Yet Another Masturbation Survey - My Response
As promised, my own answers to https://xhamster2.com/posts/10271954
Beginnings
1. How old were you when you first masturbated?
About 11.
2. How did you learn? Did someone or something in particular inspire you to try it?
Purely by accident. I used to lie on my pillow and rub against it just for the nice warm tingle it gave me - then one night for no obvious reason things started feeling really good, and BOOM!
3. How did you do it when you first started?
For quite a while I just humped the pillow, then I got the idea of cupping my pussy in my hands and grinding against them, which eventually led to actual rubbing.
4. Did you reach orgasm the first time? If not, how long before you got the hang of it?
After fluking it that first time I recall it being frustratingly hit and miss for quite a while - I didn't really know how to focus on the feeling even when things started getting good, so it was probably a good few months before I could be confident of having at least one orgasm whenever I played.
5. How did you feel afterwards? (Emotionally as well as physically)
I remember lying there breathless and stunned with no idea what had just happened, but knowing that somehow I'd opened a new door and my life was never going to be the same again.
6. Did you tell anyone about it? If so, what did you say to them?
Not for a couple of years, then one night my best friend and I were having a long talk about sex and relationships and the topic came up (with a lot of blushing and giggling). I think we were both relieved to know we weren't the only girls who did it!
7. How long before you tried it again? Was it better the second time?
I think I tried it the very next night, only to find I couldn't get back to that amazing feeling no matter how vigorously I humped. So having only just learned about sexual pleasure, I got to learn about her evil twin sexual frustration :)
8. Did you ever get caught at home? How did it affect you?
I had a few close calls in my teens but never actually got caught - after my heart stopped racing I'd tell myself I'd be more careful in the future, but it never lasted long...
9. Is there anything you'd change about your early experiences if you could?
Other than teaching my younger self exactly where to find her clitoris, I mostly wish I'd been more accepting of my early girly fantasies and could have just enjoyed them instead of feeling guilty afterwards.
Life Events
10. When did you start puberty? Do you feel like you were an early or late developer, or about average?
I was a late developer, to the point where I had a bit of a complex about it - my body showed the first signs of changing around 12, but it was a painfully slow process compared to my friends and classmates.
11. Had your periods already started when you began masturbating? If not, did things change when you started having them?
I had my first period at 14 so I'd been masturbating a good three years by then. I don't remember any particular change, other than I was a lot more horny from that age on.
12. When did getting aroused start making you wet? If you masturbated at that age, did getting wet change things?
It was such a gradual thing I hardly realised it was happening, but I think I first noticed myself getting moist around 12 or 13. I remember feeling embarrassed when I started leaving little damp patches on the pillowcase, which encouraged me to use my hands more instead.
13. Had you already had sex (with a guy or a girl) before you first masturbated? If so, how did it compare? If not, did your masturbation habits change after losing your virginity?
I didn't have sex with a guy until 18, and it was such a disappointment I cried afterwards (looking back I feel sorry for the guy, my reaction must've really shaken his self-confidence). Other than appreciating solo sex more, I think the only change was that I was more comfortable putting a finger or two inside myself when the mood took me.
14. Did starting a relationship (whether or not it was sexual) change how or how often you masturbated?
I didn't have a real relationship until I met my first gf at 20 - I'd always imagined I'd masturbate less once I was having regular sex, but being with her was so exciting that I probably did it more.
(The obvious next question is about becoming a parent, but that has its own section later.)
15. If you've been through menopause, has that changed things?
I haven't.
16. How does masturbation now compare to when you were young? Do you feel like it's better? Not as good?
The mental aspect is much more important to me now - a good fantasy really makes the difference, but when I was young I think it was more just enjoying the sensations. That makes it more intense as an adult, but also more frustrating if I can't find the right fantasy to get me in the mood. Also I don't have as much free time to do it as I did back then!
