Strap-on sex - Why is so hard for women to accept?
As a straight guy, who has never experienced any kind of strap-on or simmiliar in bedroom activities, I'm of ashamed at this point and also afraid to come out here. Since I've first time seen strap-on in a video, few years ago, I cannot stop thinking about trying it out. I find it very attractive and a great turn-on, but when it comes to actually trying it out..it becomes complicated. Very complicated.
I've came out to my ex. girlfriend few years back with it, and we even tried it once with her vibrator. Actually it wasn't pounding as you can see it in hardcore videos, but.."we tried it". After that, she was disgusted. She didn't wanted to do it again. She made me feel ashamed of my sexuality and my sexual orientation(?). There wasn't any kind of any accidents or anything like that, she just felt it gross and thought, it is not a thing for straight men. Which made me feel guilty and feel bad for her.
After a break-up, she..even told people around, what I like and we tried..which made me feel even worse after all. But I moved to another city where I know less people. Life moved on and I've got a new girlfriend. SHe is sweet, awesome, great person..but when it comes to sex, here it stops. Few positions and that's it. Using a dildo for her(!) at sex or wearing sexy lingerie...that would be already a thing, that she wouldn't do in a lifetime. Asking for a strap-on? Not even in million years and I'd be single in few following seconds.
So my question here is: Why is it so hard to accept for woman, that even men sometimes like to feel less-powered and sub-ordinate to a woman(..not into BDSM..or perhaps that too..) by that kind of sex? I don't want to force women to do that, that'd be very inappropriate thing to do from many points of view, but just accept that fact?
I cannot, although I really wish to, feel that moment of being a grabbed around hips and pulled toward woman's hips and be pushed away. It would make me feel myself. And felt less-powered toward woman.
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I've came out to my ex. girlfriend few years back with it, and we even tried it once with her vibrator. Actually it wasn't pounding as you can see it in hardcore videos, but.."we tried it". After that, she was disgusted. She didn't wanted to do it again. She made me feel ashamed of my sexuality and my sexual orientation(?). There wasn't any kind of any accidents or anything like that, she just felt it gross and thought, it is not a thing for straight men. Which made me feel guilty and feel bad for her.
After a break-up, she..even told people around, what I like and we tried..which made me feel even worse after all. But I moved to another city where I know less people. Life moved on and I've got a new girlfriend. SHe is sweet, awesome, great person..but when it comes to sex, here it stops. Few positions and that's it. Using a dildo for her(!) at sex or wearing sexy lingerie...that would be already a thing, that she wouldn't do in a lifetime. Asking for a strap-on? Not even in million years and I'd be single in few following seconds.
So my question here is: Why is it so hard to accept for woman, that even men sometimes like to feel less-powered and sub-ordinate to a woman(..not into BDSM..or perhaps that too..) by that kind of sex? I don't want to force women to do that, that'd be very inappropriate thing to do from many points of view, but just accept that fact?
I cannot, although I really wish to, feel that moment of being a grabbed around hips and pulled toward woman's hips and be pushed away. It would make me feel myself. And felt less-powered toward woman.
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