Mistress

"When we are flat on our backs there is no way to look but up." - Roger W Babson
"For my readers who have already tasted the heady wine of total control over a submissive
male, this question may seem absurd. The answer is so obvious: being a Mistress is fun.
Female Dominance offers the Mistress a cornucopia of delights. (The submissive male enjoys
it too, although there are moments in scene when he may not seem to do so.)
But why should a woman enjoy forcing her beloved husband into a humiliating costume of
corset, high heels, and ruffled sissy panties? What would make a man, often a powerful, highly
paid professional, gladly submit to a severe spanking while so attired? What is so much fun
about playing power games?
The reasons generally fall into three categories. First, the joy of escape into a fantasy world.
Second, the sheer sensual delight of the costumes, the risk, and the physical stimulation.
Third, the bliss of sharing the deepest possible intimacy
and trust with another human being.
The Joy of Fantasy. No matter how pleasant and fulfilling your daily life is, sometimes you
need to escape from your role as responsible adult, dutiful worker, or dedicated family
member. The more stressful that role is, the further it is from your own deepest impulses, the
more you need an, escape from the limitations of everyday life. Some people use alcohol,
d**gs, or gambling to transcend their ordinary lives, but these activities generally prove to be
both destructive and unsatisfying. But the escape provided by a rich fantasy life can be
constructive and extraordinarily fulfilling. Instead of destroying true intimacy, shared fantasy
increases it. Instead of harming the body, sexual release helps it. Instead of stifling the needs
of your true self, fantasy allows you to express and realize your deepest needs - and in the
process, fantasy brings forth a new, stronger reality.
A New and Powerful Self. The practice of Female Domination allows the Mistress to express
her power, the tough and controlling part of herself that may be unacceptable at work or in the
community. When you assume the role of
Mistress, with its attendant garb, behavior, speech, and rituals, you may feel like you are
becoming someone else. In the process, you will find yourself allowed to say and do things
strictly forbidden in ordinary life. Paradoxically, that someone else is yourself - just a part of
yourself that you don't ordinarily allow to speak.
The transformation is uniquely liberating. Letting your wicked and powerful inner self out to
play is more than a sure cure for stress. In Jungian terms, it is a way of integrating your
Shadow, the hidden and rejected self
Becoming a Dominatrix may at first seem schizophrenic, especially if you are still a nice girl.
Later you will find the Mistress's powers infiltrating your daily life. For example, you may
become more assertive in ordinary situations. If you can imagine commanding your leering
male boss to lick your shoes for daring to take a liberty with you, you may react with the proper
icy disdain (plus lawsuit) when he sexually harasses you, instead of asking yourself what you
did to invite his unspeakable caresses. Eventually your Dominatrix self will be, not the opposite
of your usual self, but a playful intensification of it.
As a Mistress, you will be able to command the respect you may not otherwise receive,
because on many levels, our culture devalues the female and exalts the male. Every day
women suffer the onslaughts of power-maddened males, from rowdy construction workers to
condescending bankers. (Congress alone should turn any self-respecting woman into a
Dominatrix.) It is a positive pleasure to come home from an encounter with a stupid, crude, or
demeaning male to a sissy maid who worships and adores your divine femaleness. A properly
trained male submissive will respect all the attributes of the female, from our pedicured feet to
our delicate panties to our beautiful hair. And yes - our power as well.
Moreover, you will enjoy the thrill of rebelling against all the deluded creatures (male and
female) who taught you that men must be placated, appeased, and served. As a Mistress, you
will order a male to placate, appease, and serve you, a welcome change.
There is also the simple excitement of power, which has been called the greatest aphrodisiac.
Having your commands obeyed, your womanhood worshipped, and your lightest wishes
treated as urgent commands is extremely arousing. You will learn to revel in the wicked thrills
of power: forcing a man into helpless bondage, ordering him to act as your maid, demanding
hours of oral service from his willing mouth and tongue. The infliction of play punishment
becomes a thrilling experience, for your blows (which he deserves and desires) will not only
produce gratifying evidence of your power in the form of tears, cries, and reddened nether
cheeks, they will also produce a change in your partner's behavior. Most of us wish to have an
effect in this world, and being a Mistress produces quite entertaining and immediate effects.
