I Am a Slut and These Are My Rules of Engagement

I live with a premise that life is full of unbelievable beauty, undiscovered possibilities, unexpected connections, thrilling energies, mind-blowing sensations, and wondrous surprises. I love exploring it, tasting it, and living it to the fullest.

I am proud to be a polyamorous, dirty, sex-driven slut. I love diversity and adventure. I am attracted to people who are unique, eccentric, and maybe even a little dark and crazy - in a good way.
I enjoy playing, spending time with, and having sex with multiple partners. I love many and I love being loved by many.

I deeply cherish each relationship I am in.

While I enjoy casual sex on occasion, I have strong preference for romance, dedication, closeness, and commitment. Intimacy is wonderful and incredibly arousing to me.

At the foundation of all my relationships are love, care, and respect: for myself, for my partners, and for their loved ones. I value emotional intelligence and sexual openness.

I am not willing to enter into a relationship that may cause harm to other people. I am looking for adventure, pleasure, and friendship, not for making life more complicated than it already is.
I have absolutely no desire or intention to take anyone away from anyone or otherwise affect negatively any existing relationship. I don’t want anyone to feel hurt, unhappy, insecure, or uncomfortable because of me or my actions. Even a thought that this might happen makes me very anxious.

I have no intention or desire to be anyone’s “partner in crime;” in other words, I do not engage in intimate relationships with people who cheat on their partners. I do not judge them; I simply cannot not thrive in an atmosphere of secrecy, lies, drama, and guilt. To me, transparency and communication are key to successful polyamory.

By the same token, I do not become intimate with anyone knowing that their partners view me as a threat or source of insecurity, at least until these feelings are adequately addressed. I am always happy to be a part of such a conversation but this is not a requirement.

I am fortunate to be happily married to a wonderful man with whom I share a belief that nonconformity, including ethical, safe non-monogamy, is worth pursuing. I am not looking into changing my life upside down. I have simply let go of a paradigm that having feelings for, and sharing amazing moments with more than one partner is inherently wrong or immoral.

My boyfriend is the love of my life and my primary partner. We are both poly and our family is our priority. I will not engage in or tolerate any behavior that may jeopardize our relationship. Similarly, I will not engage in any behavior that may hamper his or other people’s relationships.

I have a blanket permission to date, play with, and fuck people of my choice. This is based on love and trust, and it is extremely gratifying and fulfilling.