Daddy's Rules
Several boys have reached out to me seeking guidance on their path to their ideal Daddy/son relationship. I have seen that a few others on this site have posted their own thoughts on boy training and the rules and obligations of service to a Dad, so I thought I ought to post some of my own thoughts on the matter. This may be long because there is much to say, but I hope you will find it enlightening and rewarding.
Let me begin by sharing that I have lived both sides of the Dad/son dichotomy. I was lucky enough to be taken, broken, and trained at a “tender age” by an amazing, strong, loving, dominant Dad who helped me to become everything I could be as a proper son. He was my mentor, and I learned from him what a good Dad is, how he acts, how he leads. And from his teachings, I grew into my own role as Dad in my mature years. Now I have known the sweet and special joy of taking legal-aged sons into my charge, guiding them into beautiful surrender, training them in their new role and watching with pride as they blossom into wonderful pleasure-boys to other Dads.
I will probably break these instructions into a series of posts sharing some of what I have learned and practiced. The first several of these posts will focus on what I learned as a boy from my own mentor.
First, the rules. I’ve seen several posts of rules for sons. Here are the rules I learned during my time as a son. There were five rules that were stressed to me repeatedly. My “Dad” did not explicitly lay these out as a set of policies, but I listened and learned, and codified them in a formal way. When I shared with my Dad how I had codified his rules, he was pleased with me, and promised to use my list with his future boys. He sometimes liked to hear me repeat the list of rules back to him. When he had come home from work and stretched out on the couch, I would fix and bring him a drink prepared as he liked, then remove his shoes and massage his aching feet for a while. Then I would lay my head on his lap, and as he stroked my hair and sipped his drink, he would ask me to recite the rules again for him; he was pleased that I had taken the initiative to create the list and enjoyed hearing me explain my submission.
Below are the five rules, along with some explanations and discussions.
Rule One: Daddy’s in Charge (This is the Rule of Obedience). The Dad-son relationship is about serving and pleasing Daddy—what Daddy wants, when Daddy wants, the way Daddy wants it. The first quality a boy must have is obedience, immediate and absolute. Becoming a boy means surrendering all rights to refuse or deny service. That being said, Daddy does not want a simple yes-man nor a mindless automaton. Controlling an empty vessel means nothing. A boy should have interests, dreams, hopes, ideas, questions, curiosities. A boy should want things, have suggestions, should be able to find ways to please Dad without Dad having to direct it. On a boy’s own initiative, he should always look for new pleasures and new ways to delight his Dad. Dad should not have to make every plan, choose every dinner, etc. A boy is always welcome to bring ideas to Dad, especially when Dad asks him to. But all decisions belong to Dad, and to Dad alone. And once Dad has decided, that decision is final and should be obeyed without question. [On a side note, though these rules are for boys, there are sometimes corresponding propositions for Dads to be mindful of. My Dad was always transparent about this. Having absolute authority and control of a boy is a Responsibility. The Dad must never lead the boy wrong or into harm.]
Rule Two: It’s All About Daddy (This is the Rule of Service). The entire focus of a boy’s mind, heart, and soul should be his Daddy. He should think of his Daddy when he wakes, during his day, when he goes to bed at night. For each thing he does, whether it is as simple as folding clothes or taking out the garbage, he should be continually mindful that what he does he does for his Dad, in his Dad’s name, for his Dad’s honor and pleasure. The boy is a vessel for his Dad’s will and for his Dad’s body; everything he does is a reflection of his Dad and is meant to please his Dad. This is especially and most immediately true in Daddy’s bed. Every sexual act is meant entirely to please Dad, to cater to Dad’s lusts and impulses. A boy should focus only his Dad, never on himself. It is necessary that Dad is pleasured; it is irrelevant whether or not the boy experiences pleasure. A boy should never worry about his own pleasures in bed and should never ask to be pleasured—this would mean he is thinking of himself. If Daddy chooses to pleasure the boy or give the boy orgasms, that is the Dad’s business. Dad does it because it pleases Dad to see his boy writhe and cry out and spray his boy-seed, because it pleases Dad to know that his boy is under his complete sexual control. It is not for the boy’s own needs. [Note: Despite the apparent selfishness of this rule, it should be noted that my Dad was in fact one of the most generous lovers I have ever known, and never failed to get me off after he was drained dry. He simply made sure the focus was always where it should be first.]
