So literally just a day back from a biased week of suspension, my profile again is under apparent suspension mode (this time my profile details are somehow violating the ToS [without specific mention of what that violation actually is, mind you]) and have been withheld from public view. How typical of the site!! SMH! I have no way to edit or correct any details of my description until April 26th, 2026. ..and again, not even knowing what's been violated in the first place. Smh! Meanwhile, I have several people blatantly badmouthing me on their profiles, without any such repercussion. A totally… 続きを読む

In summary, I have a detailed profile that explains from the start that I have zero interest to talk to, interact with or friend anyone new at all for any reason at all. In short, it pretty much tells everyone to basically piss off, due entirely to dealing with an endless parade of senseless idiots, rudeness, ignorance, laziness, trolling and so on for years on end. I've seriously had enough and gave up on literally everyone on here a few months back. Society is deplorable anymore, it's getting worse and worse and it's irreversible. You would think that by me publicly announcing my goodbyes, t… 続きを読む

This is a blog probably long over due. So, let's reminisce for a moment, as I walk you through history...and of a theory I have. First, a trip down memory lane to get to my point of "friend collectors"... As the phenomenon of "friend collecting" seems to get worse around here by the day, I often think back to the "good old days" of the internet that I grew up with, some 30 years ago, way back in the mid/late 90's through around the mid 00's (right before the time when smart phones began taking over). I think back to how the early internet was so new, so fresh, so exciting...almost even so nai… 続きを読む

I've been meaning to write up this blog, but honestly, I just kept forgetting to. Recently I was viewing comments on someone else's profile and came across someone who was supposedly laying out percentage statistics. According to these statistics, X percentage of people on here don't read profiles, X percentage are fakes, X percentage are content creators and X percentage are a mix of all kinds of things (including "stalking", according to them). It triggered my thoughts and reminded me about that whole thing...and so here I am finally writing about it. So yeah, for a long time now, I have oc… 続きを読む

On 1/27 and 1/28 I was having a lot of issues with this site not functioning properly. Yesterday (1/29) it seemed to be back in order again. My curiosity being, almost all of the senseless bullshit has come to a screeching halt ever since the site issues began....and by "senseless bullshit", I'm primarily speaking of the masses of all the usual idiots contacting me, all of the stupid 'friend requests', the trolls, etc... . I find it odd that since 1/27, the "normal" activity just abruptly stopped. That's not at all a complaint. I just find it odd. Anyone else noticing this, too? Anyone had rec… 続きを読む

Welcome to the newly revised version of the "AVOID members list. I have compiled a list of problematic members I have encountered, as a reference guide to help all of you ladies use precaution when deciding to interact with any of these members who may head your way. Additionally, I have listed each of these members with a numeric code from 1 to 10, which represents the severity of each member that's listed. (1) being on the low severity scale; (10) being on the high severity scale. Here's how I'm rating you: Examples: * If someone is listed as (1), that represents someone of low se… 続きを読む

Okay, so this isn't my first rodeo on here. Being on here for many years has taught me that there are a ton of shady and problematic members who will do everything in their power to try to lie, be insanely rude, retaliate, accuse, judge, delete comments, troll, cover-up testimony/feedback and so on. I have learned the hard way through a trial and error process just how to leave a peanut trail of proof and records behind, as to serve me I̲F̲ members become issues with me. Here's my suggestions from that experience in which I truly hope will help and benefit other females on here... L̲e̲s̲s̲o̲n… 続きを読む

I have broken the mold and have now decided to begin breaking one of my very own golden rules and pet peeves. Yes, people. You've heard correctly! I have now decided to begin blocking people. And let me clarify for a moment here. This doesn't mean that I'm suddenly going off the edge and will be going on a massive blocking spree. What it does mean is that I will now be selectively choosing to block extremely problematic people whom I have repeated issues with. People who are trolls or people with severe clinginess or persistence and repeated behavioral disorders. Think of it as the "thr… 続きを読む

It's become such a frustrating and time-wasting pattern anymore. Such a pet peeve of mine anymore that I'm led to write this blog over it. I've run across countless members on here who will... Example 1. First contact me in some foreign language, which I'll then reply and ask them to speak to me ONLY in English...which they'll then proceed to do. O̲R̲ Example 2. First contact me in English. Anyway, once we're both on the same page on speaking English, for no known or logical reason whatsoever, they'll begin replying in some foreign language other than English (Note: My profile clearly exp… 続きを読む

Yes, we've probably all seen it before. Some random guy who has been on the site for years tries to 'friend request' you. You know, run-of-the-mill bullshit and a totally blank profile. In turn, you head over to his profile and realize he's one of those typical "friend collectors" who has thousands of people already on his list. As per the usual, I'll reject his request and write a brief note on his wall to my reason. I'll scroll down his comment list on his wall, only to then discover how pristinely clean it appears to me. Hmmm, automatic red flags! For people with blank profiles and who are… 続きを読む