Motherhood
17. Did pregnancy change how or when you masturbate?
The first few months I was an emotional wreck and felt like crap from morning sickness, and the last couple I was just exhausted and ready for it to be over. But in the middle I was loving that hormonal glow and my sex drive went through the roof - nobody tells you how good orgasms will feel when you're pregnant...
18. How long was it after giving birth before you felt like masturbating again? Was that before or after you started having sex with your partner again?
At least a month, maybe closer to two - mostly I just didn't have the energy, although once I got back into the habit I got better at making time for myself, even if it was just a quickie.
19. Did you masturbate more (or less) often while you were breast-feeding?
I don't think the frequency changed much, but like everything else in my life I had to make time around being a mum. I do remember feeling so relaxed after feeding her that I'd often put her down to sleep in her cot then lie down myself to masturbate and nap. Or more likely just nap :)
20. If your k**s still live at home, does that affect your freedom to masturbate?
I have to be quiet about it, but otherwise now that she's a teenager herself I feel like I can just disappear into my room without any awkward questions.
21. Have they ever caught you in the act? If so, how did you handle the situation?
She walked in on me a couple of times when she was little, but luckily she was too young to guess what mummy had been doing under the covers. I figure that now she's old enough to know, she's also old enough to appreciate the importance of knocking first.
22. What about the other way around?
I accidentally walked in on my daughter a few years ago - I felt annoyed at myself afterwards because I was always determined to respect her privacy and never give her reason to worry. Obviously the poor girl was mortified, but we had a good talk about it later on and I assured her I'd be more careful in future.
23. Have you ever talked to them about masturbation? If so, what did you say?
Only that one time after interrupting her, and the gist of the conversation was "there's nothing to be embarrassed about, I want you to feel like you can do what you want in the privacy of your bedroom without worrying about what mum might think."
24. Is there anything you want to tell them, e.g. when they get older or when the topic naturally comes up?
For all the circumstances of that conversation weren't ideal, I feel like I said everything I needed to say.
25. Do you think learning to masturbate is different these days compared to when you started? What's changed?
I think with the internet and social media k**s are a lot more aware of sex at an early age, but I suspect for most of them it's still a lot of fumbling about in the dark just like it was for me. Maybe the positive side of the online world is that they have access to more information so they have less reason to worry that they're somehow weird or different from everyone else.
26. If you could go back and talk to your younger self about masturbation, what would you say to her?
"Chill out Cait, you're not the nympho you think you are - lots of girls do it as often as you do."
The Messy Stuff
27. Do you masturbate during your period? If so, do you do it differently from the rest of the month?
I get really horny during my period, so if anything I masturbate even more then - probably more in the shower just for reasons of hygiene, but with a tampon in I'm quite comfortable laying a towel down on the bed and rubbing like usual.
28. Do you ever squirt when you masturbate? Is there a particular technique or position where it's more likely to happen?
Not like you see in porn, but sometimes if I'm on the verge of a very intense orgasm I'll feel a hot flood of fluid from my vagina that's different from my usual wetness.
29. Do you ever taste yourself?
All the time, it's a massive turn-on for me.
30. Do you feel like having or not having pubic hair changes how you masturbate?
I like how things are more slippery when I'm smooth, and after shaving in the shower I often end up masturbating in front of the mirror (admiring my handiwork, so to speak). But other than the mental turn-on I don't think it makes much physical difference to how I do it.
31. Are you vocal when you masturbate? Do you like moaning out loud or talking dirty while you do it?
Only when I'm alone in the house or with a partner - I love moaning with a woman to let her know how much I'm enjoying what we're doing, and in the heat of the moment talking dirty can be the extra inspiration that gets me over the edge.
32. How often do you masturbate to porn? What about watching porn with no intention of masturbating?
I don't actually get off in front of the screen that often, unless the video is something really good :) Mostly I watch it to get in the mood and maybe get inspiration for a fantasy when my fingers get to work afterwards.