Rule Three: Know Your Role (This is the Rule of Discretion and Humility). My Dad had a strong conviction that much of life was role play; we all wear masks. He was a married father in a highly visible public position. There were closets within closets. Managing life was managing masks. His relationship with me was based on our shared ability to negotiate and navigate these masks. Sometimes we played the roles of mentor/student, sometimes we played the roles of strangers, sometimes of good friends, sometimes of lovers, sometimes of owner/property. As a boy, I was expected to be able to read him, read his mood, read the room and the situation, and to know exactly what role was needed at that moment. We might be lovers up until the moment his wife came home, then he became my mentor and I the young man learning from him. Dad also believed deeply that every man needed both the Madonna and the Whore. Men need pure and equal lovers to adore and place on a pedestal, and they need wanton sluts and whores who debase themselves and exist to be used. My Dad felt that each boy needed to reveal which of the two he was in his core. Some boys are madonnas—Dads take them as lovers and treat them gently and share romantic moments, and they keep the boys to themselves as personal pets. Other boys are whores—Dads use them roughly and selfishly as purely sexual objects, perfect for sharing as communal cum-dumps. [My Dad paid me the ultimate compliment by disclosing that I was only the second boy he had owned who was equal measures of both, who could move freely between Madonna and whore at a moment’s notice to be whatever my Dad needed at that time.] There are two corollaries to this rule. Corollary 1: Keep Daddy’s Secrets (Discretion). One necessary aspect of a boy’s ability to shift roles is to protect his Dad at all cost. Dad must be able to let his guard down completely around his boy, but nothing he does or says must ever be used against Dad. Boys must not be reckless with Daddy’s secrets. Corollary 2: Don’t Get Greedy (Humility). A boy should never forget what he is, what his role is, or why he is here. He exists as a pleasure toy for unlimited and unquestioned use by his Dad. He is probably not the first boy his Dad has owned and used, and he will not be the last. A boy is simply the next to serve, until Dad chooses another. A boy should know he is not his Dad’s wife, nor his Dad’s c***d; no matter how pleasant his service, he is merely a sex-toy and cum receptacle. In a choice between the boy or Dad’s family, job, or public reputation, the boy will always be set aside. Dad and boy can function only so long as neither forgets this and gets greedy for more. A boy should never overstep or begin to think he is special beyond his primary function.
Rule Four: No Condoms (This is the Rule of Insemination, or the Rule of Cum). This rule is somewhat superfluous as it is a necessary corollary of rules one and two. If the focus is solely on maximizing Dad’s pleasure and if he always gets what he wants, then he is always going to get the maximized pleasure of skin-to-skin sex. However, this was always a special and repeated emphasis of my Dad, so I knew he’d appreciate hearing it spoken aloud as its own separate rule. It excited him to see me look up into his eyes and to hear me acknowledge that he was about to take me bareback. The night he took my cherry and seeded me for the first time, he explained during the afterglow that he hated condoms, and that he would never use them with me. I should understand this explicitly, and this was non-negotiable. He emphasized the importance of cum in the Dad-son dynamic. Cum was essential. His seed was the ultimate manifestation of who he was, and receiving it was an honor and a gift for a boy. Refusing a Dad’s cum would be the ultimate disrespect of everything that Dad was. Cum was sacred, a material and spiritual extension of Dad’s being; it would bind me to him. As his DNA was absorbed into my body, he would become a part of me and I would be permanently linked to him. Every time he inseminated me, the bond would grow stronger and more complete, until there was no separation between us, and every piece of me was his. He also told me, very correctly, that I would soon grow to crave his seed. Each time he came inside me, I would desire it more and more, until it consumed all my thoughts like an addiction, which he would happily feed.