A practical pleasure, but one not to be scorned, is the maid service a wise Mistress can extract
from her submissive. Most women must beg, nag, and scold their men into doing housework,
to no avail. Whether doing housework is part of your submissive's fantasy - an it may well not
be - negotiating power play can make negotiating other roles much easier. If you have a sissy
maid, your housecleaning days may well be over, for he takes pleasure in serving. Cooking,
housecleaning, laundry (especially delicate hand laundry) can all become part of his sexual
satisfaction and evidence of your growing power.
A New and Powerless Self. But what pleasure does the male find in his embarrassing and
frequently painful role? He too has a Shadow, a self he cannot acknowledge or express in
ordinary life. Boys mustn't cry, or wear frilly clothes, or be passive; they have to be strong,
silent, macho men. His role as sissy maid or well-spanked schoolboy or diapered baby permits
him to express forbidden emotions and wear taboo clothing. If he simply wants, openly and
sincerely, to surrender his will to a woman, that need, as intense and undeniable as thirst, can
finally be slaked in scene. .
Given society's constant demands on men to be masculine, to take charge, to succeed, to get
it up and keep it up, to do instead of be, it is no wonder that some of the strongest, brightest,
and most successful males seek contact with their hidden selves through submission to a
woman's firm but kindly rule.
The pleasures of the submissive are the polar opposites of (and therefore closely akin to) the
pleasures of the Mistress. It is a truism that all polarities express the opposite ends of a single
principle or idea. Like yin and yang, darkness and light, submissive male and dominant female
need one another to be complete.
Moreover, the two are not simply opposites. Even the most severe Mistress takes pleasure not
only in compelling her slave's submission, but also in fulfilling his fantasies. Likewise, the most
subservient slave enjoys not only surrendering to his Mistress's power, but also gratifying his
own hidden desires. In short, however absolute the lady's command may seem, it is always
tempered with a concern for her submissive's satisfaction and well-'being. And likewise,
however abject a slave may appear, he is in some sense in control of the situation, for if he
refused to respond, the Dominatrix would no longer be in charge. The two roles are symbiotic.
Moreover, a submissive never starts out powerless. He must have power in order to hand it
over to his Mistress, who holds it in a blind trust until he needs it back. That may be at the end
of a scene, after renegotiation, or even at the end of a lifestyle relationship.
Nothing Could Be More Natural. The first power we all know is female. Although not all
women are interested in exercising that power as a Mistress, both men and women find a
certain innate fitness in female Dominance. It is a return to c***dhood and the loving rule of our
mothers, who might punish but who always forgave.
Although all women start life as daughters, not mothers, they must someday move forward
from being a powerless c***d to being a woman in authority. Becoming a Dominatrix is one way
to celebrate your innate female strength. Indeed, every woman, whether she becomes a
mother or chooses not to . bear c***dren, must experience the transformation into a female
authority in order to become an adult and truly her own Mistress. (This is true even of female
sub missives, who find their greatest joy in surrender; choosing to surrender, choosing their
own Dominant, understanding and fulfilling their own sexuality, is a position of genuine power -
power surrendered, but nevertheless consciously known, used, felt.)
This transformation was considerably simpler in the days when Goddess worship was the rule.
Without taking a stand on any specific form of modern Goddess worship, I must say that when
the Feminine face of the Deity is neglected, things go sadly wrong. (See Chapter 2 for more
information.) Even without a solid religious structure to help a young girl deal with her passage
into womanhood, she must learn to accept and use her innate female power.
Sensual Enjoyments. Aside from the psychological satisfactions outlined above, there are
physical pleasures unique to Dominance/submission, relationships. The role of Mistress is both
demanding and sexually satisfying. The role of submissive - whether maid, slave, schoolboy -
can stretch a male to his limits bur ends in true, deep release.
Intense Stimulation. The submissive male enjoys female Domination . because it feels good.
His major reward is erotic pleasure of an exceptionally
intense and prolonged nature. Some of the components of that pleasure may not seem too
enjoyable - spankings, enemas or diapering, foot worship, cock-and-baIl torture - but they are
pleasurable, partly because they are so intense, partly because they promote a psychological
letting-go that enables a male to achieve a splendid orgasm (if his Mistress permits).
