How 2 be a stud n keep her happy
The grande dame of adult films, Nina Hartley, tells you how to become a legendary lover.
I’ve been a sex performer and active swinger for 25 years, and I’ve had hundreds of miles of dick—the good, the bad, the ugly and Ron Jeremy. Every good stud has a solid understanding of basic biology, both his and mine. Nothing turns me off faster than clumsy handling from an overeager or clueless guy.
Good hygiene and good manners aside (careful with that cologne, Eugene), my attraction to a man isn’t necessarily about external appearances. I’m not hung up on six-pack abs or horse dicks. It’s about confidence. A sexy man has a sense of humor without being sarcastic. He’s self-aware but not an egomaniac. He can accept what I like in bed without feeling bruised. He can tell me what his preferences are without making me feel pressured. I fuck men with whom I feel sexy, beautiful and safe. A self-assured man doesn’t tell tales out of bed. If I think you’ll blab back at the office, then I’ll never take it up the ass from you.
In addition to the right mind-set, the successful stud has a grasp—as it were—of the key technical priorities. These are not rocket science, and there is no excuse for not familiarizing yourself with them.
Super-studs know how to kiss, setting the tone, which can be playful, romantic, lusty, nasty or even perverse. For best results, keep your mouth about the same size as mine and don’t attempt a lingual tonsillectomy. Especially effective: Breathe your breath into me; inhale my breath into you.
Confident men have the confident touch. Know how to use your hands. When I’m swoony from kissing, firmly grope and fondle my tits and ass. Use one hand to hold me close while sliding the other up my neck into my hair. Squeeze an ass cheek, stretching my ass-hole, making me unavoidably aware of my tingling crotch. Whisper in my ear, urging me to clench my pussy. The combination of talking, squeezing and stretching turns up the heat. Pussies like to be handled firmly but not oafishly, so grasp mine with your fingers curled over my cunt. Rock the heel of your hand over my pubic bone until I make happy noises.
Assuming we’re both out of our clothes by now, take a nipple between your fingers and sloooowly pinch it. Remember that nipple sensitivity varies from day to day. Don’t go over the limit, or you might find yourself watching me put my bra back on. Invite me to work your dick as you manipulate my pussy, but don’t yank my hand down there. Trust me; I know where you keep it. And don’t forget about the rest of me. The whole body is an erogenous zone when properly explored.
Good kissing also counts below the belt. If you’re not willing to munch muff eagerly and capably, expect no monster skull in return. No fancy flicking or writing the alphabet backwards with your tongue. Leave the high-speed action for the vibrator. Just vacuum in a mouthful of pussy and suck methodically and firmly on my clit, tugging and pulling on it. Don’t forget to keep your choppers out of the way. You’ll know you’re doing the job right when I hold your head and hump your face. If I jerk as if my finger is stuck in a light socket, you’re hanging tongue too hard or fast, so back off.
Don’t rush to get your fingers inside me, and when you finally do, keep in mind that deep pressure against the muscles, not frantic frigging, feels the most cock like. Keep your nails clean, short and smooth. When I’m good and juicy, stretch my fuck hole slowly and steadily by adding more fingers until I squeeze your digits—then relax and repeat. Soon I’ll be humping your hand and wanting your cock! The longer you can hold out before penetrating me, the better.
Any stud deserving of the title knows how to communicate his desires and negotiate limits. Find out well in advance if oral pops are all right, or if I prefer you to spray your spunk on a different body part. I don’t care what you saw in a movie, keep that stuff away from my hair, and especially my eyes: red, bloodshot eyes are a mood killer. If condoms are requested, no whining or complaining allowed. Just be sure to have your least hated brand with you, and don’t make an issue over it. I hate them too, but that’s how it is until we both agree otherwise.