Trivia
33. How old are you now? 36
34. How often do you masturbate? Do you do it as often as you want, or do you feel like things get in the way?
It varies a lot depending on the demands of work, motherhood, sleep... Probably a few times a week on average, but it could be almost every morning and night one week then only once or twice the next. I do miss having more free time to do it, being an adult is seriously overrated.
35. Do you have a favourite position and/or technique?
Probably lying on my tummy and reaching underneath to rub my clit, it's supremely comfortable and I like how my nipples rub against the sheet as I do it.
36. How important is penetration to you?
I don't often feel the need to penetrate myself, other than to get my fingers wet - every now and then I'll crave it, especially after a few orgasms, but I'm really more about the button.
37. Do you use toys? If so, do you enjoy it less without them?
I have a vibrator which I occasionally pull out just for variety, or when my hand is getting tired but I want to keep going. Sometimes the intensity of the vibrations is just what I need, but usually I prefer the more nuanced way my fingers move.
38. How many orgasms do you typically have?
Again it varies a lot by time and energy, just one if I'm enjoying a quickie or up to half a dozen in a long drawn-out session. That's an extreme for me though, probably 3 or 4 is my usual limit.
39. Do you ever masturbate without reaching orgasm? If so, is that by choice?
Sometimes I just can't find the right fantasy to focus my excitement around and I'll fall asleep instead, or I'll be running out of time before work and have to stop.
40. Do you prefer masturbating naked, or does being (partly) clothed not bother you?
I do like doing it nude (as long as I'm warm enough), but if circumstances dictate I'm happy to just pull my PJ pants down, lift my skirt, tug the crotch of my swimsuit aside, or whatever works. If I have any reason to worry about interruption then I'll just remove the minimum amount of clothing, or else reach into my knickers and do it that way.
41. Have you ever masturbated somewhere you shouldn't, like work or school or in a public place?
All of the above, I've written a couple of blog posts about it (note to self: I must get round to part 3 some time).
42. What do you think is the most interesting fact about your solo sex life?
That in real life I'm a very private person, especially about stuff like this, but online I feel quite comfortable sharing all these details with complete strangers :)
Beginnings
1. How old were you when you first masturbated?
About 11.
2. How did you learn? Did someone or something in particular inspire you to try it?
Purely by accident. I used to lie on my pillow and rub against it just for the nice warm tingle it gave me - then one night for no obvious reason things started feeling really good, and BOOM!
3. How did you do it when you first started?
For quite a while I just humped the pillow, then I got the idea of cupping my pussy in my hands and grinding against them, which eventually led to actual rubbing.
4. Did you reach orgasm the first time? If not, how long before you got the hang of it?
After fluking it that first time I recall it being frustratingly hit and miss for quite a while - I didn't really know how to focus on the feeling even when things started getting good, so it was probably a good few months before I could be confident of having at least one orgasm whenever I played.
5. How did you feel afterwards? (Emotionally as well as physically)
I remember lying there breathless and stunned with no idea what had just happened, but knowing that somehow I'd opened a new door and my life was never going to be the same again.
6. Did you tell anyone about it? If so, what did you say to them?
Not for a couple of years, then one night my best friend and I were having a long talk about sex and relationships and the topic came up (with a lot of blushing and giggling). I think we were both relieved to know we weren't the only girls who did it!
7. How long before you tried it again? Was it better the second time?
I think I tried it the very next night, only to find I couldn't get back to that amazing feeling no matter how vigorously I humped. So having only just learned about sexual pleasure, I got to learn about her evil twin sexual frustration :)
8. Did you ever get caught at home? How did it affect you?
I had a few close calls in my teens but never actually got caught - after my heart stopped racing I'd tell myself I'd be more careful in the future, but it never lasted long...
9. Is there anything you'd change about your early experiences if you could?
Other than teaching my younger self exactly where to find her clitoris, I mostly wish I'd been more accepting of my early girly fantasies and could have just enjoyed them instead of feeling guilty afterwards.