Perhaps the prime sensual enjoyment is the one least explicable to those who have never
played the game. Intense stimulation may seem like pain, but it is not (primarily) pain. The
deep muscle stimulation of a spanking or paddling; the sense of compression inside a tightly
laced corset or a locked male chastity device; the overwhelming feeling of being possessed
that comes from anal penetration; the smaller but still intense sensations from the plucking of
pubic hairs, the pinching of nipples, or the pricking of the male's glans: all these are intense
stimulations. Under their influence, the male forgets himself and his worries, becoming no
more than a sexual toy for an all-powerful female tyrant. His mind cannot drift toward work or
money or any other mundane consideration. He is bombarded by sensations - some painful,
some pleasurable, some mixed, all intense.
Within the world of the fantasy, all these feelings are not only permitted but encouraged. And
they are enjoyed at the will of an imperious and often capricious Mistress, so the additional
psychological stimulation of suspense is added to the already overpowering physical
sensations. Best of all, he is not permitted to spoil the stimulation by reaching orgasm.
The sensation of being simultaneously urged forward and held back, both whipped and curbed,
is the great defining experience of male submission. The result is stimulation added to
stimulation, multiplied, reduplicated, intensified almost to screaming point. Then the sudden
release of orgasm.
Restraint, even forced restraint, increases male sexual satisfaction. Too many men, seeking
immediate release, rush through foreplay and intercourse, frustrating their partners and
shortchanging themselves. Under the tuition of a Mistress, such males learn that their sexual
satisfaction must be delayed until the lady has had her fill of pleasure. A skilled Dominatrix will
prolong the male's sexual arousal, simultaneously forbidding and encouraging it, and thereby
give him the great gift of true release.
The Dominatrix enjoys prolonged stimulation as well. Both the demonstration of her power and
the subduing of her slave are quite arousing, but she often (if she is wise) has another form of
pleasure available to her. (And it's good for her partner as well) I refer to the ancient and
sacred practice of cunnilingus. Few women can get enough of this luscious activity, while
submissive males find it the ultimate act of worship. It fulfills the twin criteria of intensity and
restraint, for the male submissive kneeling before his lady's Shrine is overpowered by his
nearness to her most intimate secrets. Nevertheless, he cannot mar the experience by
climaxing too rapidly, especially if the Mistress has had the forethought to fasten him into a
secure chastity device. (See Chapter 8 for an illuminating discussion of ways to maintain
control of your submissive male while you are close to swooning with your fifth orgasm.)
The Freedom to Feel. Paradoxically, many people find Dominance and submission fantasies
liberating. Under the feigned duress lies real permission to go and enjoy acts, clothes, or
sensations that are otherwise strictly forbidden. Moreover, the submissive need feel no guilt for
enjoying these things; not only did his cruel Mistress force him into those ruffled panties or that
demeaning position of servitude, she also "punished" him for his transgression. The scenario
of misbehavior, punishment, and forgiveness is a classic Aristotelian plot that often both actors
their traditional catharsis.
The submissive's release often includes tears. During Dominance play, many sub missives
resolve other tensions in their lives. Some males cannot cry except in the context of the game.
Others need to express other taboo emotions: fear, anger, rebellion, contrition, or
helplessness. After his forbidden outburst, the
Mistress punishes him and then offers forgiveness and consolation.
Submissive males, especially those in positions of extraordinary responsibility, also seek
respite from the stress of constant decision-making. It's a relief to be told precisely what to do
and how to do it, to have the penalties for mistakes so clear-cut and so immediate. A session
of schoolboy discipline, for example, may be painful but it is also sure to have a happy ending.
Real life is never so well choreographed or so satisfying.
Forbidden Silk and Lace and Leather. Yet another attraction of female Domination is the
chance to wear different clothes. Costumes, like uniforms, transform and identify their wearers.
For the submissive male, who must wear tailored suits and strangling neckties to work, a
maid's uniform or a *********'s clothing represent a break with the grind of daily life and an
escape into the freedom of a new self.
Many male submissives enjoy dressing in women's clothing. Female garb is the ultimate break
with society's standards for manhood: deeply shaming, for every male is raised to despise the
sissy, yet also compellingly erotic. Women's clothing, with its soft textures, its lovely colors, its
delicate construction, is designed to be sensual. Furthermore, it has the attraction of the utterly
taboo. A man in female dress is far beyond the bounds of the acceptable and is therefore free.
Lastly, it is associated with women and their mysteries and the sexual bliss they may grant the
male. Many males believe (wrongly, God knows) that, women's lives are far easier than men's.
Is it any wonder that they seek an escape in the clothing and accessories of the blessed
female?