What's up with this damn site?? Long ago, when I created my account here...and ever since...I have created it under the sexual preference that I am "Heterosexual". That's even confirmed several other different times within my profile...even being "married to a man". Here's the issue I've been seeing lately. Mind you, I exclusively use a PC and the desktop version of this site and cannot vouch how a mobile version looks or operates. So, while on this site, in the upper left hand corner of my screen you'll see the xHamster name and logo. Directly next to that on the right, you'll find the sexua… 続きを読む

"Let's have sex!" or "Do you want to have sex with me?" So this is a common sort of statement and/or question that I often get asked by many people on here. Strangely, I'm finding most of these comments coming from those men who live in India, Egypt, Pakistan, Lebanon, Serbia and the like. Mind you, I live in northeastern United States. My profile clearly states several times that I'm taken, happily married and that I'm in no way interested in any in-person meets. But just to override those details for a moment, someone please explain to me the realistic logistics of this inquiry. Would any o… 続きを読む

Here's a common scenario: Someone contacts me in a PM or tries to 'friend request' me. In turn, I'll send them a kind note and ask them a few questions, just to be sure we're all on the same page right from the start. A day or two goes by, no reply back. I check into their profiles, only to see that this person is actively signing in and out of the site regularly. I'll start sending 'reminder' PM's to them, telling them I'm waiting for my prior PM questions to be answered. This cycle of "babysitting" usually goes on for days. If and when this person actually does reply, they act dumb to it all… 続きを読む

Here's a typical scenario for you all. You find yourself in some common argument with someone over what they've done wrong or something. It's usually this back and forth offline PM thing, since most of the people I deal with are usually overseas...or they're just typically not online during the very same time I'm here writing. There's friction and the other party gets heated. They'll get so fired up that they'll go on to ask you an offline question, but then strangely they'll simultaneously go on to block you. Ummm, okay! If you're going to block me, then why bother to ask me a question, if yo… 続きを読む

Why is this site suddenly being plagued with an influx of Indian men?? Within the last several months or so, my inbox is now being bombarded with idiotic men from India, who aren't reading my profile, asking questions that are already answered on my profile, acting totally rude to me, acting completely 1mmature, being totally persistent, talking trash, belittling me and trying to friend request me as their latest addition to their friend collections. I cannot tell you how many seem totally unrealistic, either! With me living in the northeast US and having a profile that tells them I'm happily… 続きを読む

We've all been there.. You go to reply back to someone on here and your message hits a brick wall when you press the send button, followed up by the dreaded notification that states: "We do not accept content that contains prohibited terms". And yet when you go out seeking some kind of actual list or source of what those so-called "prohibited terms" are on this site, no such information exists. Ugh! Try composing a small paragraph, being hit with a "We do not accept content that contains prohibited terms" restriction, then trying to determine which specific word(s) out of dozens of words you'v… 続きを読む

Member name: pumpher45 2/4/25 Dec 26, 2024 M̲e̲: Hi. Do I know you somehow? I'm just trying to figure out who you are or what's relevant per your friend request?14:32 M̲e̲: I must admit, there's a strange irony here. You expect people to not only read your own profile, but to follow the rules on it, too. Your profile begins by saying: "If you have no content of your OWN( NOT JUST WEB) DONT ask to be friends...". You expect other people to read and obey your profile, yet ironically, you don't even practice what you preach. * First, my profile contains no content of my own (besi… 続きを読む

Member name: Nabil7778 1/30/25 Sep 16, 2024 H̲i̲m̲: My cock is yours10:19 M̲e̲: I never asked for it. You might want to take the hint from your terrible past experiences and from unanimous advice given to you from everyone in this community and realize that your idiotic introduction strategy is a catastrophic failure, as well as your blank profile! Reading and cooperation will get you everywhere in life. Congratulations, you're now just another statistic who has made an immediate inductance into the site's Hall of Shame boards, groups, blacklists, comment columns and word of mo… 続きを読む

Member name: world9999 1/30/25 Dec 13, 2024 M̲e̲: Hi. Do I know you somehow? I'm just trying to figure out who you are or what's relevant, per your friend request, via my profile? H̲i̲m̲: This user blocked you. You are not allowed to send private messages to this user.… 続きを読む

Member name: smile4life88 1/30/25 Dec 2, 2024 M̲e̲: Hi. Do I know you somehow? I'm just trying to figure out who you are or what's relevant, per your friend request, via my profile?12:03 Dec 4, 2024 M̲e̲: Yes? No?13:42 Dec 7, 2024 M̲e̲: Still waiting...12:07 Dec 8, 2024 M̲e̲: Waiting yet...11:07 Dec 9, 2024 M̲e̲: Still waiting for you...09:59 Dec 10, 2024 M̲e̲: Last attempt (the sixth consecutive one). Do I know you somehow? I'm just trying to figure out who you are or what's relevant per your friend request? I'm still waiting for your reply.11:2… 続きを読む