Life Events
10. When did you start puberty? Do you feel like you were an early or late developer, or about average?
I was a late developer, to the point where I had a bit of a complex about it - my body showed the first signs of changing around 12, but it was a painfully slow process compared to my friends and classmates.
11. Had your periods already started when you began masturbating? If not, did things change when you started having them?
I had my first period at 14 so I'd been masturbating a good three years by then. I don't remember any particular change, other than I was a lot more horny from that age on.
12. When did getting aroused start making you wet? If you masturbated at that age, did getting wet change things?
It was such a gradual thing I hardly realised it was happening, but I think I first noticed myself getting moist around 12 or 13. I remember feeling embarrassed when I started leaving little damp patches on the pillowcase, which encouraged me to use my hands more instead.
13. Had you already had sex (with a guy or a girl) before you first masturbated? If so, how did it compare? If not, did your masturbation habits change after losing your virginity?
I didn't have sex with a guy until 18, and it was such a disappointment I cried afterwards (looking back I feel sorry for the guy, my reaction must've really shaken his self-confidence). Other than appreciating solo sex more, I think the only change was that I was more comfortable putting a finger or two inside myself when the mood took me.
14. Did starting a relationship (whether or not it was sexual) change how or how often you masturbated?
I didn't have a real relationship until I met my first gf at 20 - I'd always imagined I'd masturbate less once I was having regular sex, but being with her was so exciting that I probably did it more.
(The obvious next question is about becoming a parent, but that has its own section later.)
15. If you've been through menopause, has that changed things?
I haven't.
16. How does masturbation now compare to when you were young? Do you feel like it's better? Not as good?
The mental aspect is much more important to me now - a good fantasy really makes the difference, but when I was young I think it was more just enjoying the sensations. That makes it more intense as an adult, but also more frustrating if I can't find the right fantasy to get me in the mood. Also I don't have as much free time to do it as I did back then!
Motherhood
17. Did pregnancy change how or when you masturbate?
The first few months I was an emotional wreck and felt like crap from morning sickness, and the last couple I was just exhausted and ready for it to be over. But in the middle I was loving that hormonal glow and my sex drive went through the roof - nobody tells you how good orgasms will feel when you're pregnant...
18. How long was it after giving birth before you felt like masturbating again? Was that before or after you started having sex with your partner again?
At least a month, maybe closer to two - mostly I just didn't have the energy, although once I got back into the habit I got better at making time for myself, even if it was just a quickie.
19. Did you masturbate more (or less) often while you were breast-feeding?
I don't think the frequency changed much, but like everything else in my life I had to make time around being a mum. I do remember feeling so relaxed after feeding her that I'd often put her down to sleep in her cot then lie down myself to masturbate and nap. Or more likely just nap :)
20. If your k**s still live at home, does that affect your freedom to masturbate?
I have to be quiet about it, but otherwise now that she's a teenager herself I feel like I can just disappear into my room without any awkward questions.
21. Have they ever caught you in the act? If so, how did you handle the situation?
She walked in on me a couple of times when she was little, but luckily she was too young to guess what mummy had been doing under the covers. I figure that now she's old enough to know, she's also old enough to appreciate the importance of knocking first.
22. What about the other way around?
I accidentally walked in on my daughter a few years ago - I felt annoyed at myself afterwards because I was always determined to respect her privacy and never give her reason to worry. Obviously the poor girl was mortified, but we had a good talk about it later on and I assured her I'd be more careful in future.
23. Have you ever talked to them about masturbation? If so, what did you say?
Only that one time after interrupting her, and the gist of the conversation was "there's nothing to be embarrassed about, I want you to feel like you can do what you want in the privacy of your bedroom without worrying about what mum might think."
24. Is there anything you want to tell them, e.g. when they get older or when the topic naturally comes up?
For all the circumstances of that conversation weren't ideal, I feel like I said everything I needed to say.