Sharing Intimacy and Trust. Without trust, a healthy Dominance/ submission relationship is
impossible. Only trust allows partners to discuss their fantasies in the first place, much less act
them out in great detail. Especially if the fantasy entails servitude, bondage, humiliation, or
pain (and what submissive's fantasies do not?), the deepest possible trust is necessary to
make the relationship work in the long term. Though some people find it easier to share their
sexual secrets with strangers, many others find such trust takes time to build. For them, onenight
stands are out of the question. It is impossible to pick a man up, learn his needs, fulfill
them and yourself, and then disappear, all within the space of a few hours.
By giving over his body to his Mistress, a submissive male is saying, "I trust you completely."
But what does that trust entail?
First, the Mistress is responsible to know and respect her partner's limits. If she stays too far
within his bounds, he may feel frustrated, disappointed, and unsatisfied. If she crosses the lint:
too far, he could be hurt, emotionally or physically. Learning how to push a man to his limits -
and not beyond - is a complex process, and it takes time.
Nevertheless, once that trust has been established, it is one of the great sources of joy in a
relationship. My submissive husband trusts me with his body and knows I will not hurt him
more than he needs; he also knows that I am responsive and loving to his more conventional
needs, and that he can trust me with his life as well as with a razor, some soap, and his
testicles.
Perhaps most important, sharing fantasies deepens the bonds between partners. A submissive
man who knows his wife or lover understands his deepest sexual needs (needs he may have
always been too ashamed of and too frightened to share) will be contented, faithful, and
affectionate. A Dominant Woman who understands her husband's fantasies well enough to
construct a satisfying scene for him will also understand other things about him, and she will
be strong enough to demand her rights should he attempt to grow domineering in their daily
relationship. Marriages in which the Wife is Dominant are often the most egalitarian and the
most truly satisfying. Furthermore, the Dominance/submission relationship is often played out
as a switch: one time he takes control, the next he does. Such trust and intimacy are bound to
help make a very happy marriage.
If you are interested in the step-by-step creation of such intimacy, skip Chapter 2 and go on to
Chapter 3. If you still have doubts, read Chapter 2 before you go on.
The Mistress Manual by: Mistress Lorelei
2
THE RELUCTANT MISTRESS:
Learning to Love Command
How shall I rule over others, that hath not full power and command of myself? - Francois
Rabelais
Despite the catalogue of the pleasures of Female Domination given in Chapter 1, you have
turned to this chapter. Therefore I deduce that you are suffering some conflict over your role as
Mistress. You may feel guilty or ashamed about your fantasies of Dominating men, or you may
be in love with a man who has submissive fantasies and wants you to act them out with him.
(He probably gave this book to you, unless, in a valiant effort to learn, you purchased it for
yourself.) And you, wishing to please him but unwilling or unable to Rule him, feel lonely,
confused, unhappy, repelled, or utterly inadequate. Possibly you yourself are a submissive,
and despair at the thought of ever assuming authority.
Is it possible for you to learn to love command? Can you become a happy, effective, and
satisfied Mistress? YES! Not every Female Tyrant started life with fantasies of punishing and
controlling helpless males. Many learned first how to go through the motions of Dominance
play and only later came to enjoy the experience.
Not only will this book teach you how to become a Mistress but also how to have fun doing so.
It is scarcely my intention to oppress Women with yet another duty owed to males. If, after
listening to my suggestions and giving the fantasy a reasonable trial, you find that you do not
enjoy Female Domination, don’t do it! If your male still insists, dump him. No one has the right
to force you into sexual acts that make you feel uncomfortable. However, you do owe yourself
a chance to try to understand and enjoy this new realm of experience. You may find that you
enjoy it very much indeed.
If you have long-standing fears or conflicts over sexual issues, do yourself the greatest
possible kindness and see a ther****t. The process may be painful, bu. (given a decent
ther****t and your own willingness to work) it can change your life.
The Repressed Dominatrix
Is it possible to be a Domme and not know it? Absolutely. That's why it's always worth trying.
Remember, if you hate it, you don't have to keep doing it.
