covered most of the basics by now, so why don't we delve into the mind of a submissive a little deeper. What i'm going to give you is a rough, personal opinion based, estimate of the different sub types and they kinks. This is by no means a generally accepted list and doesn't use most of the 'classical' D/s vocabulary. It's more of a listing of general types as I have encountered them over the years.
The Painslut
As the name suggests, she's crazy for pain. And I specifically mean corporal punishment pain. Whipping, flogging, slapping... You name it, she loves it. It varies in intensity but some of them actually aren't happy until their skin broke and they can't sit for the next two days. While it's rare to encounter someone like that, the painslut in general is a common type. Most subs enjoy a spanking now and again, but she isn't satisfied without it.
The Restrained
She enjoys being bound and controlled. Forcing her into a uncomfortable position and restraining her in a way that she can move only her head a little excites her. She is neither looking for pain nor pleasure but loss of control and the trust that comes with it. That is not to say that she is repelled by those, but it's not her main objective. This is also a fairly common type, but not as common as the painslut.
The Roper
This would be a subtype of the restrained. Not much to say about her other than the fact that she specifically loves the feeling of rope against her naked body.
The Fighter
If you're into role playing, then she is a dream coming true. The fighter sub combines painslut and restrained, also she adds an exquisite role playing experience to the mix. She will constantly challenge you and fight you at every opportunity, hence the name, all the while loving being forced down by you and enjoying both the restraint and punishments.
The Electroslut
I finally get to talk about Melissa. Electrosluts prefer e-stim and everything about it. Be it pain, muscle contractions or orgasms. They are usually incredibly fun to play with, because electricity has such a wide range of feelings it can cause. But it's also quite challenging to find the right settings for her. They vary based on a lot of things, including the body part, mood, sweat, state of mind... You're constantly balancing it out to find the right spot and maintain it. Not recommended for beginners, because you have to know your partner very good.
The orgasm-player
One of my absolute favorite types. Orgasm denial and forced orgasms are her favorite games. As a dom, I believe she is the best type to live out your worst sadistic tendencies. Keeping her at the verge of an orgasm for extended periods, my record is slightly over two hours, until she has lost hope that it will ever happen and then forcing orgasm after orgasm on her are among the most intense tortures you can administer. This is one of the few games that can in fact break her, so be careful not to overdo it.
The strangler
Breath play can be a great tool for intensifying both fear and pleasure. It's a unique feeling to orgasm while your mind gets drowsy from oxygen depravation. But be careful, if done wrong this is not without risk. A strangler sub is generally difficult to handle. Once she enters that drowsy state of mind, she trends to forget about limits and dangers, so as her dom you need to be careful. But once you get the timing down, she can be one of the most thankful types.
The Vampire
Yes, a cliche name, but you try to come up with a better one for blo0d play... ... Thought so.
This is rare type of sub, so I can't really say much because of only little experience. It's also important that the dom is into it as well, because even among D/s couples this is considered rather extreme. I met one only once and she wanted me to draw at least one liter of blood from her and then make her come several times. Apparently that heightens your sense of touch somewhat, but I sent her home.
Yes, even I have my hard limits.
The Patient
Medical play is also one of the rare things. Not as rare as blo0d play, but you don't meet them often. Yet, it is one of my kinks and Melissa likes it as well. You can compare this with a restrained, but including an assortment of medical equipment and tools. Speculums, catheters, sounding rods, gynecology chair, latex gloves... All part of this fetish and like above, it's something both partners must like to enjoy.
So much for the shorter one... And i'm still not done. These are just some of the basic types, a complete list would be considerably longer. Also, most subs are somewhat crossovers. In Melissas case, she is mainly an orgasm player, but secondarily both a restrained and a patient. As you can see, you can't just put a label on someone and be done with it. There are also a bunch of different dom types, but I'll keep that for later. For now, let me clear up a common misconception about submissive people.
Defiance.
Why do I do it to myself? I could have ended this one on the last paragraph, but no, I gotta finish it, otherwise I'm not satisfied. Alright, enough rambling.
What do you think when looking at this? Take a few seconds and really take it in. what stands out above all else? If you say her boobies, please go and jump off a high building.
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Amazing look in her eyes, isn't it? But sadly many people misunderstand it's message. I've found it on a bondage blog, followed by tons of comments like
"she needs to learn her place" or
"someone better teach her discipline"
Ummm... No? When I looked into those eyes, it ran shivers down my back. You want to know the actual message?
"You think you've got what it takes to break me? Bring it on!" How can they say anything else?
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Like this.
"That's all you've got?"
I especially love this one. Don't know why, but her eyes have captivated me from the first second I saw it. This kind of look is common and meant as a challenge to you, not disapproval or misbehavement of any kind. If you punish her for that, you are ruining what could become a wonderful fighter and might very well break the game for her, thereby making her loose interest in being a sub altogether. Instead, use it to grow as a dom.
You can't imagine the amazing feeling you get once that light fades and she has lost the fight, at least for that session.
"yellow" means as much as 'go slower'
"red" would be 'stop!'