25. Do you think learning to masturbate is different these days compared to when you started? What's changed?
I think with the internet and social media k**s are a lot more aware of sex at an early age, but I suspect for most of them it's still a lot of fumbling about in the dark just like it was for me. Maybe the positive side of the online world is that they have access to more information so they have less reason to worry that they're somehow weird or different from everyone else.
26. If you could go back and talk to your younger self about masturbation, what would you say to her?
"Chill out Cait, you're not the nympho you think you are - lots of girls do it as often as you do."
The Messy Stuff
27. Do you masturbate during your period? If so, do you do it differently from the rest of the month?
I get really horny during my period, so if anything I masturbate even more then - probably more in the shower just for reasons of hygiene, but with a tampon in I'm quite comfortable laying a towel down on the bed and rubbing like usual.
28. Do you ever squirt when you masturbate? Is there a particular technique or position where it's more likely to happen?
Not like you see in porn, but sometimes if I'm on the verge of a very intense orgasm I'll feel a hot flood of fluid from my vagina that's different from my usual wetness.
29. Do you ever taste yourself?
All the time, it's a massive turn-on for me.
30. Do you feel like having or not having pubic hair changes how you masturbate?
I like how things are more slippery when I'm smooth, and after shaving in the shower I often end up masturbating in front of the mirror (admiring my handiwork, so to speak). But other than the mental turn-on I don't think it makes much physical difference to how I do it.
31. Are you vocal when you masturbate? Do you like moaning out loud or talking dirty while you do it?
Only when I'm alone in the house or with a partner - I love moaning with a woman to let her know how much I'm enjoying what we're doing, and in the heat of the moment talking dirty can be the extra inspiration that gets me over the edge.
32. How often do you masturbate to porn? What about watching porn with no intention of masturbating?
I don't actually get off in front of the screen that often, unless the video is something really good :) Mostly I watch it to get in the mood and maybe get inspiration for a fantasy when my fingers get to work afterwards.
Trivia
33. How old are you now? 36
34. How often do you masturbate? Do you do it as often as you want, or do you feel like things get in the way?
It varies a lot depending on the demands of work, motherhood, sleep... Probably a few times a week on average, but it could be almost every morning and night one week then only once or twice the next. I do miss having more free time to do it, being an adult is seriously overrated.
35. Do you have a favourite position and/or technique?
Probably lying on my tummy and reaching underneath to rub my clit, it's supremely comfortable and I like how my nipples rub against the sheet as I do it.
36. How important is penetration to you?
I don't often feel the need to penetrate myself, other than to get my fingers wet - every now and then I'll crave it, especially after a few orgasms, but I'm really more about the button.
37. Do you use toys? If so, do you enjoy it less without them?
I have a vibrator which I occasionally pull out just for variety, or when my hand is getting tired but I want to keep going. Sometimes the intensity of the vibrations is just what I need, but usually I prefer the more nuanced way my fingers move.
38. How many orgasms do you typically have?
Again it varies a lot by time and energy, just one if I'm enjoying a quickie or up to half a dozen in a long drawn-out session. That's an extreme for me though, probably 3 or 4 is my usual limit.
39. Do you ever masturbate without reaching orgasm? If so, is that by choice?
Sometimes I just can't find the right fantasy to focus my excitement around and I'll fall asleep instead, or I'll be running out of time before work and have to stop.
40. Do you prefer masturbating naked, or does being (partly) clothed not bother you?
I do like doing it nude (as long as I'm warm enough), but if circumstances dictate I'm happy to just pull my PJ pants down, lift my skirt, tug the crotch of my swimsuit aside, or whatever works. If I have any reason to worry about interruption then I'll just remove the minimum amount of clothing, or else reach into my knickers and do it that way.
41. Have you ever masturbated somewhere you shouldn't, like work or school or in a public place?
All of the above, I've written a couple of blog posts about it (note to self: I must get round to part 3 some time).
42. What do you think is the most interesting fact about your solo sex life?
That in real life I'm a very private person, especially about stuff like this, but online I feel quite comfortable sharing all these details with complete strangers :)
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