Super-studs are open-minded, ready and able to incorporate toys, vibrators and games into sex play without feeling insecure or cracking lame jokes. If technology makes me eager to jump your ass, what’s the problem? Think of sex toys as labor-saving devices. They get you where you want to go with less effort, and the more orgasms I experience with you the more likely I am to welcome a repeat performance.
Each body is different. It’s extremely counter productive to give ’tude if my orgasmic process needs more or different help than the last chick you boned. Just be grateful for modern science and enjoy the show. You can always help by doing boob duty, sucking some face, fingering my ass or using a toy in my pussy if I ask for it.
The single most important skill a super-stud possesses is cock control: Delay your orgasm until the right moment. Since the average guy comes after about five minutes of fucking, and the average woman wouldn't mind at least 20, you can see how your control is crucial to my enjoyment and why toys and vibrators are your friends, not your rivals. Correct timing takes practice to acquire, so do your homework—at home.
Super-studs are not afraid of full-body pleasure. Delaying your climax will result in a stronger, more powerful orgasm, with greater volume and distance when you shoot your seed, as well as more pleasure for her.
As much fun as porn is to watch, much of the onscreen action doesn’t translate well in private. In porn, everything needs to be open to the camera. At home, I want to feel you holding me close. Think of the muscles surrounding the opening of my pussy as a fulcrum and your hard cock as a lever, and “seesaw” your dick into the best spots, letting my auditory cues be your guide. The G spot is only about two inches inside my pussy, along the top wall, so any cock can reach it. Your strokes don’t have to be very long, and if there’s enough space between our bodies I can play with my clit and get off from the double stimulation.
Super-studs know their limits, coming before they go numb. And just because you’ve finished doesn’t mean you’re done. If your ejaculation is external, be a gentleman and help out with the baby wipes. Super-studs don’t fall asleep before they make their partners happy, so the more effectively you’ve satisfied me before you come, the sooner you can go u*********s afterwards.
I know this seems like a lot to learn, but getting laid well, and regularly, is worth any amount of study and effort. From the neck down, all women (including me) are more alike than different. Learn how to deal with me from the neck up as an individual and not just a collection of body parts, and you’ll be fine.
I’ve been a sex performer and active swinger for 25 years, and I’ve had hundreds of miles of dick—the good, the bad, the ugly and Ron Jeremy. Every good stud has a solid understanding of basic biology, both his and mine. Nothing turns me off faster than clumsy handling from an overeager or clueless guy.
Good hygiene and good manners aside (careful with that cologne, Eugene), my attraction to a man isn’t necessarily about external appearances. I’m not hung up on six-pack abs or horse dicks. It’s about confidence. A sexy man has a sense of humor without being sarcastic. He’s self-aware but not an egomaniac. He can accept what I like in bed without feeling bruised. He can tell me what his preferences are without making me feel pressured. I fuck men with whom I feel sexy, beautiful and safe. A self-assured man doesn’t tell tales out of bed. If I think you’ll blab back at the office, then I’ll never take it up the ass from you.
In addition to the right mind-set, the successful stud has a grasp—as it were—of the key technical priorities. These are not rocket science, and there is no excuse for not familiarizing yourself with them.
Super-studs know how to kiss, setting the tone, which can be playful, romantic, lusty, nasty or even perverse. For best results, keep your mouth about the same size as mine and don’t attempt a lingual tonsillectomy. Especially effective: Breathe your breath into me; inhale my breath into you.
Confident men have the confident touch. Know how to use your hands. When I’m swoony from kissing, firmly grope and fondle my tits and ass. Use one hand to hold me close while sliding the other up my neck into my hair. Squeeze an ass cheek, stretching my ass-hole, making me unavoidably aware of my tingling crotch. Whisper in my ear, urging me to clench my pussy. The combination of talking, squeezing and stretching turns up the heat. Pussies like to be handled firmly but not oafishly, so grasp mine with your fingers curled over my cunt. Rock the heel of your hand over my pubic bone until I make happy noises.
