For your consideration...
So many guys are so worried about labels or what would happen if someone found out. We all need to relax a bit. Straight, bisexual, gay, these are nothing but words, labels. We give them meaning. We assign weight to them, and we allow them to control and direct our thoughts and actions.
The reality is, the journey this guy went through, at least up until the last part of the story, happens to most married men. The wife retreating from sex for one reason or another; the reading, wondering, worrying; the tortuous thoughts and fears; the dichotomy between what you want and what a straight married man doesn’t do.
It’s hard to push through it all, and many men never will. And that’s okay too. But in the end, you are only causing yourself pain. You are denying yourself something that there is no real reason to deny yourself.
The public face people use, the one that expresses the wills of society, is not their own face. Look around here - how many people are here, on this site alone, fantasizing about something that society frowns upon, because it’s their only “safe” outlet? I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that - sometimes anonymity can let you explore things you would have no other way to explore.
But what if there was no anonymity? What if a bug suddenly cropped up on the site that displayed everyone’s real name, for example? What would happen if a friend found out you wanted to try sucking a dick?
Keep in mind, if this friend is married, his wife has very likely sucked his cock innumerable times. Yet the societal double standard that exists probably doesn’t even let you think of his wife as a cocksucker. You don’t interact with them in a way that her sucking his dick makes weird; on Friday game night, the thought that she may suck his cock later is utterly irrelevant and carries absolutely no weight.
So just ask yourself why you should give these words any power over your desires to expand your horizons and try things you want to try.
You only have one life, and our time here is much too short - don’t let life pass you by just because you are “straight”.
And remember, you don’t necessarily have to hide this from your wife, either. Maybe she likes the idea, but doesn’t know how to even broach the subject with you - especially if your public face has been less-than-accepting of “******s”. But even if she doesn’t, talking about it with your best friend will left a lot of the weight off your shoulders; and that will make whatever comes next just a little bit easier for you.
This should all be fun; don’t make your sexuality a burden that you have to carry around and keep locked away from the light of day. You are only lying to yourself, and you will never be the person you really are.
The reality is, the journey this guy went through, at least up until the last part of the story, happens to most married men. The wife retreating from sex for one reason or another; the reading, wondering, worrying; the tortuous thoughts and fears; the dichotomy between what you want and what a straight married man doesn’t do.
It’s hard to push through it all, and many men never will. And that’s okay too. But in the end, you are only causing yourself pain. You are denying yourself something that there is no real reason to deny yourself.
The public face people use, the one that expresses the wills of society, is not their own face. Look around here - how many people are here, on this site alone, fantasizing about something that society frowns upon, because it’s their only “safe” outlet? I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that - sometimes anonymity can let you explore things you would have no other way to explore.
But what if there was no anonymity? What if a bug suddenly cropped up on the site that displayed everyone’s real name, for example? What would happen if a friend found out you wanted to try sucking a dick?
Keep in mind, if this friend is married, his wife has very likely sucked his cock innumerable times. Yet the societal double standard that exists probably doesn’t even let you think of his wife as a cocksucker. You don’t interact with them in a way that her sucking his dick makes weird; on Friday game night, the thought that she may suck his cock later is utterly irrelevant and carries absolutely no weight.
So just ask yourself why you should give these words any power over your desires to expand your horizons and try things you want to try.
You only have one life, and our time here is much too short - don’t let life pass you by just because you are “straight”.
And remember, you don’t necessarily have to hide this from your wife, either. Maybe she likes the idea, but doesn’t know how to even broach the subject with you - especially if your public face has been less-than-accepting of “******s”. But even if she doesn’t, talking about it with your best friend will left a lot of the weight off your shoulders; and that will make whatever comes next just a little bit easier for you.
This should all be fun; don’t make your sexuality a burden that you have to carry around and keep locked away from the light of day. You are only lying to yourself, and you will never be the person you really are.
6年前