I've known several wonderful Dommes who managed to go through twenty. thirty, forty years
without noticing their own deep need for sexual control. Then something changed - a friend
suggested it to them, or they heard or heard a story that unleashed their needs: Then all the
repressed Dommeliness flowed back into their lives, energizing them sexually and giving new
depth and pleasure to their relationships. -
Because our families and society don't offer much support or many positive role models for
Women who need sexual control, it can be easy for us to pack away our dangerous desires
until it's safe to bring them into the light. For years after I became an active Domme, I kept
stumbling into memories of old fantasies and old activities that now, in hindsight, seemed
unmistakably Domme. The hours and hours I spent on the phone with my best friend when we
were f******n, planning to k**nap a male friend of ours, were a definite clue; the elaborate and
dark k**napping fantasies I had then had been totally repressed and forgotten until a friend
asked me for suggestions on doing a consensual k**napping scene. I'd also forgotten the
dungeon fantasies I had dating from my earliest years in school. The games I played with my
first lover - making him sit up and beg, roll over, even bark - were so Dommely that I laughed
aloud when I remembered them. I was sixteen then, but I had completely forgotten doing it.
Being a Domme wasn't emotionally safe for me then, so I saved it for the time when I was
strong enough to do it right. .
The Guilty Dominatrix
Perhaps you haven't repressed your needs. All your life you have fantasized about Dominating
a helpless male. Your dreams may range from (relatively) conventional spanking scenes to
fantasies of keeping a male as a sex slave to torment, tease, and control. But you have never
gone forth to find a submissive male. Why not? Here are some possible reasons:
1. You can't respect a man who wants to be Dominated.
2. You don't believe any men actually want to be Dominated.
3. You're afraid the real experience won't measure up to your fantasies.
4. You're afraid that you would or could seriously hurt the submissive male.
5. You don't believe that it's morally right for WOmen to Dominate men.
6. Your man (past or current) tried it and hated it. There's no point in trying again.
I shall deal with these problems one by one, in numbered order.
1. You can't respect a man who wants to be dominated. Somewhere inside, you secretly
cherish the image of the macho male so celebrated by our patriarichal culture. I could simply
dismiss this as an individual aberration (if you haven't noticed that Rambo is a h******al
maniac and an asshole to boot, you're hopeless), except that this widespread attitude must be
demolished. Otherwise, strong and healthy Women may find themselves wondering uneasily if
their submissive males aren't, well, a little unmanly. Nothing could be further from the truth!
First, let's take a look -at the Rambo model of masculinity. (I could evince a dozen other actors
who have made this disgusting creature their specialty, but why advertise them?) His best
points are physical strength and willingness to defend his family or his honor (usually the
latter). His worst points are a deranged predilection for v******e, unveiled hatred and contempt
for Women, unwillingness to listen to reason, and total emotional isolation except for an
occasional Female bedmate (who is killed off by the end of the film) and his male buddy (and
God knows they scarcely share much real feeling, unless committing mass murder together
can be called a sharing experience). He doesn't think, read, feel, or talk. He kills. His only
emotion is rage, and all too often that rage is turned against Women, who in these films are
always either pure good passive Females (almost invariably victims) or slaughterous bitches.
Is that real manliness? Do you want your sons growing up to behave like that?
A submissive male, on the other hand, serves, honors, and respects Women. He can feel; the
whole point of the fantasy is often to provide an outlet for emotions our society has defined as
forbidden to men. His deep emotional connection to his Mistress enables them to share the
fantasy.
But is he strong? Absolutely. He would lay down his life for his Mistress. And he's likely,
statistically speaking, to be a high-earning professional, an intellectual, a powerful man with a
responsible job. A man who needs the release of letting someone else decide and choose for
once; a man who understands that his Feminine side, crushed by the ceaseless demands of
his work, must find some expression in his life.
The modern ideal of manhood is based on the machine. No, not just any machine, a machine
gun. The submissive male's ideal of manhood is the medieval ideal, a man sworn to serve and
protect an all-powerful Lady; he is proud to wear her favor, to show the world the Woman to
whom he owes allegiance, love, and service. Though he can fight, he can also love. He is not
ashamed of his emotions or his spirituality. He is both a poet and a knight; a complete human
being. And he longs with all his heart to serve his Mistress.
Which man is more worth your respect?
2. You don't believe any men actually want to be dominated. Just look in the classifieds of any
alternative newspaper. They're begging for it A man may be too shy to tell you his fantasies on
the first date, but just you suggest it and see how fast he'll jump at the chance.
