DespoineReturns

Don't you just get so annoyed by those people who can't decide if they're in or out of this lifestyle? They're around for a few months or so and then decide to bail in favor of a 'normal' life. Constantly changing their usernames because - even though they deleted their profiles- the username they had is not available.

Well, I'm one of those people!

I used the name 'Despoine' a few years ago and decided to keep it upon returning. I missed this lifestyle, talking with others about kinks and fantasies, seeing the wonderful pictures and getting ideas for my own dominance, and meeting new people. It wasn't the first time I had left and come back, but I don't recall the previous usernames.

Despoine is a Greek goddess and her name means "mistress". That is my name and the only name I will give you. Please do not ask for my real name or for a face photo as I value my privacy and the privacy of those I play with. (Personally, revealing real names takes the fun and mystery out of it for me). You can call me Des for short. I also do not give out my phone number for texting. I am not a text-er.

What I like is learning new ideas for play, testing and pushing my own limits as well as the other person's. I enjoy bondage, cuffs and blindfolds, CBT, chastity and e-stim, spanking (although I prefer to flog/whip), and receiving massages or oral sex. Submission can be pleasurable for all parties when done right, with open and honest communication regarding likes and dislikes, along with limits.

Respect and trust are earned through talking first, playing later. In other words, don't expect to message me and have me set up a play-date before I even know you. BDSM relationships take time to build just like any other kind. There is a high level of trust needed on part of the Domme and sub before there can be play, in my opinion.

Limits are needles, knives, guns, extreme violence, rimming, golden showers, scat and blood. No exceptions.

Sex is not guaranteed and should never be expected to happen. I have been able to orgasm without it. The satisfaction I have gotten from controlling the e-stim, CBT, verbally humiliating while flogging have been enough to send me over the edge.

I mentioned before about privacy and I am also drug and disease free. I am straight but quite curious about having a woman please me. I think it would be a different kind of experience to dominate a woman. Especially a woman with long hair that I can pull back to force her submission.

I identify as Domme, Mistress, and Sadist. These are roles I play but not who I am on a day-to-day basis. I don't need to be addressed in any formal way, just be respectful.