Thoughts on penis size
I've noticed the obsession, in porn, and in the mind's of a lot of men, on cock size. I thought some people might be interested in a girl's perspective- I know that a lot of people's ideas on this topic are very firmly entrenched, so I don't really expect to change too many people's minds, but here we go anyway.
1) Okay, Men- please let me tell you that, with very very very few exceptions- no woman is as interested in the size of your cock as you are. It is, 99% of the time, a male obsession. And that is why it is such a big focus in porn- because 99% of porn is made for the male gaze
2) To the vast, vast majority of women, the size of a guy's cock is not important. Yes, there are a small number who care a lot- size queens who love genitals that are a lot bigger than average, and also women who are fascinated by smaller than average ones. And that's fine, that's their thing and there's nothing wrong with that. Like how some men are obsessed with huge tits, or whatever. But for most women, it just is not something we are focused on. I think guys with larger penises flatter themselves sometimes about the impact it can have- fellas, remember that the vagina is designed to be able to stretch to pass a human ****** out of it. That's right. So we are pretty flexible and adaptable
3) Most of the pleasure of sex comes from anticipation, technique, rhythm, and arousal, which can be intensified by the different things people are into. Please note that most of this happens in the mind
4) As referenced earlier, porn is made for the male gaze (look that up if you don't know the term), and guess what.... it's all based on fantasy. The penises in porn are generally on the much larger than average side, and then boosted by strategic camera angles. Why? Well, same reason that most performers are completely shaved- it just makes the contrasts of the images more striking, and it's all about visual impact. And it's all playing up to macho ideas about sex, competition, domination, all of that. Which is fine, but be aware of it. Like how fashion designers usually use tall thin models- they just feel it's easier to display clothes on them and get suitable shots. It's not about what is "best" or "real"
5) I have heard men talk about cock size a lot in real life How many times have I heard girls in real life comment on it making a difference to them? I think one time. Porn is not real life. Even our fantasies are not real life- people have fantasies about things they don't actually want to happen, it's complicated
6) For me the enjoyment of sex has come from how "into it" I have felt, the skill of the partner, my own mood, etc.
To anyone with insecurities about this issue, I just want to say please get over it. Put it to one side. It's not a big issue in life, you shouldn't be feeling bad about it or wasting time or thoughts on it. There are probably other things in your life that really, really need your attention, but not this
Okay, end of rant. Peace
1) Okay, Men- please let me tell you that, with very very very few exceptions- no woman is as interested in the size of your cock as you are. It is, 99% of the time, a male obsession. And that is why it is such a big focus in porn- because 99% of porn is made for the male gaze
2) To the vast, vast majority of women, the size of a guy's cock is not important. Yes, there are a small number who care a lot- size queens who love genitals that are a lot bigger than average, and also women who are fascinated by smaller than average ones. And that's fine, that's their thing and there's nothing wrong with that. Like how some men are obsessed with huge tits, or whatever. But for most women, it just is not something we are focused on. I think guys with larger penises flatter themselves sometimes about the impact it can have- fellas, remember that the vagina is designed to be able to stretch to pass a human ****** out of it. That's right. So we are pretty flexible and adaptable
3) Most of the pleasure of sex comes from anticipation, technique, rhythm, and arousal, which can be intensified by the different things people are into. Please note that most of this happens in the mind
4) As referenced earlier, porn is made for the male gaze (look that up if you don't know the term), and guess what.... it's all based on fantasy. The penises in porn are generally on the much larger than average side, and then boosted by strategic camera angles. Why? Well, same reason that most performers are completely shaved- it just makes the contrasts of the images more striking, and it's all about visual impact. And it's all playing up to macho ideas about sex, competition, domination, all of that. Which is fine, but be aware of it. Like how fashion designers usually use tall thin models- they just feel it's easier to display clothes on them and get suitable shots. It's not about what is "best" or "real"
5) I have heard men talk about cock size a lot in real life How many times have I heard girls in real life comment on it making a difference to them? I think one time. Porn is not real life. Even our fantasies are not real life- people have fantasies about things they don't actually want to happen, it's complicated
6) For me the enjoyment of sex has come from how "into it" I have felt, the skill of the partner, my own mood, etc.
To anyone with insecurities about this issue, I just want to say please get over it. Put it to one side. It's not a big issue in life, you shouldn't be feeling bad about it or wasting time or thoughts on it. There are probably other things in your life that really, really need your attention, but not this
Okay, end of rant. Peace
5年前
