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What does it take to be a good submissive?

The passage below will explain some very important tips for being the kind of submissive that any dominant would be proud to call his own.

Deciding to enter a relationship with a dominant is a decision that should not be taken lightly. You may have some doubt that you have a submissive personality, but that does not mean that you will automatically be a good submissive. Being a good submissive involves a certain mindset as well as the ability to discipline yourself.
1) Pick a good dominant. This will be your 1st and possibly the most important decision you will make upon deciding to embark upon a submissive lifestyle. This decision is ultimately yours. Nobody can force you into submission. You must go willingly, so choose wisely. No submissive will ever be better than the one you choose to be your dominant.
2) Know your limits. Think long and hard about what your limitations are physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. Write them down and share them with me. It is very important to share these with me before you decide to enter into such a relationship. Your limitations can make or break a relationship, and it is important to be upfront about them in the beginning.
3) Submitting means you truly give your all. This is something that many submissives fail to realize. Many believe it means giving only what you want to give or feel like giving. This is not true, though. true submission means going above and beyond...giving until it hurts. It does not mean giving all of yourself physically and then holding back the rest. A good dominant will want to know all about you...inside and out. Your feelings will be of the utmost importance to me. By giving your all, you will be enabling me with the tools that I will need to be a good dominant in your life.
4) You do not have to be perfect. Many submissives believe that unless they submit perfectly all of the time, they will not be appreciated by their dominant. The truth of the matter is that many dominants actually enjoy a submissive that is a bit bratty from time to time; because it gives me the perfect opportunity to put my power moves into play. Just as I enjoy this feeling of taking things and getting them back in control, so will the submissive. When a dominant shows his power, it makes you feel safe and loved.
5) Be open with me. Do not be afraid to share you innermost thoughts and feelings. I want to know. If you try and hide your feelings from me, I will eventually find out. If nothing else I will find out through little resentments that can build up. If you have a fear or are uncertain about something in the relationship, it is much better to bring it out so that we can discuss it and come to a resolution.
6) Say goodbye to jealousy. When you decide to enter into a dominant/submissive relationship, you must learn to say goodbye to outward expressions of jealousy. Nothing can kill such a relationship faster.
7) Obey your dominant. Nothing tells me you care more than this. Obeying me tells me that you are willing to do anything for me.
8) Realize that a dominant/submissive relationship is not about sex. It is about control. Many relationships involve no sex at all. Many are much more service oriented. This is a good thing to discuss before you decide to enter the relationship. Make sure it is the kind of dominant/submissive relationship that you are seeking
9) Respect your dominant. One thing that most dominants will not tolerate is disrespect. No matter what the issue, you must always approach your dominant in a respectful manner and tone. It is fine to disagree or question something, but do it with respect.
Being a submissive can be difficult, but it can also be very rewarding. By following these steps you will ensure that you are being the best submissive that your dominant will ever desire.
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