Wait - Am I high maintenance or just normal?
Not all that long ago I wrote a post about how I felt that I was a high maintenance kind of gal. I had these needs and wants and they never got meet and I was beginning to think that there was something wrong with me.
After I wrote that, I had a number of people tell me that I was not high maintenance, that what I was wanting was just normal. I laughed it off and thought they were just trying to make me feel better. I mean they were friends and people I talked with so of course they were going to try to make me feel better, right.
Today I read a wonderful post on the fetish site I belong to. It was titled "45 things every girl wants but will never tell you. "Let me tell you, that list was insightful. And now...it has me rethinking that position.
This list is my high maintenance list. Everything on it is everything I want and have never gotten and what I need - not all at one time, but I need that affirmation that my love is being returned. This list is me, in a nutshell. Now to have someone else write the list, and to find that they found the list somewhere else and copied it, and that they agreed with it, I am thinking what?
If this list exists out there, if so many women are looking for exactly the same things that I am looking for then I am not alone, then I can't be the only one feeling this way. Wait - does that mean I am high maintenance or not? Are all women high maintenance because we want our men to show us that they love us, to make us feel safe in their arms and loved and wanted? Or is this just the normal workings of a woman and men have no clue?
I take that back, I am sorry men. There are some of you our there that have figured this out, that have realized that we woman are fragile (don't hate me for saying that, but we are - yes we can be strong and stand up for ourselves, but when it comes to being loved, we are fragile) we need him to reassure us, to spoil us with his actions, hugging us holding us close, letting us know by the way he treats us that he can't get enough of being with us.
So, I am back at the beginning again, does this make me high maintenance or not? I don't know. All I do know is that it is going to take a man willing to listen to this list, to really understand a woman, and her nature to be spoiled and shown - not just told, that she is loved to fill that void in my life.
After I wrote that, I had a number of people tell me that I was not high maintenance, that what I was wanting was just normal. I laughed it off and thought they were just trying to make me feel better. I mean they were friends and people I talked with so of course they were going to try to make me feel better, right.
Today I read a wonderful post on the fetish site I belong to. It was titled "45 things every girl wants but will never tell you. "Let me tell you, that list was insightful. And now...it has me rethinking that position.
This list is my high maintenance list. Everything on it is everything I want and have never gotten and what I need - not all at one time, but I need that affirmation that my love is being returned. This list is me, in a nutshell. Now to have someone else write the list, and to find that they found the list somewhere else and copied it, and that they agreed with it, I am thinking what?
If this list exists out there, if so many women are looking for exactly the same things that I am looking for then I am not alone, then I can't be the only one feeling this way. Wait - does that mean I am high maintenance or not? Are all women high maintenance because we want our men to show us that they love us, to make us feel safe in their arms and loved and wanted? Or is this just the normal workings of a woman and men have no clue?
I take that back, I am sorry men. There are some of you our there that have figured this out, that have realized that we woman are fragile (don't hate me for saying that, but we are - yes we can be strong and stand up for ourselves, but when it comes to being loved, we are fragile) we need him to reassure us, to spoil us with his actions, hugging us holding us close, letting us know by the way he treats us that he can't get enough of being with us.
So, I am back at the beginning again, does this make me high maintenance or not? I don't know. All I do know is that it is going to take a man willing to listen to this list, to really understand a woman, and her nature to be spoiled and shown - not just told, that she is loved to fill that void in my life.
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