despoine

Despoine - Greek mythical name of a daughter of Poseidon and Demeter, meaning "mistress"

Non-smoker, drug and disease free and I plan to stay that way. Discretion and privacy expected and assured. Anyone I play with must also be clean, drug and disease-free, and a non-smoker. I will NOT play anymore with married, attached, and/or separated men or men who are "in the process" of a divorce. The exception to this would be if your wife/girlfriend knows and gives me permission.

I am by no means dominant in my day-to-day life. I am not in charge at work, I am the one who follows orders from others (and I wouldn't want it any other way). I am a real person, with a job, family, and 'regular' interests and hobbies that I enjoy.

It is with great passion and desire that I embrace my inner Domme and use that part of me to exert control subs/slaves. I enjoy the escape from everyday responsibilities that this lifestyle gives me. I have both a soft, gentle side and a hard, sadistic side. I find just as much pleasure and amusement in having you giving me an erotic massage as I do in having you tied up and flogged.

My journey has been ongoing for several years and I have had a lot of fun experiences. I have done things to men I never thought I would do and/or had never heard of before! I continue to learn and grow in this role and am always looking to improve my skills with willing people.

I am into various kinds of bondage, CBT, spanking, outdoor play, erotic massages, and electro torture just to name a few. My fetish list below gives many more ideas of what I am into and/or curious to try. I'm open to experimenting :)

The thought of leaving my signature is a new interest; a red D would look great! For those who are not able to have marks on their bodies, I can improvise by writing on your chest or back with eyeliner. "Despoine's whore" has a nice ring to it, don't you think?

I love to dress up a man to look like a real slut, in heels, bra and panties (as an example of this, look at the picture of the guy in my photos). I like giving verbal and physical humiliation. I also enjoy taking and being in pictures and/or videos.

I respect limits and use safe words during play. Mutual trust is an important aspect of BDSM for me. "Safe, sane and consensual" although I may push your limits ;)

I value honesty and open communication. I want to get to know you first over coffee or lunch (your treat, even though there will be no play). I enjoy talking about my kinks and yours, to share and discover what makes each other tick.

My hard limits are scat, urine, vomit, blood, knives, guns, and extreme violence (unless of course, you're a masochist who wants it that rough). I expect you to respect my limits and I will respect yours

Feel free to message me, but be respectful. I am here to meet people and make friends, but if I don't respond to your message, it means I am not interested (reasons for my lack of interest are most likely because you have a blank profile and no picture or because you think it's ok to hit on me without even a 'hello' first).

I am able to travel occasionally to other parts of the province and the Maritimes. I travel to NYC a couple of times a year as well. Friendships first (and possibly only) in any of these places.