Long term chastity. Why and how so far.
As some of you know from personal messages or my introduction or from the chastity boards elsewhere I have been in chastity for a period between 7 and 21 days between orgasms since October 2013.
This has helped me to deal with my porn and masturbation addiction a lot as with the restricted access to my penis, it simply wasn't possible.
While at the beginning I was still allowed to masturbate sometimes when it was time to unlock me, this has been restricted since New Years Eve 2014 which marked the last day I have brought myself to an orgasm.
For over 19 months now I have been completely dependent on my keyholder/disciplinarian for sexual relief.
I did think that this disconnect between my orgasms and me would help me further tackle my masturbation problem, however when for my birthday in June I was offered a day without a cage to do what I want in return for 21days without orgasm I was very tempted, going through that day in my head a million times, looking forward to binge masturbate to all the hot videos I saved during the time that I always hoped one day be able to masturbate to.
In the end, I declined the offer as I had 2 periods of 21 days without orgasm before and remembered how tough and frustrating they were, so I just stuck to my 7 to 21 routine which at that time was really a 7 day routine for months as I managed to work the system of rules and tasks we had set up very well.
This however made me realize that I still, even though my orgasms had been restricted so severely, from 6 to 8 a day to at the most once a week, I was still slave to my sexual urges. That weekly orgasm was something I craved and felt entitled to.
While the chastity in the last years has given me all the time and social life back that I would have spent binge masturbating or planning when next to masturbate, it didn't help with the underlying issue the way I would have wished.
So after much consideration we decided that we would attempt a long time chastity period without orgasm until at least Christmas this year. We have read some forum posts and blogs where people who went through this experience claimed that longer periods lead to significant changes in attitudes and behaviors towards sex for men, to the point that men would be reprogrammed. This sounded like what I would need so we decided to try this.
My last orgasm has been on July the 2nd, so today marks the 40th day without getting off and it has been a rollercoaster ride.
The first 3 weeks were okay, I went through that normal build up in arousal I get after my last orgasm, but unlike the other times when I had a clear target in front of me the fact that I would not get an orgasm any time soon in a weird way made me submit to my fate easier than before when the longer lockup was punishment for sloppiness or attitude. The arousal levels were mostly manageable, however I did experience some dripping that I had to tackle with a thin sanitary towel that I put in my underwear, other than that, I started to get a good feeling that the long term chastity could work and was achievable.
Then the 4th week, a time I had never experienced without orgasm happened. My body was fighting back, it was like my body gave all it had to resist the time without an orgasm. I was horny, so ridiculously horny. My penis was dripping constantly, the ache in my balls would not let me sleep at night, unlocks to allow erections to prevent any damage to the spongy body were horrible as I felt I would have an accident but we did want to avoid ruined orgasms at all costs to stay with a time completely without orgasms. I got very frustrated, thankfully the peak was on a weekend so we just got in the car and had a very active weekend to take my mind off things. After a few days, the arousal peak got better. It felt like the body had pumped out large quantities of testosterone to force me to abandon the chastity and give me an orgasm.
After that time it got better every day. The arousal is now lower than it has usually been, dripping is not as frequent. I regularly have that murky substance in my morning urine like in a pee after orgasms, so the unused sperm seems to be disposed off via peeing. Until this day I had no nocturnal orgasms either, attempts at prostate milkings have only lead to huge quantities of precum, never the milky substance I see in videos so that has not brought much relief. Due to the recent drop in overall arousal, we have stopped attempts at this, at my last unlock to wash I had only a semi erection while usually I get rock hard as soon as the cage comes off, I always thought this is the body trying to compensate that my cage usually suppresses all erection attempts, so no nocturnal or morning erections occur, they are gone in less than a minute as there is absolutely no room to grow.
I am at this point very proud and surprised that I achieved 40 days without orgasm.
I am very confident that I can achieve a long term chastity without going insane and at this point it does feel like I am experiencing changes.
It feels like I am more in control of myself than ever when I felt like a slave to my dick.
I have never felt like this before, I usually never felt like sharing my daily experiences would be worth sharing more than my general knowledge about forced chastity, however seeing the changes in me, I think I will start blogging about this to educate and encourage other males to take the step into a life with chastity.
Chastity has enriched and bettered my life for almost 3 years now, I hope this experience I am hoping to live through for the rest of the year will permanently change me and my life. Maybe it will even make the cage unnecessary, time will tell.
