I went into a cam room, and saw a status that said "tip 333 to be my knight." WHAT??? Are you serious??? What a bitch. Taking advantage of the moderator system so guys with small dicks can think they're important by tipping a lot of tokens to be a moderator? I don't want to be in a cam room with mods who tipped that much just to get a shield and think they're important. I also do not want to watch a cam model who places little true value on what a good moderator is. Responsibility is the obligation that accompanies great power. There were supposed to be rules and guidelines for being… 続きを読む

Several times, I have entered the cam room of a model who says they do interesting fetish play. I read their profile, I read their status, I watch to see what they are doing. Then I ask questions: how long will you do a private, will you do these specific things, etc. I do this in chat and via PM. No answer. I just talked to one of the models about this again in her chat room, and she gave me a cocky answer, "I only answer PMs when there is a reason." Really? I am trying to negotiate a long private, which means I will give you money, and that's not a reason? Maybe it's time to stop t… 続きを読む

In my recent essay, "How to piss off a cam model," I mentioned a kind of creature called "tip beggars." We will talk more about that. In any cam room, there are usually a few gold members and many basic users. Often, some of the basic users will say something like, "Somebody tip this girl!", or "I wish I could tip but my credit card melted", or "You gold members should tip", etc. For as long as there has been tipping in live cams, it has been considered very rude to tell people to tip if the basic user can't tip. This will really make the gold members mad and does not help the model eit… 続きを読む

A week ago, a new model sent me a PM saying that she doesn't want me in her room any more, because I come in and say nothing and don't tip and "act like a basic." I had to laugh. First, of all, basics are usually the ones saying ridiculous things and blasting out the chat room with noise. Second, I was not in her room that long. I went in to see what she was doing, and to see if there were any trolls or haters that needed to be reported. There are a lot of people in cam rooms who don't say anything. Let me quote from the xHamster FAQ for models: "1. Get tipped for your show Member… 続きを読む

I have been here well over three years, and in fact I am one of the original gold members. I have watched Live Cams evolve over that time, and seen a lot of the same patterns. One thing I don't understand is how a user can say the same thing over and over in different chat rooms, get banned every time, yet still keep doing it. Sure, there are trolls who do it on purpose and get off on being assholes; but I think a lot of these guys simply do it because they have no sense. It is likely that the people who need this essay the most won't read it, but I must try, because it is getting really s… 続きを読む

There have been many changes to Live Cams in the last few years, almost all of them unpopular. However, two of the most recent changes have produced the biggest uproar, as seen on the Suggestions forum. Every user I know, and 99% of the cam models I know, hate the changes. However, I've heard a few models defend the changes for various reasons. I would like to rebut those reasons. 1. "It's good that the users can't see each other, because now other models can't hang out in my room and pick off my gold members." Really? Let's look at several reasons why that doesn't make sense. First… 続きを読む

Hi friends, Petpony asked me to get together a live cam birthday party, just like we used to do in the good old days of xHamster. I'll open up a chat room as a "base of operations" and we'll also try to get Doll, Chinchilla, Violet, Lola, and many other classic cammers to come on for at least a little bit that night. Pony mentioned ice cream and cake, but I suspect we each need to get our own. :) PM me for further details. She's a special lady and I want her to enjoy her xHam friends on her birthday.… 続きを読む

Hi all! Well, the xHamster party in Tarrytown, NY, was a success. After a year of talking about it, we did it, despite the odds. I want to thank Mackson, beetredass345, BBWDoll, CokoKisses, xChinchilla, redder69, metatronatra, and Sunshine for making the effort to come. Sorry that EastCoastDarkness and SativaDiva had to bail at the last moment, but at least they were there in spirit during the live cams show. I want to thank xChinchilla for coming down on Friday night to spend some time with me, and for being a good sport and camming with me. I want to thank BBWDoll for rescuing xChinchi… 続きを読む

There is an epidemic on xHamster that needs to be cured. Maybe I am preaching to the choir here; I don't know if any of the people to whom this is directed will ever read it. But silence implies consent, and in this case we should not remain silent. Let's start with the cam rules. A lot of the more shrill and arrogant viewers are shocked when someone refers to the existence of rules. Surprise! Every cammer agrees to these rules when they start their show. People who say "it's her show, she can do what she wants" and similar ass-kissing drivel have no clue how the site works. The spac… 続きを読む

Hi all, There has been an epidemic of fake cammers lately -- either people showing videos, or in the case of a lot of the German girls, sitting there with no sound on, and sometimes advertising another website, and even with the chat turned off. If it's obviously a video, or someone camming so badly that you can't tell it's not a video, report it! Fifty people (or so) are needed to get a cam terminated. Don't just complain, take action, and keep xHamster a fun & fair place!… 続きを読む

Right now I'm taking a break from moving boxes for an emergency pest inspection tomorrow morning that the apartment management just announced yesterday afternoon. But that's trivia. I am still contemplating everything that's happened in the last 4 months and 10 days on xHamster. It is odd. Just as school is ending, a lot of cool people are leaving, or are planning to stop camming. I am going to miss the community of people I've come to know and our conversations. I know I keep saying this: but I am still amazed at how many delightful acquaintances I've made. Coming to xHamster is li… 続きを読む

I just finished listening to BigDickBandit89 play piano on Live Cams. Yes, this is a pr0n site. But I don't care. If there's anything I've learned in the last few months, anything can happen in Live Cams. And why am I here? I found xHamster by accident, while searching the Internet for my unique fetish tastes, and then realized it was a membership site. Shortly after becoming a member, I realized there were free live cams. So I explored them. I have been mainly house-bound for the last few months, working two jobs and taking a class. I needed to spend a lot of time working at the co… 続きを読む

I thought this was an appropriate quote to post at the moment. Those who know me will understand fully. It is part of the code by which I live, and by which we should all live. "I swore never to be silent whenever and wherever human beings endure suffering and humiliation. We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented." -- Elie Wiesel… 続きを読む

This post is aimed at the men and women who visit the Live Cam area and post in the chat rooms. * First and foremost, remember that the cam ladies are people. You know, people, like you. They have feelings and emotions, and they can even be shy or self-conscious about things. Yes, they're usually showing their bodies. However, that is no reason to call them a "bitch," a "whore," or any other foul name... unless they're into it (see next rule). I mean, really, would you walk up to girl in a bar and say "hey bitch show pussy"? I think not. So, unless you know it's okay to do… 続きを読む