The captive heart.

Okay so the Christmas present for my wife went well. She accepted the meaning of it and had a laugh. She did release me about 5 hours later thinking it (the chastity cage) was hurting me, it was actually quite comfortable (luckily she did not stick the insert in, which is a bit annoying).

Now here is my problem... I actually love my wife to pieces. But I have to admit it has been hard for me over the last 18 months. We had a good sex life until her back problems struck. And then every thing stopped. Having had back problems in the long gone past myself I can understand. So don't get me wrong I hold the no sex part of our relationship without a grudge at all.

So as I get up well before her in the morning it was my ritual to come down to our office get on the internet and masturbate to porn. This left me feeling a bit guilty as I knew I was getting off and she wasn't. But I still knew I had to have release for men's health reasons. I discovered the ruined orgasm. It's a release but without any intense feelings. Yes I gush out but no knee quivering sense of enjoyment.

This type of release satisfies me for about 2 weeks. Yet (amazingly) when I was cuddling my wife last week I actually came in my pants, mind you I had not had a release in about 4 weeks. The mind is a wonderful thing.

So I guess that is why I gave my wonderful wife a chastity cage to put on me for Christmas. As a bit of a sign of solidarity. To show that I know what she is going through and that I understand she is currently affaid of having an orgasm due to the possible reactions it may have on her back.

That being said that little cage has opened a new line of dialoge for us and hopefully this weekend we might, with the proper planning and lots of pillows, get to have sex for the first time in a long time. Wish us luck.

Funny how a little steel toy that prevents sex can open up new ideas that may lead to making love.
I gues some times you just have to think outside the box..