Tell your wife, damn it
So I have this friend who knows about my taste in dominant women, and loves to chat with me about the topic. We play tennis once a week, and then have a beer together afterwards. I can tell he's curious about Femdom because he peppers me with questions once he gets a couple of beers in him.
He's married and a few years younger than me. His wife is significantly younger than him. I'd say she's in her mid thirties. He wants his wife to dominate him behind closed doors, but he hasn't had the courage to ask. He tells me they don't fuck all that often, and when they do it's not all that great. The sex is very vanilla and he wants to try other flavors. His marriage is good otherwise, but he's been living with a secret.and for some reason he's confided in me.
So I wound up giving advice, which it seems like I do a lot. I have no idea why people trust me with their deepest, darkest secrets but they do. Even strangers here message me frequently seeking information or advice. I don't claim to be an expert, but I have had a lot experiences that other people haven't had. I suppose there are others who want the knowledge, and are willing to take a chance and share their fantasies with me. I find myself often in the role of counselor or ther****t more than simply a confidant.
The thing is that the advice I give is pretty simplistic and would apply to any relationship. Start with honesty and trust. She's not going to divorce you because you have fantasies. She's not going to think you're sick and need a psychiatrist. She might be curious herself, and a good conversation might lead to her sharing her fantasies with you, also. I basically told him that I'm the wrong person he should be talking to. It shouldn't hit her out of the blue, but sometime in an intimate moment he has to bring up the topic. If he doesn't do that, it's not going to happen.
Now here's the big chuckle for me. His fantasies are very, very tame in comparison to most submissive men or slaves. He wants some light bondage with her on top (you know, with the furry cuffs and feathers?). Maybe a playful spanking with a little bit of teasing. I would barely call this femdom, but that's his fantasy and his starting point.
He told me he's going to have the conversation with his wife, although I think it's 50/50 that he'll never bring it up to her....ever, and that's a shame. Real intimacy means being able to share things that you would share with nobody else without fear of reprisal.
I'll be curious to talk to him again when we play tennis next week.
He's married and a few years younger than me. His wife is significantly younger than him. I'd say she's in her mid thirties. He wants his wife to dominate him behind closed doors, but he hasn't had the courage to ask. He tells me they don't fuck all that often, and when they do it's not all that great. The sex is very vanilla and he wants to try other flavors. His marriage is good otherwise, but he's been living with a secret.and for some reason he's confided in me.
So I wound up giving advice, which it seems like I do a lot. I have no idea why people trust me with their deepest, darkest secrets but they do. Even strangers here message me frequently seeking information or advice. I don't claim to be an expert, but I have had a lot experiences that other people haven't had. I suppose there are others who want the knowledge, and are willing to take a chance and share their fantasies with me. I find myself often in the role of counselor or ther****t more than simply a confidant.
The thing is that the advice I give is pretty simplistic and would apply to any relationship. Start with honesty and trust. She's not going to divorce you because you have fantasies. She's not going to think you're sick and need a psychiatrist. She might be curious herself, and a good conversation might lead to her sharing her fantasies with you, also. I basically told him that I'm the wrong person he should be talking to. It shouldn't hit her out of the blue, but sometime in an intimate moment he has to bring up the topic. If he doesn't do that, it's not going to happen.
Now here's the big chuckle for me. His fantasies are very, very tame in comparison to most submissive men or slaves. He wants some light bondage with her on top (you know, with the furry cuffs and feathers?). Maybe a playful spanking with a little bit of teasing. I would barely call this femdom, but that's his fantasy and his starting point.
He told me he's going to have the conversation with his wife, although I think it's 50/50 that he'll never bring it up to her....ever, and that's a shame. Real intimacy means being able to share things that you would share with nobody else without fear of reprisal.
I'll be curious to talk to him again when we play tennis next week.
9年前