The four rules were articulated after several months of training in his service. Several months later, a fifth rule was added.
Rule Five: When Daddy Shares You with His Friends, Rules One through Four Apply (The Slut Rule). When Dad felt I was sufficiently trained and broken to full submission, he began introducing me to a special set of friends, some of whom he had been sharing boys with for close to twenty years. Being shared was a high honor; it meant a boy was prized and Dad wished to show him off. When a boy serves his Dad’s friends, he is representing his Dad. Any failure by the boy is a reflection on the Dad. The boy is expected to submit himself fully to any man his Dad directs him to serve. That man is functioning in the place of the Dad and has been granted full authority to command and use the boy. A boy should obey any commands from Dad’s friends unless they contradict express, standing rules that Dad has established. A boy is expected to focus all of his energy and efforts in pleasing Dad’s friends. In this way, he also pleases his Dad. A boy should never expect to receive any pleasure himself; any such pleasure would only occur at the discretion of Dad’s friends. A boy must always serve Dad’s friends according to the desires or needs of that friend and must protect that friend from any discovery or harm. A boy keeps the secrets of Dad’s friends and does not overstep his bounds or forget what his place is. Above all, my Dad was not a hypocrite. He knew that it would be impossible for him to enjoy a boy while wearing a condom, so he knew the same would likely be true of any of his friends. It would be a contradiction to invite friends to enjoy a boy and simultaneously deny them rights of bareback. So, Dad was clear that I should never expect any of his friends to use condoms, and I should never ask them to. If, for some reason, one of his friends chose to wear one, that was the friend’s prerogative. [Note: This rule will vary for many Dads. Some Dads do not wish to share barebacking privileges with others, keeping that right only for themselves, though they may allow their friends other kinds of access. In all cases, remember the rule that Daddy is in charge. If Daddy says that only he may cum inside the boy, then only he may. If Daddy says certain others may cum in the boy, then they can cum inside the boy, regardless of the boy’s opinion on the matter.
At this point, I will close this post; it is already overly long. Planned, future posts will include some other rules/advice I have learned from other Dads along the way; a discussion of the subtle but vital differences between Daddy and Master; and some how-to suggestions for grooming, conditioning and training prospective and current boys.
Let me begin by sharing that I have lived both sides of the Dad/son dichotomy. I was lucky enough to be taken, broken, and trained at a “tender age” by an amazing, strong, loving, dominant Dad who helped me to become everything I could be as a proper son. He was my mentor, and I learned from him what a good Dad is, how he acts, how he leads. And from his teachings, I grew into my own role as Dad in my mature years. Now I have known the sweet and special joy of taking legal-aged sons into my charge, guiding them into beautiful surrender, training them in their new role and watching with pride as they blossom into wonderful pleasure-boys to other Dads.
I will probably break these instructions into a series of posts sharing some of what I have learned and practiced. The first several of these posts will focus on what I learned as a boy from my own mentor.
First, the rules. I’ve seen several posts of rules for sons. Here are the rules I learned during my time as a son. There were five rules that were stressed to me repeatedly. My “Dad” did not explicitly lay these out as a set of policies, but I listened and learned, and codified them in a formal way. When I shared with my Dad how I had codified his rules, he was pleased with me, and promised to use my list with his future boys. He sometimes liked to hear me repeat the list of rules back to him. When he had come home from work and stretched out on the couch, I would fix and bring him a drink prepared as he liked, then remove his shoes and massage his aching feet for a while. Then I would lay my head on his lap, and as he stroked my hair and sipped his drink, he would ask me to recite the rules again for him; he was pleased that I had taken the initiative to create the list and enjoyed hearing me explain my submission.
Below are the five rules, along with some explanations and discussions.
