No anal play for wife

My wife did not like anything anal, ass play. How did I cope, when in a 69 position with her, alot, I licked and sucked on her clit and lips, while doing that I pushed my face in hard and got my nose in her ass and gave her a little shaking and a exhale into her hole. She didnt mind it or didnt notice, who knows, but I got me some ass. While down there I had my hands on her ass cheeks and I would slid my finger over and touch n rub her hole, sometimes she jumped and said no, so I would stop.
Now on the other hand, I luved some ass play but she wasn't into that, she said she did do it but nope. What I wanted was a good bj, some great head and she was good at it. I wanted a finger or something stuck in me.