Now that I've got that done, finally, let's start with the main topic. And thank god, it's a shorter one. I've covered most of the basics by now, so why don't we delve into the mind of a submissive a little deeper. What i'm going to give you is a rough, personal opinion based, estimate of the different sub types and they kinks. This is by no means a generally accepted list and doesn't use most of the 'classical' D/s vocabulary. It's more of a listing of general types as I have encountered them over the years.
The Painslut
As the name suggests, she's crazy for pain. And I specifically mean corporal punishment pain. Whipping, flogging, slapping... You name it, she loves it. It varies in intensity but some of them actually aren't happy until their skin broke and they can't sit for the next two days. While it's rare to encounter someone like that, the painslut in general is a common type. Most subs enjoy a spanking now and again, but she isn't satisfied without it.
The Restrained
She enjoys being bound and controlled. Forcing her into a uncomfortable position and restraining her in a way that she can move only her head a little excites her. She is neither looking for pain nor pleasure but loss of control and the trust that comes with it. That is not to say that she is repelled by those, but it's not her main objective. This is also a fairly common type, but not as common as the painslut.
The Roper
This would be a subtype of the restrained. Not much to say about her other than the fact that she specifically loves the feeling of rope against her naked body.
The Fighter
If you're into role playing, then she is a dream coming true. The fighter sub combines painslut and restrained, also she adds an exquisite role playing experience to the mix. She will constantly challenge you and fight you at every opportunity, hence the name, all the while loving being forced down by you and enjoying both the restraint and punishments.
The Electroslut
I finally get to talk about Melissa. Electrosluts prefer e-stim and everything about it. Be it pain, muscle contractions or orgasms. They are usually incredibly fun to play with, because electricity has such a wide range of feelings it can cause. But it's also quite challenging to find the right settings for her. They vary based on a lot of things, including the body part, mood, sweat, state of mind... You're constantly balancing it out to find the right spot and maintain it. Not recommended for beginners, because you have to know your partner very good.
The orgasm-player
One of my absolute favorite types. Orgasm denial and forced orgasms are her favorite games. As a dom, I believe she is the best type to live out your worst sadistic tendencies. Keeping her at the verge of an orgasm for extended periods, my record is slightly over two hours, until she has lost hope that it will ever happen and then forcing orgasm after orgasm on her are among the most intense tortures you can administer. This is one of the few games that can in fact break her, so be careful not to overdo it.
The strangler
Breath play can be a great tool for intensifying both fear and pleasure. It's a unique feeling to orgasm while your mind gets drowsy from oxygen depravation. But be careful, if done wrong this is not without risk. A strangler sub is generally difficult to handle. Once she enters that drowsy state of mind, she trends to forget about limits and dangers, so as her dom you need to be careful. But once you get the timing down, she can be one of the most thankful types.
The Vampire
Yes, a cliche name, but you try to come up with a better one for blo0d play... ... Thought so.
This is rare type of sub, so I can't really say much because of only little experience. It's also important that the dom is into it as well, because even among D/s couples this is considered rather extreme. I met one only once and she wanted me to draw at least one liter of blood from her and then make her come several times. Apparently that heightens your sense of touch somewhat, but I sent her home.
Yes, even I have my hard limits.
The Patient
Medical play is also one of the rare things. Not as rare as blo0d play, but you don't meet them often. Yet, it is one of my kinks and Melissa likes it as well. You can compare this with a restrained, but including an assortment of medical equipment and tools. Speculums, catheters, sounding rods, gynecology chair, latex gloves... All part of this fetish and like above, it's something both partners must like to enjoy.
So much for the shorter one... And i'm still not done. These are just some of the basic types, a complete list would be considerably longer. Also, most subs are somewhat crossovers. In Melissas case, she is mainly an orgasm player, but secondarily both a restrained and a patient. As you can see, you can't just put a label on someone and be done with it. There are also a bunch of different dom types, but I'll keep that for later. For now, let me clear up a common misconception about submissive people.
Defiance.
Why do I do it to myself? I could have ended this one on the last paragraph, but no, I gotta finish it, otherwise I'm not satisfied. Alright, enough rambling.
What do you think when looking at this? Take a few seconds and really take it in. what stands out above all else? If you say her boobies, please go and jump off a high building.
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Amazing look in her eyes, isn't it? But sadly many people misunderstand it's message. I've found it on a bondage blog, followed by tons of comments like
"she needs to learn her place" or
"someone better teach her discipline"
Ummm... No? When I looked into those eyes, it ran shivers down my back. You want to know the actual message?
"You think you've got what it takes to break me? Bring it on!" How can they say anything else?
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Like this.
"That's all you've got?"
I especially love this one. Don't know why, but her eyes have captivated me from the first second I saw it. This kind of look is common and meant as a challenge to you, not disapproval or misbehavement of any kind. If you punish her for that, you are ruining what could become a wonderful fighter and might very well break the game for her, thereby making her loose interest in being a sub altogether. Instead, use it to grow as a dom.
You can't imagine the amazing feeling you get once that light fades and she has lost the fight, at least for that session.
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