Boytoy
"My girlfriend gave me a blow-up doll as a fun birthday present. I have tried it and I found the sex is better with it than with her."
A comment read:
"It takes two people to have sex, op. So it is not correct to label this as “her” fail: it should be “our” fail. If your sex is so bad that an inanimate object with no emotional or romantic connection to you gives you more pleasure, then several things are happening that shouldn’t be or vice versa:
1) You haven’t bothered talking to your girlfriend about what you want to change in your sex life. If you can’t or won’t do this, then you are not really in a relationship at all.
2) You are possibly seeing sex as purely a physical pleasure, so you may as well not be in any relationship at all. Why are you in a relationship if you don’t have an emotional connection?
3) You have no qualms about slating your girlfriend about her lack of sexual prowess on the internet, which tells me not only that you really don’t talk to each other about stuff like this, but also that you have a fundamental lack of respect for her. Again, why are you in a relationship with her if you don’t respect her? Doesn’t sound like it’s for the sex.
4) You also have no qualms about laying the blame completely with your girlfriend rather than admitting that if the sex isn’t good, it’s as much your fault as hers. Have you given her a good reason to make sex enjoyable for you? Whenever I haven’t found sex enjoyable in the past, I’ve eventually realised that if I try a bit harder to make it more enjoyable for my partner, he’s far more likely to make more of an effort to please me. And don’t forget that sex is MUCH more enjoyable if the other person is enjoying it than if they just lie there like a sack of potatoes. Or, indeed, a blow-up doll.
So why not either break up with her so she can find a less selfish lover, or tell her what would make sex better for you? You might even want to include your doll – your GF might enjoy that as much as you do, you never know! There are plenty of sex tips websites and forums on the internet if you want ideas to spice things up or advice on how to broach the subject with your lover.
All of the above, by the way, applies equally to men and women and to both halves of any relationship."
Amen and out
A comment read:
"It takes two people to have sex, op. So it is not correct to label this as “her” fail: it should be “our” fail. If your sex is so bad that an inanimate object with no emotional or romantic connection to you gives you more pleasure, then several things are happening that shouldn’t be or vice versa:
1) You haven’t bothered talking to your girlfriend about what you want to change in your sex life. If you can’t or won’t do this, then you are not really in a relationship at all.
2) You are possibly seeing sex as purely a physical pleasure, so you may as well not be in any relationship at all. Why are you in a relationship if you don’t have an emotional connection?
3) You have no qualms about slating your girlfriend about her lack of sexual prowess on the internet, which tells me not only that you really don’t talk to each other about stuff like this, but also that you have a fundamental lack of respect for her. Again, why are you in a relationship with her if you don’t respect her? Doesn’t sound like it’s for the sex.
4) You also have no qualms about laying the blame completely with your girlfriend rather than admitting that if the sex isn’t good, it’s as much your fault as hers. Have you given her a good reason to make sex enjoyable for you? Whenever I haven’t found sex enjoyable in the past, I’ve eventually realised that if I try a bit harder to make it more enjoyable for my partner, he’s far more likely to make more of an effort to please me. And don’t forget that sex is MUCH more enjoyable if the other person is enjoying it than if they just lie there like a sack of potatoes. Or, indeed, a blow-up doll.
So why not either break up with her so she can find a less selfish lover, or tell her what would make sex better for you? You might even want to include your doll – your GF might enjoy that as much as you do, you never know! There are plenty of sex tips websites and forums on the internet if you want ideas to spice things up or advice on how to broach the subject with your lover.
All of the above, by the way, applies equally to men and women and to both halves of any relationship."
Amen and out
14年前