Assuming we’re both out of our clothes by now, take a nipple between your fingers and sloooowly pinch it. Remember that nipple sensitivity varies from day to day. Don’t go over the limit, or you might find yourself watching me put my bra back on. Invite me to work your dick as you manipulate my pussy, but don’t yank my hand down there. Trust me; I know where you keep it. And don’t forget about the rest of me. The whole body is an erogenous zone when properly explored.
Good kissing also counts below the belt. If you’re not willing to munch muff eagerly and capably, expect no monster skull in return. No fancy flicking or writing the alphabet backwards with your tongue. Leave the high-speed action for the vibrator. Just vacuum in a mouthful of pussy and suck methodically and firmly on my clit, tugging and pulling on it. Don’t forget to keep your choppers out of the way. You’ll know you’re doing the job right when I hold your head and hump your face. If I jerk as if my finger is stuck in a light socket, you’re hanging tongue too hard or fast, so back off.
Don’t rush to get your fingers inside me, and when you finally do, keep in mind that deep pressure against the muscles, not frantic frigging, feels the most cock like. Keep your nails clean, short and smooth. When I’m good and juicy, stretch my fuck hole slowly and steadily by adding more fingers until I squeeze your digits—then relax and repeat. Soon I’ll be humping your hand and wanting your cock! The longer you can hold out before penetrating me, the better.
Any stud deserving of the title knows how to communicate his desires and negotiate limits. Find out well in advance if oral pops are all right, or if I prefer you to spray your spunk on a different body part. I don’t care what you saw in a movie, keep that stuff away from my hair, and especially my eyes: red, bloodshot eyes are a mood killer. If condoms are requested, no whining or complaining allowed. Just be sure to have your least hated brand with you, and don’t make an issue over it. I hate them too, but that’s how it is until we both agree otherwise.
Super-studs are open-minded, ready and able to incorporate toys, vibrators and games into sex play without feeling insecure or cracking lame jokes. If technology makes me eager to jump your ass, what’s the problem? Think of sex toys as labor-saving devices. They get you where you want to go with less effort, and the more orgasms I experience with you the more likely I am to welcome a repeat performance.
Each body is different. It’s extremely counter productive to give ’tude if my orgasmic process needs more or different help than the last chick you boned. Just be grateful for modern science and enjoy the show. You can always help by doing boob duty, sucking some face, fingering my ass or using a toy in my pussy if I ask for it.
The single most important skill a super-stud possesses is cock control: Delay your orgasm until the right moment. Since the average guy comes after about five minutes of fucking, and the average woman wouldn't mind at least 20, you can see how your control is crucial to my enjoyment and why toys and vibrators are your friends, not your rivals. Correct timing takes practice to acquire, so do your homework—at home.
Super-studs are not afraid of full-body pleasure. Delaying your climax will result in a stronger, more powerful orgasm, with greater volume and distance when you shoot your seed, as well as more pleasure for her.
As much fun as porn is to watch, much of the onscreen action doesn’t translate well in private. In porn, everything needs to be open to the camera. At home, I want to feel you holding me close. Think of the muscles surrounding the opening of my pussy as a fulcrum and your hard cock as a lever, and “seesaw” your dick into the best spots, letting my auditory cues be your guide. The G spot is only about two inches inside my pussy, along the top wall, so any cock can reach it. Your strokes don’t have to be very long, and if there’s enough space between our bodies I can play with my clit and get off from the double stimulation.
Super-studs know their limits, coming before they go numb. And just because you’ve finished doesn’t mean you’re done. If your ejaculation is external, be a gentleman and help out with the baby wipes. Super-studs don’t fall asleep before they make their partners happy, so the more effectively you’ve satisfied me before you come, the sooner you can go u*********s afterwards.
I know this seems like a lot to learn, but getting laid well, and regularly, is worth any amount of study and effort. From the neck down, all women (including me) are more alike than different. Learn how to deal with me from the neck up as an individual and not just a collection of body parts, and you’ll be fine.
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