laidbackandcool

My xHamster journey began in 2013 when I was 15 years into a sexless marriage that was irreparably damaged, including 10+ years of separate bedrooms. Initially, my time on xham consisted exclusively of watching videos. In 2017, with the end of my marriage finally within sight, I registered the laidbackandcool profile and began chatting with women on here.

Between 2017-2022 I met quite a few women on xham. At one of the loneliest and most challenging times in my life, the women I met on here filled a void. Surprisingly, some of the relationships I formed on xham evolved into real life flings and I ended up either dating or hooking up with several of the women I met here. Like any other segment of the population, I met both good and bad human beings on this site. Some were genuinely kind, honest, real and had pure intentions. Unfortunately, others were completely fake, dishonest, cruel, scam artists and sought either financial gain or to hurt and cause pain to others (or both). It truly ran the gamut.

In 2020 I sold my company and in 2022 my divorce was finalized. I had worked hard during my career and had some fortuitous luck that led to long-term financial security. I decided that I needed a fresh start. I retired, moved to an exciting new city with beautiful weather and a vibrant social scene and I began building a new life from scratch. I discovered the dating apps, which are like xham chatting on steroids. I spent a few years enjoying the bachelor life, living in a gorgeous condo downtown, surrounded by hundreds of restaurants, bars and live music venues. There was a seemingly endless supply of sexy, hot (and usually much younger women) with whom to play. Life seemed simple and full of endless possibilities. Until something unexpected happened.

To my own amazement, I got bored hanging out with women 20-30 years younger than me. Don't get me wrong, the sex was amazing, but the conversations? Not so much. After years of rejection from my ex-wife, the carousel of young, 20-something women provided a much needed ego boost, but eventually I realized that none of the women I was spending time with satisfied my basic human need for an emotional connection, for real companionship. They simply provided physical companionship, which was fun and exciting for while, but somehow less meaningful over time.

A few years ago, I hit the reset button. I started by deleting all the "hook up" dating apps and kept one last legitimate "relationship finder" app. I became excruciatingly picky about who I asked out and even more selective about who I invited on a second date. Along the way, there were a handful of courtships that lasted for a few months, but weren't meant to last a lifetime. Just when I was on the verge of giving up and deleting that one last app, something unbelievable happened. I met the single most incredible woman I have ever known. And my life has not been the same ever since.

My girlfriend is unlike any woman I have ever met or dated. She's extraordinary in every way imaginable. She's extremely smart (way more intelligent than I am) and has been super successful (high C-Suite executive at a public company and financially independent). She is by far the most kind, sincere, loving, caring, nurturing, sexy, zero-drama, beautiful (inside and out) woman I have ever known. She takes incredible care of me and in turn I take care of her as well. A mere 10 years my junior, we love all the same things: attending live sporting events, classic rock and country music concerts and festivals, going to the theatre, dining out at the best restaurants or cooking our favorite meals, domestic and international travel and women...yes, on top of all this, she is also bi-sexual, and regularly brings a woman home with us from a fun night out. In our first two years together that has happened on several mind blowing, unforgettably memorable occasions. I love it when she does that.

As I sit here today, I can candidly say, for the first time ever, that I now know what true love feels like. What it means to love someone deeply and to be loved unconditionally and completely in return. A few months ago, she moved into my condo and we are currently looking to purchase two properties together; our "forever home" and a summer beach house. We are planning to get married either later this year or next. My entire family loves this woman and she treats them all as her own, as I do with her family. Even my ex wife adores her. I have never known a happiness like this. I didn't even know it was possible.

My exit from xhamster and my farewell address, therefore, comes at an absolute high point in my life. This site is no longer needed for videos or companionship and I will rarely if ever visit. If there is one thing I'd share after what has been a pretty intense personal, professional and spiritual journey these past 50-plus years, its this; All of the success in the world, having plenty of money, fancy cars, rockstar homes, none of it will bring you true happiness. Its the people and the relationships you invest in and build that give life true meaning and purpose. Finding the kind of life partner that you feel privileged to share every moment of your life with is indeed the most precious gift a person can receive. Thanks to the handful of you who are still reading this long and sorted tale and thanks to xhamster for being the bridge between my darkest days and my brightest moments. As I turn the page on this chapter of my life I will do so with two final words to one and all; "thank you".