Rule One: Daddy’s in Charge (This is the Rule of Obedience). The Dad-son relationship is about serving and pleasing Daddy—what Daddy wants, when Daddy wants, the way Daddy wants it. The first quality a boy must have is obedience, immediate and absolute. Becoming a boy means surrendering all rights to refuse or deny service. That being said, Daddy does not want a simple yes-man nor a mindless automaton. Controlling an empty vessel means nothing. A boy should have interests, dreams, hopes, ideas, questions, curiosities. A boy should want things, have suggestions, should be able to find ways to please Dad without Dad having to direct it. On a boy’s own initiative, he should always look for new pleasures and new ways to delight his Dad. Dad should not have to make every plan, choose every dinner, etc. A boy is always welcome to bring ideas to Dad, especially when Dad asks him to. But all decisions belong to Dad, and to Dad alone. And once Dad has decided, that decision is final and should be obeyed without question. [On a side note, though these rules are for boys, there are sometimes corresponding propositions for Dads to be mindful of. My Dad was always transparent about this. Having absolute authority and control of a boy is a Responsibility. The Dad must never lead the boy wrong or into harm.]
Rule Two: It’s All About Daddy (This is the Rule of Service). The entire focus of a boy’s mind, heart, and soul should be his Daddy. He should think of his Daddy when he wakes, during his day, when he goes to bed at night. For each thing he does, whether it is as simple as folding clothes or taking out the garbage, he should be continually mindful that what he does he does for his Dad, in his Dad’s name, for his Dad’s honor and pleasure. The boy is a vessel for his Dad’s will and for his Dad’s body; everything he does is a reflection of his Dad and is meant to please his Dad. This is especially and most immediately true in Daddy’s bed. Every sexual act is meant entirely to please Dad, to cater to Dad’s lusts and impulses. A boy should focus only his Dad, never on himself. It is necessary that Dad is pleasured; it is irrelevant whether or not the boy experiences pleasure. A boy should never worry about his own pleasures in bed and should never ask to be pleasured—this would mean he is thinking of himself. If Daddy chooses to pleasure the boy or give the boy orgasms, that is the Dad’s business. Dad does it because it pleases Dad to see his boy writhe and cry out and spray his boy-seed, because it pleases Dad to know that his boy is under his complete sexual control. It is not for the boy’s own needs. [Note: Despite the apparent selfishness of this rule, it should be noted that my Dad was in fact one of the most generous lovers I have ever known, and never failed to get me off after he was drained dry. He simply made sure the focus was always where it should be first.]
Rule Three: Know Your Role (This is the Rule of Discretion and Humility). My Dad had a strong conviction that much of life was role play; we all wear masks. He was a married father in a highly visible public position. There were closets within closets. Managing life was managing masks. His relationship with me was based on our shared ability to negotiate and navigate these masks. Sometimes we played the roles of mentor/student, sometimes we played the roles of strangers, sometimes of good friends, sometimes of lovers, sometimes of owner/property. As a boy, I was expected to be able to read him, read his mood, read the room and the situation, and to know exactly what role was needed at that moment. We might be lovers up until the moment his wife came home, then he became my mentor and I the young man learning from him. Dad also believed deeply that every man needed both the Madonna and the Whore. Men need pure and equal lovers to adore and place on a pedestal, and they need wanton sluts and whores who debase themselves and exist to be used. My Dad felt that each boy needed to reveal which of the two he was in his core. Some boys are madonnas—Dads take them as lovers and treat them gently and share romantic moments, and they keep the boys to themselves as personal pets. Other boys are whores—Dads use them roughly and selfishly as purely sexual objects, perfect for sharing as communal cum-dumps. [My Dad paid me the ultimate compliment by disclosing that I was only the second boy he had owned who was equal measures of both, who could move freely between Madonna and whore at a moment’s notice to be whatever my Dad needed at that time.] There are two corollaries to this rule. Corollary 1: Keep Daddy’s Secrets (Discretion). One necessary aspect of a boy’s ability to shift roles is to protect his Dad at all cost. Dad must be able to let his guard down completely around his boy, but nothing he does or says must ever be used against Dad. Boys must not be reckless with Daddy’s secrets. Corollary 2: Don’t Get Greedy (Humility). A boy should never forget what he is, what his role is, or why he is here. He exists as a pleasure toy for unlimited and unquestioned use by his Dad. He is probably not the first boy his Dad has owned and used, and he will not be the last. A boy is simply the next to serve, until Dad chooses another. A boy should know he is not his Dad’s wife, nor his Dad’s c***d; no matter how pleasant his service, he is merely a sex-toy and cum receptacle. In a choice between the boy or Dad’s family, job, or public reputation, the boy will always be set aside. Dad and boy can function only so long as neither forgets this and gets greedy for more. A boy should never overstep or begin to think he is special beyond his primary function.