All I know is, 3 years in, chastity is still the best thing that ever happened to me.
This has helped me to deal with my porn and masturbation addiction a lot as with the restricted access to my penis, it simply wasn't possible.
While at the beginning I was still allowed to masturbate sometimes when it was time to unlock me, this has been restricted since New Years Eve 2014 which marked the last day I have brought myself to an orgasm.
For over 19 months now I have been completely dependent on my keyholder/disciplinarian for sexual relief.
I did think that this disconnect between my orgasms and me would help me further tackle my masturbation problem, however when for my birthday in June I was offered a day without a cage to do what I want in return for 21days without orgasm I was very tempted, going through that day in my head a million times, looking forward to binge masturbate to all the hot videos I saved during the time that I always hoped one day be able to masturbate to.
In the end, I declined the offer as I had 2 periods of 21 days without orgasm before and remembered how tough and frustrating they were, so I just stuck to my 7 to 21 routine which at that time was really a 7 day routine for months as I managed to work the system of rules and tasks we had set up very well.
This however made me realize that I still, even though my orgasms had been restricted so severely, from 6 to 8 a day to at the most once a week, I was still slave to my sexual urges. That weekly orgasm was something I craved and felt entitled to.
While the chastity in the last years has given me all the time and social life back that I would have spent binge masturbating or planning when next to masturbate, it didn't help with the underlying issue the way I would have wished.
So after much consideration we decided that we would attempt a long time chastity period without orgasm until at least Christmas this year. We have read some forum posts and blogs where people who went through this experience claimed that longer periods lead to significant changes in attitudes and behaviors towards sex for men, to the point that men would be reprogrammed. This sounded like what I would need so we decided to try this.
My last orgasm has been on July the 2nd, so today marks the 40th day without getting off and it has been a rollercoaster ride.
The first 3 weeks were okay, I went through that normal build up in arousal I get after my last orgasm, but unlike the other times when I had a clear target in front of me the fact that I would not get an orgasm any time soon in a weird way made me submit to my fate easier than before when the longer lockup was punishment for sloppiness or attitude. The arousal levels were mostly manageable, however I did experience some dripping that I had to tackle with a thin sanitary towel that I put in my underwear, other than that, I started to get a good feeling that the long term chastity could work and was achievable.
Then the 4th week, a time I had never experienced without orgasm happened. My body was fighting back, it was like my body gave all it had to resist the time without an orgasm. I was horny, so ridiculously horny. My penis was dripping constantly, the ache in my balls would not let me sleep at night, unlocks to allow erections to prevent any damage to the spongy body were horrible as I felt I would have an accident but we did want to avoid ruined orgasms at all costs to stay with a time completely without orgasms. I got very frustrated, thankfully the peak was on a weekend so we just got in the car and had a very active weekend to take my mind off things. After a few days, the arousal peak got better. It felt like the body had pumped out large quantities of testosterone to force me to abandon the chastity and give me an orgasm.
After that time it got better every day. The arousal is now lower than it has usually been, dripping is not as frequent. I regularly have that murky substance in my morning urine like in a pee after orgasms, so the unused sperm seems to be disposed off via peeing. Until this day I had no nocturnal orgasms either, attempts at prostate milkings have only lead to huge quantities of precum, never the milky substance I see in videos so that has not brought much relief. Due to the recent drop in overall arousal, we have stopped attempts at this, at my last unlock to wash I had only a semi erection while usually I get rock hard as soon as the cage comes off, I always thought this is the body trying to compensate that my cage usually suppresses all erection attempts, so no nocturnal or morning erections occur, they are gone in less than a minute as there is absolutely no room to grow.
I am at this point very proud and surprised that I achieved 40 days without orgasm.
I am very confident that I can achieve a long term chastity without going insane and at this point it does feel like I am experiencing changes.
It feels like I am more in control of myself than ever when I felt like a slave to my dick.
I have never felt like this before, I usually never felt like sharing my daily experiences would be worth sharing more than my general knowledge about forced chastity, however seeing the changes in me, I think I will start blogging about this to educate and encourage other males to take the step into a life with chastity.
Chastity has enriched and bettered my life for almost 3 years now, I hope this experience I am hoping to live through for the rest of the year will permanently change me and my life. Maybe it will even make the cage unnecessary, time will tell.
All I know is, 3 years in, chastity is still the best thing that ever happened to me.
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