A "falling out" of friends
I have been around the block and from my travels and experiences have developed some wisdoms.
One is my observations on why there becomes a "falling out" among so-called "friends".
Sorry to say, but it is likely that most of us will go through life and have just a few real friends who will be there when it counts. Most people will disappoint you, like having "bad" brakes on a car. If you need a little stop you have it. But if you really need your brakes to function well to avoid an accident, you may or may not have what you need. But usually you only find out when it is too late.
An underlying cause of a "falling out" is the difference in ethics between two people. One (the good one) will have better ethics than the other (the bad one). Over time, the bad one will do little things to take advantage of their "friend", or otherwise be unreliable. The good one will often seem to overlook the small indiscretions, for the sake of maintaining the relationship. But everything is noted.
A problem will arise in one way when the bad one goes too far. The bad one will ask too much or take too much, and the good one is will object. Then the bad one gets all indignant at the accusation.
In another situation, the bad one will wrongfully accuse the good one of something, and this upsets the good one, who then has to speak up and sets the bad one straight by stating the true facts and who is really at fault in all the circumstances. Then the bad one gets all indignant and there is an argument.
It is very difficult to tolerate a bad person telling you that you are the one who is fucking up.
As an alternative to a "falling out", sometimes the good one just drifts away from the bad one without any confrontation. This is after concluding there is little or no value to the relationship.
Unfortunately, if someone has poor character, there is little or nothing you can do.
There is a saying that: the quality of your life is dependent on the character of the people you associate with. Once you realize this, you may avoid some surprises and hopefully will improve you life by your personal choices of friends and associates.
One is my observations on why there becomes a "falling out" among so-called "friends".
Sorry to say, but it is likely that most of us will go through life and have just a few real friends who will be there when it counts. Most people will disappoint you, like having "bad" brakes on a car. If you need a little stop you have it. But if you really need your brakes to function well to avoid an accident, you may or may not have what you need. But usually you only find out when it is too late.
An underlying cause of a "falling out" is the difference in ethics between two people. One (the good one) will have better ethics than the other (the bad one). Over time, the bad one will do little things to take advantage of their "friend", or otherwise be unreliable. The good one will often seem to overlook the small indiscretions, for the sake of maintaining the relationship. But everything is noted.
A problem will arise in one way when the bad one goes too far. The bad one will ask too much or take too much, and the good one is will object. Then the bad one gets all indignant at the accusation.
In another situation, the bad one will wrongfully accuse the good one of something, and this upsets the good one, who then has to speak up and sets the bad one straight by stating the true facts and who is really at fault in all the circumstances. Then the bad one gets all indignant and there is an argument.
It is very difficult to tolerate a bad person telling you that you are the one who is fucking up.
As an alternative to a "falling out", sometimes the good one just drifts away from the bad one without any confrontation. This is after concluding there is little or no value to the relationship.
Unfortunately, if someone has poor character, there is little or nothing you can do.
There is a saying that: the quality of your life is dependent on the character of the people you associate with. Once you realize this, you may avoid some surprises and hopefully will improve you life by your personal choices of friends and associates.
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