Why ts women?
I've been asked this recently, which I wasn't really sure how to answer because I've never really thought about it myself. If you haven't read my bio I'm a bisexual cis-male (as in born that way and its how I feel).
I guess I have a thing for ts women because my first trans girlfriend "Lucy" (I will refrain from naming names online) really meant a lot to me. I really like the "alternative girl" look, some would say slightly nerdy even, which she had down to a tee, which also pushed all my buttons the right way. The funny thing was we met in a gay bar but even after talking to each other for a while we never pegged each other for why we were there. It was only after last call that I was drunk enough to let the penis take control and we ended up sleeping together that night. I think the main thing that really made it work for me was not the fact that she was ts, but that we had the same interests and really got on well together as a couple. Which is really why I think it worked so well for me, we could have been a cis couple or anything else even and it we would have still been good together. So, it didn't take long for me to fall for Lucy and we dated for slightly over two years when she was laid off from her job and decided to go back to school and get a degree - In the US. Long story short (because this is getting slightly off topic) we ended up parting ways, tried to do the email thing and the "friend" thing but that shit really never works out in the end.
So there's that, I still have feelings for Lucy (15+ years ago), and I look back on our relationship as one of the best in my life. I think that as a factor in my preferences, it may just be a bias because Lucy was transgender. But when I moved to the "big city" which had a much larger LGBT community, I noticed a common theme: Most gay bars were mainly populated by gay men with a smattering of lesbian women who mainly kept to themselves in their prospective groups - like in high school. Being bi means you can either blend in with the guys and you generally know how your night's going to end, or you can hang around the smaller fringe groups (I have always generally given gay women their space, not that I dislike lesbians, but mainly for fear of being mistaken for some random straight who's wandered in to perv at them, which I've seen happen, and also watched pervs get knocked the fuck out). These groups encompass the TQIA portion of LGBTQIA and sometimes they are absent depending on the size of the city/town that you are in. Sometimes they are present and sometimes they feel detached from the main groups because there aren't many or any other people who they can relate to. I have also noticed that even within the generally accepting and tolerant gay community there are sometimes ignorant or irrational attitudes towards the BTQIA. It's really just down to human nature at times, I've never had any trouble with anyone, but being bi or trans can mean that you are sometimes on your own and you feel very isolated. When this happened to me post-Lucy I found myself gravitating more and more towards the handful of CD or trans women who sometimes drank at the bar I frequented. So that is certainly a contributing factor, the statistical limitations of the LGBT community dating pool and it's smaller sub-groups.
Since then, I've had a limited number of one night stands and two other steady relationships with trans women, both of whom are people I have happy memories of. So, of three gfs I've had none worked out in the long run but I was pretty happy. I think that being bi may add a little more to the answer than I may realize. Of course it's essential for bedroom activities, but I wouldn't describe myself as a "chaser" or specifically after trans women just for sex. By the way, if you are a cis-gender and a trans woman says that you are a chaser, guess what - suck it up, your a chaser. Don't like it? Tough, we enter their social circles as a guest, that does not give you the right to be offended and rage comment about how enlightened and caring you are online. Every minority has their nuances and lingo, which are rights that they are entitled to, due to the burden that society places on them. Sorry, rant over.
At any rate, I guess it's kinda nice not having to deal with body hair (I have had a one nighter with a bear, nice dick well built and certainly cuddly, but I still get cold shivers when I see angora sweaters), but really that's hardly a reason for an LTR or even a one night stand, ...ok...or a bj in the men's room even. I think physically I just have my "type" and it gets me going. Looking back, regardless of gender, I've generally thought that the people I've been with were cute. Lucy was definitely cute and was probably someone who I would point to if I were asked to give an example of my "type". I find more now than when I was in my twenties, facial features are more important to me, specifically eyes. Also, I tend to avoid "mainstream" looks, or what you see on magazine covers and vanilla porn stars. Character is important, and sexy.
