Moving on
My divorce is final. A lot of change since he moved out 4 months ago. He is living with his gf and seems happy. However, he seemed happy with me for a long time too so warning to her. I’m dealing with a lot of emotions now. Some days are good and other days are tough. Fortunately, I have very supportive friends, a few of which have also been through this. I ask myself what I could have done differently but that’s a never-ending conversation with no answers.
As part of the divorce, he wants his equity out of our home, so I have to sell the house or buy him out. I’m a licensed professional with a good salary and I could buy him out. But I’m torn, we made a lot of memories here and I like the neighborhood but that’s just it, ‘we’ made those memories and now it feels really empty in here. Maybe I should just sell and take my half of the equity and start over somewhere else. Our k**s are grown and gone so don't need this big of a house anymore.
I’ve been on a few dates set up by friends and they were fun but nothing serious. Recently, my good friend asked me when the time came to get back in the game, who I might be looking to date. I asked her what she meant, and she reminded me she knows of my fantasy of being with a woman. I had forgotten about those conversations and was a little embarrassed when she reminded me (she is happily married to a great guy who treats her well). We also joked about how, several years ago, I offered to let my husband watch me and a well-hung black man have sex (he and I were both into that) but he declined. I told her that while I’m open to either, I really want someone who makes me laugh again and who has similar interests as me. But I need to wait awhile and figure the house situation first.
As part of the divorce, he wants his equity out of our home, so I have to sell the house or buy him out. I’m a licensed professional with a good salary and I could buy him out. But I’m torn, we made a lot of memories here and I like the neighborhood but that’s just it, ‘we’ made those memories and now it feels really empty in here. Maybe I should just sell and take my half of the equity and start over somewhere else. Our k**s are grown and gone so don't need this big of a house anymore.
I’ve been on a few dates set up by friends and they were fun but nothing serious. Recently, my good friend asked me when the time came to get back in the game, who I might be looking to date. I asked her what she meant, and she reminded me she knows of my fantasy of being with a woman. I had forgotten about those conversations and was a little embarrassed when she reminded me (she is happily married to a great guy who treats her well). We also joked about how, several years ago, I offered to let my husband watch me and a well-hung black man have sex (he and I were both into that) but he declined. I told her that while I’m open to either, I really want someone who makes me laugh again and who has similar interests as me. But I need to wait awhile and figure the house situation first.
6年前