Rule Four: No Condoms (This is the Rule of Insemination, or the Rule of Cum). This rule is somewhat superfluous as it is a necessary corollary of rules one and two. If the focus is solely on maximizing Dad’s pleasure and if he always gets what he wants, then he is always going to get the maximized pleasure of skin-to-skin sex. However, this was always a special and repeated emphasis of my Dad, so I knew he’d appreciate hearing it spoken aloud as its own separate rule. It excited him to see me look up into his eyes and to hear me acknowledge that he was about to take me bareback. The night he took my cherry and seeded me for the first time, he explained during the afterglow that he hated condoms, and that he would never use them with me. I should understand this explicitly, and this was non-negotiable. He emphasized the importance of cum in the Dad-son dynamic. Cum was essential. His seed was the ultimate manifestation of who he was, and receiving it was an honor and a gift for a boy. Refusing a Dad’s cum would be the ultimate disrespect of everything that Dad was. Cum was sacred, a material and spiritual extension of Dad’s being; it would bind me to him. As his DNA was absorbed into my body, he would become a part of me and I would be permanently linked to him. Every time he inseminated me, the bond would grow stronger and more complete, until there was no separation between us, and every piece of me was his. He also told me, very correctly, that I would soon grow to crave his seed. Each time he came inside me, I would desire it more and more, until it consumed all my thoughts like an addiction, which he would happily feed.
The four rules were articulated after several months of training in his service. Several months later, a fifth rule was added.
Rule Five: When Daddy Shares You with His Friends, Rules One through Four Apply (The Slut Rule). When Dad felt I was sufficiently trained and broken to full submission, he began introducing me to a special set of friends, some of whom he had been sharing boys with for close to twenty years. Being shared was a high honor; it meant a boy was prized and Dad wished to show him off. When a boy serves his Dad’s friends, he is representing his Dad. Any failure by the boy is a reflection on the Dad. The boy is expected to submit himself fully to any man his Dad directs him to serve. That man is functioning in the place of the Dad and has been granted full authority to command and use the boy. A boy should obey any commands from Dad’s friends unless they contradict express, standing rules that Dad has established. A boy is expected to focus all of his energy and efforts in pleasing Dad’s friends. In this way, he also pleases his Dad. A boy should never expect to receive any pleasure himself; any such pleasure would only occur at the discretion of Dad’s friends. A boy must always serve Dad’s friends according to the desires or needs of that friend and must protect that friend from any discovery or harm. A boy keeps the secrets of Dad’s friends and does not overstep his bounds or forget what his place is. Above all, my Dad was not a hypocrite. He knew that it would be impossible for him to enjoy a boy while wearing a condom, so he knew the same would likely be true of any of his friends. It would be a contradiction to invite friends to enjoy a boy and simultaneously deny them rights of bareback. So, Dad was clear that I should never expect any of his friends to use condoms, and I should never ask them to. If, for some reason, one of his friends chose to wear one, that was the friend’s prerogative. [Note: This rule will vary for many Dads. Some Dads do not wish to share barebacking privileges with others, keeping that right only for themselves, though they may allow their friends other kinds of access. In all cases, remember the rule that Daddy is in charge. If Daddy says that only he may cum inside the boy, then only he may. If Daddy says certain others may cum in the boy, then they can cum inside the boy, regardless of the boy’s opinion on the matter.
At this point, I will close this post; it is already overly long. Planned, future posts will include some other rules/advice I have learned from other Dads along the way; a discussion of the subtle but vital differences between Daddy and Master; and some how-to suggestions for grooming, conditioning and training prospective and current boys.
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