I'm not sure why I took the time to put this mess together, it might not really answer the question even. I kinda needed to vent a little on the subject and if anyone was wondering why it might shed a little light on the subject. Anyway, there you have it.
I guess I have a thing for ts women because my first trans girlfriend "Lucy" (I will refrain from naming names online) really meant a lot to me. I really like the "alternative girl" look, some would say slightly nerdy even, which she had down to a tee, which also pushed all my buttons the right way. The funny thing was we met in a gay bar but even after talking to each other for a while we never pegged each other for why we were there. It was only after last call that I was drunk enough to let the penis take control and we ended up sleeping together that night. I think the main thing that really made it work for me was not the fact that she was ts, but that we had the same interests and really got on well together as a couple. Which is really why I think it worked so well for me, we could have been a cis couple or anything else even and it we would have still been good together. So, it didn't take long for me to fall for Lucy and we dated for slightly over two years when she was laid off from her job and decided to go back to school and get a degree - In the US. Long story short (because this is getting slightly off topic) we ended up parting ways, tried to do the email thing and the "friend" thing but that shit really never works out in the end.
So there's that, I still have feelings for Lucy (15+ years ago), and I look back on our relationship as one of the best in my life. I think that as a factor in my preferences, it may just be a bias because Lucy was transgender. But when I moved to the "big city" which had a much larger LGBT community, I noticed a common theme: Most gay bars were mainly populated by gay men with a smattering of lesbian women who mainly kept to themselves in their prospective groups - like in high school. Being bi means you can either blend in with the guys and you generally know how your night's going to end, or you can hang around the smaller fringe groups (I have always generally given gay women their space, not that I dislike lesbians, but mainly for fear of being mistaken for some random straight who's wandered in to perv at them, which I've seen happen, and also watched pervs get knocked the fuck out). These groups encompass the TQIA portion of LGBTQIA and sometimes they are absent depending on the size of the city/town that you are in. Sometimes they are present and sometimes they feel detached from the main groups because there aren't many or any other people who they can relate to. I have also noticed that even within the generally accepting and tolerant gay community there are sometimes ignorant or irrational attitudes towards the BTQIA. It's really just down to human nature at times, I've never had any trouble with anyone, but being bi or trans can mean that you are sometimes on your own and you feel very isolated. When this happened to me post-Lucy I found myself gravitating more and more towards the handful of CD or trans women who sometimes drank at the bar I frequented. So that is certainly a contributing factor, the statistical limitations of the LGBT community dating pool and it's smaller sub-groups.
Since then, I've had a limited number of one night stands and two other steady relationships with trans women, both of whom are people I have happy memories of. So, of three gfs I've had none worked out in the long run but I was pretty happy. I think that being bi may add a little more to the answer than I may realize. Of course it's essential for bedroom activities, but I wouldn't describe myself as a "chaser" or specifically after trans women just for sex. By the way, if you are a cis-gender and a trans woman says that you are a chaser, guess what - suck it up, your a chaser. Don't like it? Tough, we enter their social circles as a guest, that does not give you the right to be offended and rage comment about how enlightened and caring you are online. Every minority has their nuances and lingo, which are rights that they are entitled to, due to the burden that society places on them. Sorry, rant over.
At any rate, I guess it's kinda nice not having to deal with body hair (I have had a one nighter with a bear, nice dick well built and certainly cuddly, but I still get cold shivers when I see angora sweaters), but really that's hardly a reason for an LTR or even a one night stand, ...ok...or a bj in the men's room even. I think physically I just have my "type" and it gets me going. Looking back, regardless of gender, I've generally thought that the people I've been with were cute. Lucy was definitely cute and was probably someone who I would point to if I were asked to give an example of my "type". I find more now than when I was in my twenties, facial features are more important to me, specifically eyes. Also, I tend to avoid "mainstream" looks, or what you see on magazine covers and vanilla porn stars. Character is important, and sexy.
I'm not sure why I took the time to put this mess together, it might not really answer the question even. I kinda needed to vent a little on the subject and if anyone was wondering why it might shed a little light on the subject. Anyway, there you have it.
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