How I view friendship on XH
There are many different types of friends, from casual acquaintances to BFF's. I have friends in real life - I want friends here who offer me something that my RL friends don't. To my surprise, I've found quite a few here who do just that. Some are friends no longer (for various reasons) but I enjoyed the time when they were. Following, in no particular order, are some of my expectations of my friends here.
1. Show some interest in me. Ask me questions about my life, likes and dislikes, music, etc. I may choose not to answer but at least it tells me that you care about me. Being your friend should bring me some benefit, in addition to basking in the glow of your personality. If, after 100 or more PM's, you don't know if I have pets or what my favorite dessert is, or even what my birthday is,perhaps you should ask yourself why someone would want you as *their* friend. I know enough people in real life who are totally self-centered, I don't need more here.
2. Tell me things about you. I want to get to know my friends. I don't expect you to tell me your deepest secrets, but don't just send me links to songs. Or at least tell me why you chose that song to send.
3. Be a kind and decent person. If you're sexist, racist, homophobic, heterophobic, etc., I don't want you as my friend. If you actively support someone who is some or all of those things, I don't want you as my friend. At present, there is one exception to that last condition. I don't expect there will ever be another.
4. Have a sense of humor. Most people love to laugh and I'm no exception. Even more than laughing, I enjoy making people laugh. (Hmm, replace "laugh" with "cum" and you've got my attitude toward sex, LOL). See what I mean? If I can't figure out what makes you laugh, help me to do so (again, replace "laugh" with "cum", LOL again). Tell me a joke or describe a cartoon, etc.
5. Bring up topics for discussion. Don't just respond to my questions. I don't consider myself the world's best conversationalist. Help me out. As we get more comfortable with each other, conversation will flow more easily.
6. Other than rule number 3, I'm not easily offended. Asking me what I do with my wife in bed won't get you an answer...but it won't offend me. Unless you keep asking.
This list is a starting point. I may change it or add to it as I think of additional things.
1. Show some interest in me. Ask me questions about my life, likes and dislikes, music, etc. I may choose not to answer but at least it tells me that you care about me. Being your friend should bring me some benefit, in addition to basking in the glow of your personality. If, after 100 or more PM's, you don't know if I have pets or what my favorite dessert is, or even what my birthday is,perhaps you should ask yourself why someone would want you as *their* friend. I know enough people in real life who are totally self-centered, I don't need more here.
2. Tell me things about you. I want to get to know my friends. I don't expect you to tell me your deepest secrets, but don't just send me links to songs. Or at least tell me why you chose that song to send.
3. Be a kind and decent person. If you're sexist, racist, homophobic, heterophobic, etc., I don't want you as my friend. If you actively support someone who is some or all of those things, I don't want you as my friend. At present, there is one exception to that last condition. I don't expect there will ever be another.
4. Have a sense of humor. Most people love to laugh and I'm no exception. Even more than laughing, I enjoy making people laugh. (Hmm, replace "laugh" with "cum" and you've got my attitude toward sex, LOL). See what I mean? If I can't figure out what makes you laugh, help me to do so (again, replace "laugh" with "cum", LOL again). Tell me a joke or describe a cartoon, etc.
5. Bring up topics for discussion. Don't just respond to my questions. I don't consider myself the world's best conversationalist. Help me out. As we get more comfortable with each other, conversation will flow more easily.
6. Other than rule number 3, I'm not easily offended. Asking me what I do with my wife in bed won't get you an answer...but it won't offend me. Unless you keep asking.
This list is a starting point. I may change it or add to it as I think of additional things.
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