3. You're afraid the real experience won't measure up to your fantasies. Possibly it won't at
first. Developing a shared fantasy takes time and trust. Follow the detailed instructions given in
subsequent chapters, and you'll have both a healthy relationship and a satisfying role as
Mistress. After you've grown used to actually commanding a male, mere fantasy Rule will
forever seem flat and pallid to you.
4. You're afraid that you would or could seriously hurt your submissive male. There are really
two issues here: Could you hurt him? and Would you hurt him? Could you hurt him? It is
possible, but get given detailed instructions (for example, the ones in this book) and a
reasonable amount of care, serious harm is exceedingly unlikely. Ever a severe spanking won't
kill him. But you may have a deep, hidden fear of the harm a Girl can do to a boy. Did your
parents ever warn you against harming men? Try to bring these issues to the surface and deal
with them before you set up your first scene.
Would you hurt him? That's another question entirely. Look inside yourself. If you do wish to
hurt a man, please see a ther****t and get rid of your rage before you try to act out your
fantasies. I am not answerable for the consequences if you don't listen to this warning.
5. You don't believe that it's morally right for women to dominate men. Your moral beliefs are
between you and God. But if you are open to argument, please read the section of this chapter
entitled "A Defense of Female Domination."
6. Your man (past or current) tried it and hated it. There's no point in trying again. Yes, there is.
Especially if the man who hated it is no longer your partner. If your current man tried and
disliked the experience, try talking with him about it. What was the problem? Was he
uncomfortable with the intensity of his emotions? Did it evoke c***dhood feelings of
helplessness or pain? Did he feel rushed into too deep a servitude? Did he feel uncomfortable
using the safeword? Was there a specific act that bothered him? Would something else work
better?
If discussions go nowhere (he won't talk or won't say more than that he hated it), maybe you
do have to choose between acting out your fantasies or staying with your current partner. But
more often, you'll find that he liked it, but it went on too long, or something you said reminded
him of his mother (a sure passion-killer), or he simply felt silly wearing high heels and would
have preferred to be tied up.
With time, a guilty Dominatrix can relax and enjoy enacting her most secret fantasies. You
already possess the most important quality needed for a Mistress: the willingness to rule. Once
you actually take charge, you (and the submissive males in your life) will have a wonderful time.
The Unwilling Dominatrix
The truly unwilling Dominatrix has no fantasies of controlling males. She may just be
uninterested in playing games with the balance of power in her relationships; she herself may
be submissive; or she may be revolted by the idea of hurting someone.
These three types - the Bored, the Submissive, and the Terrified - all deserve individual
consideration.
-The Bored. If you are not interested in Female Domination, and several attempts have failed
to arouse any spark of desire, try reading the rest of the
book. You may simply never have found the right scenario. If nothing here appeals t9 you, it's
probably safe to say that you are not and will never be a Mistress. No matter how fascinating
others find the subject, you cannot be talked into Female Domination. Try another fantasy. You
can be a sexually powerful, loving, strong woman without doing FemDomme.
-The Submissive. If you are a submissive yourself, you understand the joys of being
Dominated, punished, and consoled. Consequently you may feel that the place over the knee
is rightfully (and delightfully) yours. However, some of the best Dommes I know started out as
submissives who widened their repertoire. Best of all, you don't have to give up the joys of
submission in order to enjoy Dominance. As a switch, you automatically double your chances
for a date at any play party, and you get the best of both worlds.
It's worth trying the Dominant role a few times to see if you enjoy it. You may prefer to have
different partners for each role - one person to Domme you, another to sub to you - or you may
enjoy switching with your primary partner.
If you yourself cannot do it, but the idea intrigues you, make up a wicked sister and step into
her Dominant personality. Use your imagination to create a world in which you are the cruel
Mistress and your partner is me infinitely punishable bad boy or sissy maid or whatever his
specific fantasy is. If he is at all fair (and he should be), your mate will reciprocate with an
evening of whatever kinky activities you crave.
Of course, you may find that you are a hard-wired submissive with no Dominant tendencies -
but at least you've tried.
-The Terrified. If you are terrified or revolted at the thought of Female Domination, you may be
facing one of two problems. (Maybe both.) Perhaps you believe that any Dominance play is
sick, that it leads to the devaluation of Women or to real ****, mayhem, and murder, and that
anyone who tries it is well on the way to becoming America's next serial killer. Or you may hold
more tolerant opinions of Dominance play in general, but the idea of your taking part deeply
distresses you. These two attitudes might be called the Political and the Personal.