Just kinky, not a victim

So, I was having a conversation with a female friend and we got on the topic of how people seem to assume that if you really, really like to have sex (especially kinky stuff), then you must have been m*****ed in your past. Neither of us have had a "bad touch" experience, but we love sex and have engaged in a lot of different types of kinky action. (Swinging, gangbangs, 3somes, public play, etc..)

I understand that there are many people out there who have unfortunately been sexually abused or attacked. Sexual abuse and sexual assault is not atrocious, infuriating, sad and inexcusable. I also understand that survivors of sexual abuse and sexual assault have different reactions to their particular incidents which include depression, anger, hyper sexual activity, and recreating the attack. All that being said, just because your sexual activity does not fall into the category where the general population would consider "normal" doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you or you are dealing with the after affects of a sexual assault.